one simple shift in the way that you think could change everything
stay tuned Damon here with a NLP Gym one simple mind shift that could change
your life if you haven't already please click subscribe to this YouTube channel
so you can get these videos on a regular basis your behavior is dictated by the
way that you think and the way that you think is not so much about why you think
what you think it's more about how you go about doing at the process of it and
where you put your focus of attention and it'll be we have something called
meta programs which is exactly that it's the direction in which you think it is
where you put your focus
there's been more than 50 coded meta programs but for the second this video
we're just going to talk about one so the most common that I come across and i
think it is probably we met you may have even come across this one in particular
it's often overlooked and that is toward or away from are you thinking in terms
of moving toward what you want or moving away from what you don't want that it
could be different from context to context it doesn't have to doesn't mean
that you're all are one all the time people who tend to think more toward
what they want rather than away from what they don't want tend to get what
they want more and it should be pretty obvious if not that's a little bit what
I'm going to go into right now when you focus on what you don't want your mind
will continue to regenerate what it is you're focusing on you might have heard
this already where you say okay don't think of the color blue
what do you think of you have to think of blue in order to know what I'm what
I'm telling you not to think of so when you're thinking of what you don't want
your in your focus is there you're going to likely create more of that when you
think of what you do want your likely more likely to move
that direction now here's the thing most people probably don't even know what
they want when I coach people almost every time I ask somebody this is my
first question is what do you want that is what hope is all about what do you
want if you don't want anything
don't be really can't help you when i ask clients
what do they want they usually start telling me exactly what they don't want
and then I'll rephrase the question or I'll say okay I know what you don't want
what do you want instead and sometimes we'll spend a whole session on that
because that's really the problem that's why they're stuck they don't even know
what they want if you don't even know what you want
good luck trying to find it go to a grocery store go grocery shopping and
focus on everything you don't want instead of what you do want to buy their
and when a clerk asked you if they can help you just go on and on about all the
stuff in the store that you don't want to buy and see how far that gets you
that you should be able to see little bit more what I'm talking about what we
do this we go through life and we're more focused on avoiding what we don't
want and we don't really have a plan of what we do want sometimes we say oh yeah
I know what I want lots of money are uh I want a new car a lot of times we don't
even know really what's that what that's all about
ok if you want more money what do you want to do with that money
what value would it serve you is it about security is it about you want a
new house you know gets specific about what it is you want that money to do
that that's the other problem people are usually very clear about what they want
it's good to know what you don't want
it's good to be aware of that but not to focus on it
the other thing too is sometimes we get what we want but because we're so
hardwired to think in terms of avoiding what we don't want
we immediately look at any negative part of getting what we want so say I want a
lot of money and end up getting a lot of money whatever that always presents a
new set of problems
anytime you get what you want and we'll do is usually is a downside usually is a
negative negative part of that it's unavoidable
and if you're conditioned to think and away from terms you will likely take
even something you want and focus on the thing apart about it that's not perfect
but that's a bit negative or something that you don't want and focus on trying
to get rid of that and in doing so you actually ruin what you've gotten you
actually can lose what you've gotten so you certainly won't enjoy the success
that you've gotten perfections can be like this i know . plenty of people they
succeed they do something incredible and you congratulate them on that and then
they want to tell you will all that went wrong or all that's not perfect about it
if you do for all those people stop right now change the way that you think
now sometimes I teach this and we will go yeah I've heard that before and then
but that's it it's like let's move on to the next thing
yes this is something that is very simple and there's a good chance you've
already heard this before but are you actually implementing it
that's the thing is people tell me do you have heard that before oh yeah i
know that already
what are they doing it most people aren't so yes it's simple
yes it's not really New you've likely heard it before
what are you doing something about it this is where self hypnosis can come in
or if you have someone who advertises you or even meditation can come in
you can give these instructions to your unconscious to interrupt this pattern of
thinking anytime you do this I try to just be more aware of when this is
happening when you find yourself engaging in this type of thinking and
interrupt that pattern and say okay I know what I'm well aware of what I don't
want what does it do that i do want and start training your mind to focus your
attention on what it is you do want I promise you this will change your life
it will make all the difference
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