- Heya playa, have you ever been blocked
on social media by your crush?
If you're watching this video,
I'm sure you have.
And you might be wondering why did they do it,
and what should you do about it?
Don't worry, you're not the first person
to experience this.
In this video, I'm going to share a few reasons
why you might've gotten blocked,
what you can do now that you are blocked,
and how to prevent yourself from getting blocked
again, in the future.
♪ This is Josh Speaks, watching Josh Speaks. ♪
Sometimes getting blocked can come out of nowhere.
You're messaging your crush on Snapchat,
you're checking out their stories,
and, bam, you can no longer see what they're posting.
Or you're DMing back and forth with your crush
on Instagram, you're like spamming all their photos,
then poof, you can't see anything anymore.
Why though?
Why did they block you?
Let's be honest here, their social media profiles
were probably your gateway into their lives,
so what gives?
While upfront you may not know exactly why they blocked you,
one of the most common reasons for people
blocking other people that they know
is that they just don't want them seeing
what they're posting.
Everyone has different levels
of openness on social media.
For your crush, they may just want
their close friends and people they like
to actually see what they're posting.
Wait a minute, does that mean they don't like you
or consider you to be a friend?
Well, no, it's a little bit more complicated than that.
They may actually feel a little
embarrassed knowing that other kids in their school
are seeing what they post, but they don't know
what you're thinking when you see their pictures.
As casual as a person may look,
or be posing in a picture, they may still feel insecure
about the response that picture gets.
So the safest thing for them to do is to block
everyone that they don't feel close with.
If this is the reason, their reaction
may be out of your hands completely.
But one of the main reasons why people get blocked
is because they send weird or creepy
messages to their crush.
You might be spamming them, you may be sending
them boring messages, or you might just be saying things
that, out of context, come off as weird.
I've talked in the past about crafting a conversation
that flows, but if you want to have a conversation
with your crush without it being weird and creepy,
the best thing to do is to message them
or comment on something that's relevant
to what they posted.
For example, if they post a picture
where they're hanging out in a cool place,
make a comment on that place, and ask them
a question related to that.
If they see that you're a curious person,
and you're interested in getting to know them better,
that might come off a lot better
than just DMing them over and over,
saying, "hey," "hey," "how are you?"
"hey," "do you like me?"
"I like you."
Another reason why your crush may
have blocked you is pretty straightforward.
They just don't know you that well.
Think about it, did you add them
out of the blue, without ever interacting
with them or talking to them in real life in some way?
They may sort of know you as someone in their school,
but if you never talk to them in person,
and you're super engaging on social media,
that could come off as kind of weird.
You may be sending mixed signals to your crush.
You're leaving them to wonder,
is this person interested in me?
How come they talk to me online,
but never talk to me in person?
And if those are the questions
on their mind, the easiest way
to put that confusion to rest
is to just block that person.
Now that's not to say just by messaging
them without ever talking to them,
you're automatically being creepy,
sometimes they may just block you out of nowhere.
You might be talking to them perfectly fine
one minute, and the all of a sudden you're blocked.
Most people in that situation might think
well, they blocked me because they clearly hate me
and they want nothing to do with me.
I guess that's that.
But that's not that, it's not even it.
So what I would recommend doing is
talking to them in person.
It's way easier to block someone
that remains voiceless, but
if you're interacting with them
day after day, you're painting a more human
perspective for them to view you in.
They now start to see that you're not
just a profile picture or a user name,
you're an actual person that they can
form a real life relationship with.
But let's say that you do talk to them
and they still have you blocked.
How do you kinda drop hints for them to,
you know, unblock you?
In those cases, I would just casually
bring up the app that you were blocked on.
You might say something like, "Hey, I don't
"remember if I'm following you on Snapchat
"or Instagram or Facebook, do you have me on there?
"If not, add me."
That way, you'd pretty much be getting across
the idea that you know they blocked you,
and you're hoping that they unblock you,
without directly saying, "So, why'd you block me?"
Or you might just want to straight up
ask them, "Hey why'd you block me?"
Sometimes the most direct route
gets you to the truth the fastest.
What do you think, though?
Have you ever been blocked by your crush
and what happened to cause them to block you?
Leave your comments below and we'll talk about it.
I know talking to them in person may seem scary,
especially if you've only ever talked to them
on the platform that they blocked you,
but talking to them in person is the next step for you.
Remember, your end goal shouldn't be to just
have casual conversations and avoid getting blocked
on Snapchat or Instagram, it should be
to develop something meaningful with your crush.
That's how you know you're on your road
to being your best self.
I want to help you get there guys,
and I know you can do it.
As always guys, love and peace.