Hi, I'm Nicholeen Peck and I teach all over the world about parenting, good communication,
family relationships all through the lens of self government. And in this video,
I'm going to be talking about the four allegiances and why you do what you do.
Did you know that you might be having an allegiance that you didn't want to have? What
is allegiance? Let's talk about that. Let's also talk about the four different allegiances that a
person could have, and why that's so powerful in our lives. Have you ever wondered why you keep
making the same behavior choice again and again, when you knew you didn't want to do it? Well, it
could actually be because you're having the wrong allegiance at the time, you may not even know
that. Think of some of the things that you might do. You might say, I am not going to eat sugar,
and then you do or you might say, I am going to wake up early in the morning and exercise and then
you don't, why does that happen? I am not going to judge people anymore and then I judge someone. Ah,
why do we do stuff like that? It's because there are actually multiple different allegiances. And
we can choose who we want to follow at any given time. So let's talk about allegiance, and what
that really means. Allegiance is what you honor, right? It's like who you honor or what you honor.
Think of if you're a patriotic person, I know I'm from the United States. So we pledge allegiance to
the flag, right? We put our hand over our heart, symbolic of our love and respect and honor of our
country and then we pledge allegiance to our country. We say we will do certain things. This
is who we are as a person who's part of this country. So when you have allegiance is you
choosing to follow a particular idea, voice, person, concept, country, you know, maybe
Hollywood star, you know, you can have allegiance to all kinds of things. But generally speaking,
there are only four allegiances. So the basically are four things, or people that you can follow,
even though everyone on YouTube is creating a following. And people on Instagram and all the
social medias, want you to follow them and buy the products that they like, at the end
of the day they are just agents for one of four allegiances. They have an allegiance and they're
hoping they can convince you to have the same allegiance that they have. And you know what,
that's what I'm trying to do, too. I'm hoping that if I tell you about the four allegiances, and you
see which one is my favorite, that you will like that allegiance to and that somehow it might
speak to your heart, and you decide, you know, I think that that's the allegiance that's mine,
too, and I better more deliberately follow it. I definitely believe in being deliberate. But if you
don't know your options, or the full information, you can't be deliberate. So I think a lot of
people end up showing allegiance or following people that they actually did not plan to follow
or did not want to follow. Maybe they had a moment of weakness, or they just didn't have a deliberate
plan. But if you know who could be followed, then hopefully you'll make a better plan. So
let's talk about those allegiances now. So let's talk about these four different allegiances.
I'm going to make some quadrants on my board of the four different types of allegiance that
a person could have. Number one allegiance that a person could have is they could have an allegiance
to good, or goodness. You can even say God because it actually comes from the root word, God. Okay?
So if you're a religious person, that's where you're gonna go. The word good actually means God-
like, is what it means. So if I ever released an allegiance to doing good things, or trying to be a
good person, then ultimately I'm trying to be who I think I ought to be because of God. Okay? And
so that's where the goodness comes from. Now, I guess we could have a social standard on goodness.
And then when we pull away from God, actually, and we just have society here as the God, that kind of
changes things a little bit and you'll see as we talk about the other allegiances, so really true
goodness should end up pointing back to God that's an allegiance that people have. Okay, when
a person has an allegiance to God, then that means they think in their mind, what would God do? Okay?
And then am I doing what God would do? Okay, are my actions in alignment? And they also are
going to be thinking on a regular basis. So we'll say, What do I do? And then they're going to think
to themselves, how should I change? So here's three questions. And there's probably others. But
those are three main things. This is the process. What would God do? Wait, what do I do? How should
I make a change so that I'm in better alignment with God or with goodness, that's going to be the
first allegiance that a person would have. And just so you know, it happens to be my favorite
allegiance if you haven't already understood that. But this allegiance is the one that leads you away
from just your own selfish desires where the other allegiances can trap you in selfish desire.
So let's talk a little bit about those other allegiances. Before we talk about the other three
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notified when new videos come out. So let's take a brief second and talk about self government. I
said at the beginning of this video that I teach parenting through the lens of self government.
