Why The No Contact Rule Works On Your EX! Stick around to the end of this video
as I'll explain why this powerful rule will work to your advantage on your ex!
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For whatever reason and however it's happened to you and your partner have now split up... you're no
longer together... you're possibly separated...maybe you've gotten divorced... it's a sad thing. Perhaps
you poured your very best years, blood sweat and tears, emotions into the relationship, marriage
Maybe you've got a home together, a business, a family, loads of mutual friends... a life
All of that has now disappeared as you've broken up or perhaps you walked away from them
Whether they were toxic or just not right for you anymore... walking away is always the best
option on your ex, as is the no contact rule. What is the no contact rule? The no
contact rule is where you don't call, text or message an ex in any way after the breakup
In 2019 personally I walked away from a toxic relationship.... I went and remained no contact
with her. In 2021 I and another ex mutually split as she moved away to be closer to family... I went
and remained no contact with her. What's my point? No contact can be applied to everyone and anyone
irrespective of the circumstances, reasons and scenarios. Will no contact get your ex back? If
that is your sole intention this video is not for you. I mean yes no contact will make you attractive
more mysterious for sure, but I'm not here to sell you dreams, I'm not recording this to sell you a
fantasy or a lie either. I'm here to tell you the cold hard truth, and the truth is no contact works
on your ex making them want you back, miss you too but more importantly than that it works on making
you deal with your ex far better than talking and communicating with them anymore. That's how
powerful and good the no contact rule is! So here is why there no contact rule works on your ex!
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I strongly believe in mourning, grieving healing and recovering after a breakup
but with the intention eventually to always move on. After I walked away from my toxic
relationship a few years back I was a mess. I was emotionally drained, physically tired, I had no
energy, no enthusiasm, I had nothing to look forward to... nothing I wanted to do... I was a mess! I genuinely
at the time saw no way that I'd be able to forget my ex even though she was toxic and I didn't see
how I was going to get on with my life... that's why I had to go no contact with the toxic person!
Now had I not done so... toxic people have a very clever way of manipulating you into buying into
their thinking and their behaviors... therefore when you're at your weakest, when you're missing them
when your self-esteem is on the floor... that's when they pounce! With an emotional text or a random
meet up or phone call and you answer because you've convinced yourself in your head "I still
love them or I still need to talk to them" It's all part of the grieving process... then one thing
leads to another and either you're back together in bed or you're in a full-blown relationship
giving it another try! Tthat's why no contact is vital to prevent this happening with a toxic
person by staying and remaining no contact... you've got a far better chance of moving on
I had two ex's recently... one toxic... one not toxic and I managed to move on a little quicker and healthier
by going no contact with both of them. So if you want a good healthy relationship, if you
want to actually be happy again, if you want a far better chance at finding genuine love
that stands the test of time = go no contact with your ex and remain no contact as well. By doing
that you'll move on quicker doing so... might take a couple of months still but you'll move on quicker
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There's no easy way to grieve a loss of any kind, but with no contact it softens the blow
massively and breaks the cycle. Again by doing so you don't have to deal with the emotional
turmoil of an ex toxic or not and that's a huge weight off your shoulders and less stress trust me!
Lisa broke up with her partner of several years because he kept cheating on her
Enough was truly enough for her but she foolishly didn't go no contact with him
She kept his number and his Instagram and all his other details... she still loved him and wanted
updates... wanted to hear from him... wanted to know what was going on despite not being together
This prolonged the process of their breakup, this made things last longer than they should have done
and every few weeks they'd meet up, maybe fool around and then have an argument, only for again
at another weak moment one of them to reach out to the other and they'd be back in the same cycle!
Where's the growth? Where are the lessons learned? They're not there. Friends of Lisa stop taking
her seriously as she remained almost trauma bonded to her toxic ex. "How do I break free?!" she asked her
friends. "Delete his number!!" they said "Block him! Go no contact!" Finally after wasting an entire year on
the wrong person, Lisa went no contact and remained no contact. She broke the cycle! No more late
night booty calls, no more falling into traps or manipulation or feeling sorry for herself... it was
done finally! If you want to break of the maddening cycle you find yourself in with your ex for good
then you need to go no contact! Apply the no contact rule today! Finally! Finito! Get it done!
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This is a very double-sided point = on the one hand it's nice to hear from an ex that they
love you, want you and need you... but at the same time maturely and truthfully if you
want to move on and let go you shouldn't listen or care what they've got to say
I remember once hearing from an ex a few weeks after we split up... it was a cold miserable night
and I was walking home alone and then I looked at my phone and saw a message from this ex. We hadn't
seen or spoken to each other in a long time... it read like so = "I can't stop thinking about you... I'm
miserable... everything reminds me of you... I hate this...I Need You Now!" In that moment I had an ego boost
I was stressed before, tired, lonely and somewhere out there there was a woman that wanted me. I
smiled at the text and then proceeded to press the block button and delete the message entirely
The sentiment was nice but that's not my goal... sometimes we can often catch ourselves doubting
and questioning the previous relationship = "Maybe I could have been a better partner....Perhaps if I
just did things differently... I should have tried more doing things in a different way....Maybe I'm
the problem...Maybe I'm the issue" But then when that text comes through after you've presumably gone no
contact it almost reinforces that you're not the problem! You couldn't have done things better... they
were the problem... they never appreciated you... they were too stupid, naive, foolish, immature
They were not willing to understand you... they were not willing to do the work... you will never
be good enough for the wrong person and that is what your ex is unfortunately. This is the cold
hard truth that no contact actually brings out in people... your ex was the wrong person for you
Now regardless of how you broke up maybe you broke up with them then with you or it was mutual
Whenever it happens if you go no contact you're in the driving seat! You are the captain of your fate
the master of your destiny! How you wish to proceed moving forward is up to you totally and how you
wish to take control is up to you as well. Now I suggest remaining no contact as you move forward
Jemima got dumped by her boyfriend has he just wanted to have fun "I want to sleep around!
I want to be with lots of women and enjoy myself" he said. She was devastated and begrudgingly
accepted breaking up but following that she told him "never speak to me again!"
She deleted his number. Unsurprisingly a few months later he got in touch with her
She ignored him... he showed up to her house, same thing... then a few years later he did it again
Then over 10 years later he begged for her back. Jemima ignored him, got married and has a family
with another man now. She moved on and never responded or spoke to that ex of hers ever again
"He may have dumped me and hurt me" she said "but I regained control by never allowing
him in and contacting him ever again or never allowing him a space in my life!"
Well done to her! You're in control... take control... take the steering wheel and drive how things and
your life should and want to be without your ex in it, and do so by applying the no contact rule!