Hi there this is clay and it's December now and so obviously the holidays are coming up
Christmas, all that stuff. And for a lot of people, at least here in the Western world,
this can be really big time, a really difficult time when it comes to knowing what to do about
your breakup, about how to handle your ex and specifically about how to handle active,
no contact, which is what we teach inside our program, the ex solution program. And
one of our members the other day asked us what we should do, what they should do about active,
no contact during the holiday season. So here's kind of the general idea and that is that,
you know, it's, it's okay to contact your ex and just say something like, Hey, I hope
you're having a Merry Christmas or something like that, but, you know, I wouldn't go beyond that.
I wouldn't try to do anything beyond that. Definitely. Don't try to directly engage with
them if you're still doing the whole active, no contact thing. If they reach out to you,
it's okay for you to respond. If you feel ready, if you feel okay, emotionally ready to do that,
I don't want you to feel like you have to, if you know, you still feel like you're walking
on eggshells or anything like that but, but yeah, but if you do feel ready to respond to them, it's
okay. Just go ahead and say, you know, thanks. I hope you're having a Merry Christmas too,
or something like that. Generally I wouldn't recommend getting them a present. You know,
if you're still doing the no contact thing, if the two of you were like talking and things are
going well, and you're like about to get back together or something like that, that's cool.
That's totally fine but, but other than that, I don't think you necessarily owe it to them
to do that and buying them a present. Isn't gonna really have the effect that probably
I'm guessing a lot of people are hoping that it will and that's that it will prove that,
that you still love them prove that you're a good person and all that. So generally don't
get them a present, unless the two of you are already talking if you're already on good terms,
as far as anything else about the holidays, you know, I know that this is going to be
a difficult time for a lot of people. I know that a lot of people have a lot of
sentimental attachments to the holidays, regardless of your religious beliefs or
anything like that, a lot of us grow up celebrating Christmas or other holidays.
And, you know, even if you don't necessarily, observe those religions anymore, a lot of times
we just have this, this sort of holiday culture sort of ingrained into us and
it brings up this feeling of sentimentality or nostalgia. And, I know that you might be
feeling bad during this time of the year, because you know, you may have to explain
why there's an empty seat next to you at the family gathering. Or you may have to,
remember about things that happened year when you were still together with that person and I
just want you to know that, you're not necessarily alone, no matter how lonely you may be out there,
you always have us. All you have to do is just send us a message through, through the website
relationshipinnergame.com and we make a point to respond to every single message that's sent in.
So all you have to do is just send us a message over there. And, we will get back to you, within
probably one or two business days, depending on, you know, the volume and all that. But, you know,
you don't have to be alone during all of this. I know it's difficult, but if you'll let us,
we'll be here by your side during all of this. So thank you. And if you'd like to learn more
about how we can help you, get through the difficult holiday times ahead and handle
your ex during this breakup, please just go ahead and go to relationshipinnergame.com.
Thanks.