This video is about "When They're Not Ready for a Relationship"
I'll explain what to do when this happens with the person you're dating or interested in
and when you want to take it to the next level...To find out more please stay tuned to this video!
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with BetterHelp! The link is in the description below! You've caught feelings, you have really
fallen for a specific person, you finish each other's sentences, you have the same ideals
morals, you get butterflies in your stomach, you feel happy when you see them, and you can't stop
thinking about them.... they're saying all the right things... you're doing all the right things together
and now you want to take things to the next stage...Perhaps you want to be exclusive... perhaps you want
to make them your official partner... you want to tell your friends your family about them
you want to shout it from the rooftops.... your heart is racing.... you've never had
such chemistry....you've never felt so connected to someone else! You either pop the question or the
very least suggest it, but then you're met with variations of the following = "I really like you
but I like things as they are right now...I'm not ready to commit to you right now
can't we just wait to see how things will pan out....I like you but i don't think I'm ready for a
serious relationship..." This is like a sucker punch you assumed and perhaps were led to believe
that you were both on the same page and now they inform you that they're not ready?
Maybe you asked this already and then you've asked it again six months later and you get the exact
same answer or a variation of the answer "I'm still not ready... I still need more time..." What is going on
here? Is it you? Is it them? What if they will never be ready? What if you're always asking them out
and it's been years and you're still not living together... you still haven't gone to that next stage
What if you're wasting your precious time with the wrong person? Let's explore this a little deeper...
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Perhaps you've run before you can walk with this person... you've gone all in on them and it's only
been a week...I once knew a couple who became official after 10 days of seeing each other
however they're very much in love and are married with kids... so there's always going to be exceptions
but at the same time what if you are genuinely coming across needy? How well do you know them? Yes
they're attractive... they make you happy but that question rings true how well do you know them?
Here are some questions, let's see if you know the answers to them =
Do you know your partner's least favorite task around the house? Can you describe their philosophy
of life? Do you precisely know where your partner likes to be touched? Do you know how many times
they like to be intimate with you? Do you know three places your partner would love to visit?
Can you name all your partners best friends? Do you know what your partner is most insecure about?
Do you know what scent or smell your partner likes most? What is their favorite movie or song?
What are they most proud of? What superpower would your partner wish to have?
What food do they love more than anything? Can you list the relatives your partner can't stand?
Do you know what your partner wanted to be when they grew up? What do they like most about
their career? What's their favorite dessert? What's their favorite color? You may assume
or find these questions a bit strange, bit childish or intuitive, in some of them but that is the
entire point here.... why do you want to force or rush into something when you hardly know that person?
When you hardly know what makes them tick? When you hardly know what their real intentions are?
beyond the physical... beyond just what they say... the deeper stuff... take some time with these questions
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When they're not ready for a relationship there could be an abundance of personal reasons
behind it... maybe they just came out of something serious... breakups are relative but most people
have a grieving period... maybe they just want to have fun and they've really had
a lot of stress from their breakup, moving home divorce, separation, they need time to get back into
the swing of things and a new lifestyle... no matter how incredible you are to them... maybe they're going
for a hard time, I lost my dad a few years ago and I tried to do dating to distract me but I was not
in the right headspace to do so...I tried to be open to dating but emotionally I was not there
Are they going for a difficult time right now? How is their mental health?
Perhaps they are too preoccupied with heavy stuff to focus on dating you exclusively... it's possible
that they might be very immature and emotionally unavailable... this is more them than you again... there
was once a woman who rejected a relationship with me because she wanted me to chase her constantly
and constantly give her validation. I walked away and as a result she was devastated to no longer
have me interested in her....Sometimes people are just immature and are not ready to make that
next step and just want all the benefits of a relationship without the commitment
Perhaps they're playing hot and cold....maybe you're getting mixed signals, you have no idea where you
stand... they regularly ghost you or fail to turn up it's a constant push and pull... you have no
idea where you stand...Now if that's the case with the toxic person and they're a difficult person
then just walk away! You do not want a relationship with a toxic person! Count it as a blessing if they
are making excuses and they're actually giving you that warning sign and your instincts are saying
to you "actually I don't feel comfortable, I don't feel happy" trust it, move on, take it as a blessing...
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videos....I'm going to assume you've asked them out and been left dazed and confused and an emotional
wreck ...so what do you do? Well here's what not to do when they tell you they're not ready... the last
thing you want to do is actively keep asking them and then keep getting rejected. For example if you
just carry on as you are, you obviously like them more than they like you, you want more than they do
you're not in alignment... you're not on the same page and therefore resentment builds! A guy was
seeing a woman for quite some time, they had great chemistry, they got on well and it looked promising
between them... however he asked her out and she said "I'm not ready" he begrudgingly agreed to take
things slow...A few weeks later he asked her out again to which she said "sorry I'm still not ready"
even more frustrated and annoyed he carried on seeing her, they still hung
out and had a lot of fun. Six months later he turned to her and asked her out again
the response was "I'm still going to need more time." He got angry and lost this cool "what else have I
got to do to make you want to be with me? I've been patient, understanding, I'm very frustrated!"
She admitted she liked seeing him casually but she could never see him in a serious relationship
at all, thus wasting months of his life seeing a woman with no progression, on top of that
parking his feelings to one side because every time he would tell her how she would make him
feel and show affection and so on it would always get dismissed! Resentment will build, you will get
annoyed, you will get really frustrated because your emotions are strong for them as they deny
you and a relationship blossoming every time you want to get closer....Be more vulnerable
share more, open up more, it just gets dismissed... So if bowing to their wishes playing the long
game is not the answer, what do you do take control and the lead? I'll assume you're a healthy genuine
person that wants the best for yourself and the relationship? If that's the case recognize your
worth.... you have a lot to offer someone and know that you need to choose someone that chooses you
Here's a message you can send feel free to edit it it's very ballsy but it's like this = "I'm here
to date. I'm looking for a meaningful relationship I have a lot to offer and if you're not looking
for that I'll find it elsewhere. If you need space and time to figure out exactly what you want go
and do what you need to do, but I'm also not going to wait around until you get your life together. I
will not be exclusive nor put my life on hold for somebody who does not feel the same way about me
and want the same things." Be willing to walk if they're not ready for a relationship with you
they do not see you as worthy or good enough. It's their loss... be willing to walk away and let them
get on with their own lives. Some people need to be reminded you will not be taken advantage of
or taken for granted. You are a good person with value and if for whatever reason they
can't see it or don't want to it's a shame... a shame for them not youm because at least
you know where you stand, and can take control on where you want to be moving forward...