or did you even know that narcissist live double lives?
By the end of this video,
you're gonna know all about the double lives of narcissist.
So stay tuned.
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Okay. So let's talk about that
double life of narcissist.
Well, the thing is that even
though they act like they are super powerful
and they're constantly puffing themselves
up and they want you to think that they're smarter than you,
better than you that they act entitled.
It really is just an act.
The bottom line is that they are actually way
more afraid of you than you are of them.
They are actually the most scared little creatures on the planet.
You know, how old Billy Joel song,
You Know, The Stranger.
We all have that face that we hide away forever.
Take them out and show ourselves when everyone is gone.
I think he was actually talking about the narcissist.
I don't know, kind of showing my age when I talk about that song but honestly,
that's kind of what it is.
They they've got this hidden face.
They've kind of split into two.
They were traumatized as a child.
Something happened to them where,
you know, they decided that the world was a really scary place.
They decided that the world is a place of survival
and it's a me and everybody else world.
They live in this world of their own,
this world of survival
and that's why they don't have any empathy
for anyone else because it's kind of like this oxygen thing,
you know, the airplane is going down and I have to put my mask on
and if I don't put my mask on, I'm not going to survive
and I don't think they think about it consciously.
I'm sure that they don't.
It's so embedded subconsciously.
But like, even the smallest things,
the tiniest things, you know, if they give at all,
then they don't have and somehow they they won't be seen,
they won't be heard, you know, all human beings have this need to feel seen heard
and know that they matter,
but people who are secure in themselves,
people who know that they matter,
who have that internal knowing that they matter.
They know that they're seen, they know that they're heard,
they have that feeling so they don't need that
constant seeking that they don't have
that desperate need to be seen
and heard and that desperate need to be have admiration
and adulation from the outside world constantly
and it's not just admiration and adulation.
It's also this desperate need to
be better than and and control.
That is the what I call the dark underbelly
and that desperate need all of
that feeding feeding feeding feeding.
That's called Supply, that Supply is their oxygen.
It's their lifeblood. It's their food.
It's what they feed on and there is a dark hole.
A black hole that can never be fed.
That is what they never want you to know.
So they have this double life. There's this scared little creature inside
and then there's this other facade and I mean
they never want you to see the scared little person underneath
and by the way, I have a whole video on how narcissist react to
exposure which you should definitely check out
and also, by the way, this is the whole key
to how to negotiate powerfully with narcissist
and this is the whole key to my slay methodology
which is strategy leveraged anticipating
and focusing on you
and should I teach the self-centeredness
is what drives them to exploit people.
It's what drives them to use people.
It's what drives them to create this because they don't want to be seen as failures.
They create this persona.
They want to be seen as winners.
They have these two separate lives
this public life where they want to be seen
as the winner of the best with the right people,
the prestigious friends and all that
and they spend a whole lot of time energy
and capital to be seen as that person
and by the way, if you know that what I'm saying is right.
Give me a for sure in the comments
or comment below what you've seen of
the double lives, right?
Because, you know when it all comes apart.
When the wheels fall off.
how horrible it can be right?
That narcissistic injury gets triggered.
That narcissistic rage comes flying out
and you know,
they hate rejection.
That's the worst of it.
You know, that's their worst fear.
They're very easily slighted.
They're actually terrified of abandonment.
They'll do anything to keep people around.
They're actually very very deeply insecure people out there.
Their worst core.
They certainly don't want people to see
their flaws and their shortcomings.
They want people to see them as special mean.
That's their the double lives that they
that they lead and so that's why they need these double lives
because they really are at their core.
They feel very awful about themselves.
I often think of it as like The Wizard of Oz, right?
So, you know, like the little man behind the curtain.
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