By the end of this video,
I'm going to give you five ways to trick a narcissist and
I'm saving the best one till the end.
So, make sure you stay tuned.
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So, in this video, by the end of this video,
you're going to have five ways to trick narcissists,
Are you ready? Let's go.
They want to trigger you,
that is their goal, that’s their mission and
why do they want you to take their bait?
Because they get narcissistic supply from that,
that is their food, that is their oxygen,
that is what they live for, that is what they feed on.
And if you don't take their bait,
then you're like tricking them, okay?
And by the way, they're very easily tricked,
because they are very simple to figure out.
Yes, they're horrible and heinous to deal with,
but they're very, very simple.
They all are like wired the same way,
because they're like rats in a maze,
they go for the same thing all the time.
What do they want?
They want that narcissistic supply.
So, just don't take their bait, okay?
That's what they want you to do and
if you don't take their bait, there you go.
Here's something that you can so easily do and
it will actually start you down the path of getting some great leverage.
That will totally throw them off,
especially if you are dealing with them in a negotiation setting and
this is something I call narcissistic decoying,
Just say, “Hey, what do you think about this?”
They love that and it gets them talking and
you start to figure out where they’re going with this,
what are they’re thinking on this and
it gives you an opportunity to say I'm thinking about this and
I'm thinking this is what I really, really want in this.
Make sure you tell them it's something you don't actually want,
because if they think you want a certain thing,
they're going to want to make sure you don't get that thing,
especially if they're trying to get a certain amount of supply from you,
because they enjoy watching you squirm and intimidate you,
remember they get supply from that.
So, ask their opinion on things.
That's number two. We're almost halfway there.
Give them adulation.
Use this trick in order for you to get something that you want.
I call this bartering, Narcissistic bartering.
So, you fluff up their ego a little bit,
to get a little something of what you want.
I call it “Fluff for favor, vomit later”.
I know, because you feel like vomiting later,
but you get a little something of what you want,
you give them a little something of what they want,
you each get a little something-something.
Narcissistic bartering, you fluff up their ego a little bit.
So, flatter them shamelessly,
it's a way to trick the narcissists.
Flatter them a little bit, you get a little something of what you want,
it's a way to trick the narcissist.
So, that is number three.
Little bit of narcissistic fluffing to trick them into
getting a little something of what you want.
All right, number four.
This is what happens when sometimes,
when the relationship starts to breakdown, right?
Is they may come back, they start hoovering you,
they may start wanting to have little conversations with you,
they may start love bombing you again,
they may start trying to beat you again and
I definitely see this sometimes,
back when I was still practicing law,
I would definitely see this in divorce situations
when they didn't want you to get a lawyer,
where they wanted to get you away from somebody else
that was going to potentially have control over you.
What would happen is, they would say,
“Oh, you don’t need a lawyer, we could work this out,
let’s get over to Starbucks or whatever,
We can do this”.
Because they would want to get potentially an agreement,
that would be much more favorable to them,
get a person to sign or whatever.
But, get them back into you having a more favorable agreement in your direction,
while they're in that little like “amorous” fase, okay?
It's a way to ethically manipulate the manipulator,
use that to your advantage and for more on that,
check out my video on ways to manipulate a narcissist.
How to ethically manipulate the manipulator.
I just say if they're going to do it,
use that to your advantage as well.
Sometimes it's really, really hard,
but, one of the things that I say all the time is,
just expect them to be who they are.
Don't be shocked when they act like a narcissist,
because that's who they are.
Don't say, “Oh my gosh, I can't believe they lied”.
Really? You can't?
Like, aren't they liars?
So, be shocked if they tell the truth,
be shocked when they act normal,
be shocked when they interact as a reasonable person,
but, don't be shocked when they act like a narcissist.
The bottom line here, just from an attorney’s perspective,
for those of you who are dealing with a narcissist in a negotiation setting,
whether it's a business setting,
you're dealing with a boss, a colleague, an employee,
whatever it is.
I just want to say, please,
save your best leverage for when you're ready to spring it on them,
as far as dealing with them and ways to trick a narcissist,
you really want to make sure that you think
you got to keep that plastic smile on,
make them think that you're still bunnies and best friends,
until you are ready to use that best leverage.
Let them think you're still all happy, good,
that is all good and happy until you're ready to use that leverage.
More on that in my S.L.A.Y program,
where I teach you actual negotiation skills and
if you are getting ready to negotiate and
you're thinking that's going to be happening,
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