So what in the world does that mean? That means that a person possesses a knowledge of the cause
and effect of any given situation, and then has a knowledge of their own behaviors so that they
can control them. That means that they understand cause and effect and they understand themselves.
So they say who ought I to be? Oh, there we go. pointing right back at goodness again, who
ought I to be? And then what do I do? Huh? How am I need to make a change? So do you
see how the principle of self government actually brings people back to an allegiance to goodness,
that's how you know, that's my allegiance. That's the one I'm hoping and praying that you'll pick,
but let's talk about the other allegiances to so that you know your options. Allegiance number two
is an allegiance to evil or bad. Now, most people do not have an allegiance to evil or bad. Okay?
All the time. I mean, this would not be a very constant. If you're arguing with someone and
you're like, I will win, I will dominate, they will feel pain. You know, I want retribution,
you know, or vindication, okay, at that moment, you are not doing a good thing, okay? You are
at that moment trying to do something bad to somebody else. And you could have an allegiance
at that moment to doing the bad thing. I do have a concern about this. I feel like it's on the rise.
As I've been noticing watching people around me a lot of young people getting into a lot of dark
things. Okay. I mean, when we're talking evil, here, we're talking about the opposite of God,
right? So there's darkness versus light right there. There's a lot of people getting into dark
things. I've noticed as I've met with families and with youth around the world that there are a lot
of young people who are really getting trapped in dark ideas. They are feeling like they want to
pretend to the darkness be the darkness, they want to get into it, experiment with it. And there's
even a lot of people who are kind of getting out of their heads like they're having psychological
problems because they're getting into dark. A very interesting thing that can happen. So
what does a person who has an allegiance to evil or bad think, okay, or what types of questions
might they ask? Well, they're probably not going to be asking as many questions. They're going to
be making statements. Statements, like, how do I get what I want? They might ask a question. Like,
how do I dominate other people? So they might talk about domination, they might make statements
such as everyone is bad anyway, they might say there is no bad, there is no evil, okay?
Without opposites is anything ever good? Like we got to, we got to ask ourselves that. I mean,
I'm a pretty logical person. A lot of deductive reasoning going on in my head. Anytime somebody
says to me, there is no bad there is no evil then I say will then there is no good, right? And
if there's no dark, how can there be even light? Right? Is there even such thing as dark and light
or are we all in some just like brainwashed state? No, I don't think so. I think there definitely
is opposites. I think there's a ton of proof to that. There's hard and soft and dark and light,
and good and bad. And so whenever somebody tries to convince you of an untruth, that there is no
bad, then you know that at that point, they actually want to be able to do any bad and
not have it called that. Why would you not want to call it that? If there's no bad, why do you care?
Right? Some people actually even do relish in being the bad or the evil. But I would say those
people are very rare. I would say there's not very many people who've sold their souls to the devil,
okay, or whatever it is. I mean, that's going to be the more off chance. But people can get
trapped in this because of their emotions, and their feelings of hatred toward other
people are toward their circumstances. So when you're in this case, this situation right here,
you're definitely selfish and not grateful. And by the way, I should say that I learned
all of this actually from a philosopher, his name was Oliver DeMille. I happen to be at an
event where I was listening to him speak. And he started talking about allegiances. And how
there could be these four different allegiances. And I went, holy cow, he has really zeroed in on
something here and the more and more I studied, I remembered those allegiances. And I thought, Oh,
that's true, that person has an allegiance to bad or that person has an allegiance to good,
or one of the other allegiances. And so that was something that ended up being in the back of my
head and I realized the power of who we follow, whoever we have an allegiance to, whether it's
good or bad, or some of these others over here at that actually dictates our purpose in life.
