"Sorry, I have a boyfriend".
"I have a boyfriend".
"I'm married".
"I have a boyfriend".
Tripp Kramer here from www.Trippadvice.com.
You've probably heard that before, haven't you?
Well, you've only heard it if you're going out and you're talking to girls, which you
should be so hopefully you're going out there in your approach again using all the wonderful
tips and techniques that I give you on these videos.
And if you are, you're going to be hearing "sorry, I have a boyfriend".
Why does this happen?
Well, there's two reasons: one, duh, she has a boyfriend, right?
Or she is married, she has someone.
So she is telling you the truth.
And I know sometimes it stings right like you're talking to a girl for so long and you
think you're getting along great and then she goes "oh sorry, I have a boyfriend" and
you can tell she's telling the truth, right?
Sucks, you feel like you've just wasted your time.
First of all, let me just let you know you've not wasted your time because any interaction
with women, any practice you can get in socializing, is good time spent.
Now, on the other hand, of course the other option is, she's completely lying because
that is the easiest way to reject a guy and get him to go away very fast; for them just
to say sorry have a boyfriend, even though they don't really have a boyfriend.
What are your best strategies to avoid this?
Well, of course you're not going to avoid it if she does have a boyfriend.
And if she's just saying it to you because you know, she's not really interested.
Usually she's saying it pretty fast and the interaction, usually, OK.
That means that you know once you guys are talking and you're hitting on her and
she gets it she's going to say that. This is her defense mechanism.
This is her knowing maybe she's already not attracted to you or she's just very uncomfortable
because this is a girl who doesn't get hit on very much or she's just very shy.
In order to combat this, the best thing you could do is not flirt with her too soon
in the interaction.
This is just one strategy.
You don't have to do that, you can flirt with her right away but you might be
flirting too hard core which is going to put her guard up and then she's going to be
like, "Oh, no, no, no, I have a boyfriend." Because she hasn't had time to get to
know you.
Women need that time.
Women don't get turned on as fast as men do.
Men make that decision much quicker if they're attracted to a girl.
With women they need to see your personality.
They need to get to know you, they need to trust you they need to feel that you have
the masculine qualities that they're attracted to which takes more time.
You need to be going into conversation and spending more time with her.
Now here's the gamble I was talking about.
The gamble is that maybe you're going to be talking to a girl not hitting on her, it can
be a friendly conversation at the bar, on the sidewalk or wherever and then she's still
going to hit you with it because she actually has a boyfriend, right?
That is the gamble but like I said not big gamble because you're still getting that
socializing practice in.
But again her defense mechanisms go up when she's getting hit on hard core too fast, generally
speaking.
Maybe, an idea here is when you start conversation with a girl don't go up to her
and hit on her right away.
Don't start off the compliment, don't start off by saying "oh you look really cute,
I wanted to say hi, you look beautiful today" or anything that's going to make her feel like
"hey, this is a guy who's hitting on her".
So her defense mechanism goes down.
She enters a conversation with you a little bit easier and then gets time to know you,
realizes your cool dude, then finally when you ask her out, she's not going to lie to
you with the boyfriend line.
Now, I have another solution for you.
Sometimes a girl will say to you, maybe halfway through because you know, she knows that you're
hitting on her a little bit, that she has a boyfriend.
But again, she's lying because she's just not sure about you yet.
What you can do is continue talking to her.
Just because a girl says she has a boyfriend, doesn't mean you have to run away.
If you're talking her for 30 minutes and she has a boyfriend, she probably does.
But if you're only talking about 5 to 10 minutes and she says she has a boyfriend, maybe she's
just putting her defense up, so you talk to her longer, right?
Back to my idea here and this concept of her getting to know you and your personality.
Talk to her longer and then ask her out or ask her out again if you've just tried and
got rejected with the boyfriend line and say "you don't have a boyfriend, come on, you
and I were hanging out and she's like "no, no, I really have a boyfriend".
Well then she does because sometimes, she'll say the other thing. She'll say "no
you're right, I lied.
I don't know boyfriend but I just, you know, I didn't know you that well and yada yada".
That can happen and it has happened.
Try one more time, if you guys have only been talking for a little bit and she slams
that line on you.
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Hope this helped.
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