I feel like in pop culture there's a phrase about the perfect 10. In fact,
there's even a movie called the perfect 10 about a woman who is so beautiful. We always
talk about getting our 10. Guys always seem to rate women on a scale so they can
tell the guy that they're talking to how pretty he thinks that this woman is. We're obsessed
with getting a perfect 10. Here's the truth and here's the reality to getting a perfect 10.
I also want to hit some key points here that I think are going to help you. Don't be too deterred
by the thing I'm about to tell you. If you want to get a perfect 10, you have to be a perfect 10.
This is something I heard from a coach a long time ago. A dating coach who's no longer around.
Who no longer teaches, I should say. But he told me, and this stuck with me, if you want to get a
10, you have to be a 10. A woman who has a 10 is looking for a 10. If you want to look at,
let's say the typical 10, the Victoria's Secret model who is known to all as some of the most
beautiful women in the world... what kind of guy is she going to be with? Is she going to
be with a guy who's an average Joe? Or is she going to be with a guy who is probably famous,
probably an athlete, probably extremely rich, also extremely good looking super confident.
She'll probably be with that guy. So you have to become a guy who is attractive on the outside, or
I call this outer qualities, and on the inside, I call these your inner qualities or your behaviors
in order to attract a very beautiful woman. Here's the thing is that I've noticed that the scale
of beauty for many guys seems to be very different. Yes I know, we can all agree that
maybe a Victoria's Secret model is a 10. But I found that guys who are meeting women, guys who I
coach specifically, will say I met this beautiful woman. She's amazing. She's like a 9 or a 10.
And I go "great!". And they send me a picture of her and I look at the picture and I go huh,
ok. I wouldn't think that's a 9 or a 10. But to them it is. I've been talking to my friends and
we have some pretty drastically different thoughts on what we think is attractive. What do they say,
beauty is in the eye of the beholder. It really is true. There's a lot of variation here. I say this
to let you know that don't worry, you can still attract the kind of woman that you think is going
to be beautiful. However, you still need to be upping your game on the inner qualities
and the outer qualities. I also think we put way too much emphasis and power into the beauty
of a woman physically. I'm not saying that you shouldn't be with a beautiful woman. Absolutely.
All I'm saying is I think it's overrated to be with a woman who is all looks and nothing else.
Sometimes you might meet a woman who is a 7 or an 8 physically, but when you're hanging out with
her, when you're getting to know her, when you have a connection with her, she starts to up her
digits a little bit. She starts to become higher in your eyes of attraction. Don't underestimate
the power of connecting with a woman and being with a woman beyond just her looks. Again, not
saying you should be or settle with any woman that you're not physically attracted to. You should be,
but make sure that you're not just only looking at physical beauty. Let's break down a little bit
more out qualities and inner qualities. Because we are talking about how do you get "a perfect
10". I put that in quotes because your perfect 10 is gonna be different than my perfect 10 and
so on and so forth. But how do you get that woman? It all breaks down to inner qualities,
outer qualities, or we can say your behaviors, inner qualities, and your looks and appearance and
lifestyle which is the outer qualities. We need to maximize both. We always need to maximize both. I
go really deep into this topic in my book Magnetic which you can check out on Amazon. I'll put a link
down below. But I wanted to give you some stuff to use right now that you can take away with this.
But just know that if you want to go deeper into this topic, that is available in my book
where I have full chapters on outer qualities and inner qualities. Let's go over them right
now. Inner qualities and behavior... the way you act, your charisma, your confidence, the way that
you talk to a woman, the way that you present yourself. Like you're looking at me right now,
close your eyes for a second and focus on what I'm saying to you and the way that I'm talking to you.
Don't focus on what I look like but the way that I'm speaking to you. This would be behavior,
but also your body language and things like that, that is part of your behavior as well in the way
that you were speaking to a woman and able to build attraction with her. A lot of guys are
very nervous, unconfident men because they don't have a lot of situations that women that they put
themselves in. They don't put themselves out there. They don't go and talk to enough women,
they don't give themselves availability to go on a lot of first dates with women so it's hard to
build that confidence and competence if you're not putting yourself out there. To get better at this,
to be more comfortable in front of women, and be a better conversationalist in front of women,
you have to be putting yourself out there and talking to as many women
as possible. You cannot be the wallflower. I was a wallflower for many years of my life
always being reactive and not proactive. Meaning letting things happen to me. Hopefully there would
be a perfect moment when I'd be in front of the girl that I liked to talk to where it just worked
out a and it was serendipitous. It just happened by chance and the perfect moment... and of course
when did that ever happen? I don't know maybe one time where it finally happened and then...
was I even good at talking to her and building attraction? No I wasn't. Get rid of all those
notions. Be more proactive and focus on putting yourself in front of women. Even if you have to
talk to as many women as possible and you have times where you get rejected over and over.
That's just part of the game. Get in there and do it. Let's talk about outer qualities.
I don't talk about that a lot on my channel. I think one of the reasons why I don't is because
whenever I try to, a lot of guys don't seem to take to it as much because I haven't talked about
it that much in the past. But it is important and you have to learn it. Again more deeper
in my book Magnetic but let's go over the 4 Step Attraction Amplifier, the 4 things that are part
of your outer qualities. Your wealth, your health, your lifestyle, and your appearance. These are the
things that make up your outer qualities that will start to make you a more attractive person
over time. Wealth, that's having money, money in the bank, you're investing, you are having a
career that you love that's making you money, you're able to support yourself financially.
These are things that sometimes take many years to build. That's why some guys don't get into their
prime until their early to mid 30's, sometimes sooner. That's something to be worked on.
Your health, always making sure that you're in the best shape possible. Even me, I've been a
skinny guy for many, many years and it's taken me many years to get even to this degree. If you look
at me, you probably still think I'm skinny but if you go back 5 years ago and look at videos,
you'll be like wow Tripp gained like 30 pounds, which is something I did. It takes time but it's
something to be worked on as well. Making sure that you are fit, that you're healthy,
that you're eating the right foods, all of that. That is health. Next is lifestyle. Do
you have hobbies? Do you have friends? Do you travel? Are you interested in new experiences?
What is your life made up of? What are you doing with your life? What are you doing with your time,
your lifestyle? You should be doing fun and interesting things. Not to attract women but
things are interesting to you. What happens is you become a more attractive person. Make sure
you're building things in your lifestyle. We're talking about outer qualities here. And then your
appearance. General things like haircut, beard, or completely shaved if you can't grow a beard.
Are you wearing the clothes that make you look your best. Are you wearing fitted clothes? There's
a saying that goes fit over fashion, which means just focus on clothes that fit you rather than
trying to be super stylish because that's going to make you look good and it's a lot easier to do.
To summarize here, we're talking about finding and attracting your perfect 10. We're talking
about your inner qualities, your behaviors, and your outer qualities which are the 4 things that
I talked about. Wealth, health, lifestyle, and appearance. These are all the things that make up
how you're going to be your most attractive self and things that you build over time. If you focus
on all this, you will be able to meet a woman who's going to be your 10 and the higher you get
on all these ladders, you will be able to attract again more attractive women but like I said,
just because they're attractive and maybe even famous... like would you love to be
dating and sleeping with a woman who's a famous celebrity and super hot. But is it worth all the
drama it comes with? Maybe not. Something to think about. Get my Magnetic book. It's down
in the description below if you like reading and you want to have an physical copy or there's the
Kindle or audio version where you can learn more about all the techniques and systems
that are talked about on all these videos. Hope that helps and I'll see you on the next video.