It's huge. It's huge. So I'll be grateful for Oliver DeMille for coming up with
or I shouldn't say coming up with but recognizing these allegiances. So let's talk about allegiance
number three. So the third allegiance that a person might have is an allegiance to self,
an allegiance to self. Okay. So this means that you really care a lot about your feelings,
how do I feel is going to be one of your questions that you're going to ask on a regular basis. How
do I feel? Okay, how can I feel better, right? And who can make me feel better? Or what can make me
feel better? So these feelings, just really we get very preoccupied with the feelings. But there's
also what do I want? Okay. What do I want is also going to be a big question that we're going to ask
as well, you know what do I get? Okay, we could say get over here. Also, what do I get? Okay.
So there's a bit of entitlement here. Okay, that comes with- oops, that was a bad circle.
But anyway, a bit of entitlement that comes with this self focus. So if you have an allegiance
to yourself, and you're constantly trying to do things for yourself, when you look at the
situation, you're gonna dish yourself the biggest piece of cake and give everybody else the others,
okay? That's when you have an allegiance to self. And there's a lot of different examples that we
could use right there to explain that and I'm sure you're thinking right now, ah, a person might have
an allegiance to self, that person might have an allegiance to self. It's very easy to see
those types of people are also are oftentimes very draining to be around because everything is about
that. Let's talk about allegiance. Number four, allegiance number four, is an allegiance to others.
Allegiance to others. Now, there are some people, I would say that actually in this day and age,
I see less of this. Probably in past generations, you might see more people with an allegiance to
others. And it seems like that could be a very charitable thing. But let me just tell you why
this is also a bent allegiance that you don't want to get into. Now, if you're going to be
doing service for somebody, and you're going to do it because it's the good thing to do and because
you value that person, because over here, we have principles, and values and all that kind of stuff.
And a principle is that every person is valuable. So you're going to serve them, then that's an
allegiance to God. But if you're going to serve other people, because when they feel a certain
way that makes you feel a certain way, then that's an allegiance to others. So there are some people
who who are like well, you know, I only know I'm a good person if other people are happy,
right? So I'm going to help that other person be happy, I'm going to do everything I can to
make them happy,, to give them what they want, I'm going to hopefully make it so that I can control
them. So this is a way to control other people's happiness. So you might ask a question like, how
do I control another person or how do I make another person do whatever it is?
Or how does that other person feel? So you might say, how do they feel. And then a lot of
people who have an allegiance to others, what they do is they mirror feelings. So they assume if
that other person feels good, and happy that they can feel good and happy. But if that other person
does not feel good and happy, then they can't feel good and happy. So there's a lot of mirroring that
goes on with this allegiance to others as well. So that's, in a nutshell, the four allegiances that
a person might have, let's see here, the power of the allegiance to good, and the allegiance to God,
because this is the only one that really isn't consumed with what the other person gets. So
you can almost say that all three of these are an allegiance to bad because they all
point back to what I get. What am I going to get out of it, they all have a selfish bent to them,
this person wants to feel good so they want to make everyone else feel good, so that they feel
good. This person just really wants all their feelings to be made better by somebody else,
they just want someone to come in and fix it, you know, these two would be good to combination for
each other, right? But in the end, this is all about self and about I too.
So the only one that's not about I and about self and what I get out of it isn't allegiance to good
and allegiance to God because this one is saying Wait, who ought I to be, now the self is willing
to make a change. This is the only one where a person makes a change, really changes them self.
Everything else is passive. Everything else is passive. This one is your assertive,
active allegiance. It's pretty powerful, isn't it? If you've liked learning about allegiances,
I know you are going to love a lot more about self government. So you can go to my website
teachingselfgovernment.com. On that website, I've got articles and videos, classes and books,
things that you can learn more about controlling yourself, strengthening your relationships,
and making it so that you can better live according to the allegiance that you want
to if you have an allegiance to good in your family, and if you can help your whole family
understand allegiances and have allegiance to good, then you will have increased family unity
that you might need some skills to help you pull off the problem solving even though that's your
allegiance because if your problem solving skills aren't where they need to be, then you can end up
falling into an allegiance to self, others or even bad. So make sure to get the help you need, go to
teachingselfgovernment.com today.