improvement pill here today we're going
to talk about skill that can quite
literally change your life the ability
to bend reality I want you to consider a
hypothetical situation okay you're in a
car driving to work and someone cuts
right in front of you right before you
make a turn so you think to yourself and
what an people in this city
they're selfish and arrogant and you
feel yourself getting angrier and
angrier and guess what you spend the
rest of your commute to work thinking
about things you shoulda coulda what is
said for that driver but what if in that
car was a single mother her daughter of
only eight years old
little Diane is in the backseat
struggling to breathe see Diane was born
with a pre-existing lung condition she's
having another serious asthma attack and
her mom is rushing her to the hospital
praying while she drives that she makes
it in time if you knew this information
while you were cut off by that car how
would you feel what you still be angry
is Diane's mom still selfish and
arrogant now I want you to consider
another hypothetical situation so let's
say you decide to embark on a
self-development journey
congratulations you've mustered up the
courage to go out and work on your
social skills good for you you walk down
the street and you see an attractive
girl and you say to yourself okay okay I
can do this you muster up the courage
you take the leap and you approach her
hi my name is and before you even get to
say your name she ignores you and walks
right past you most guys in this
scenario would react by thinking oh it's
because I'm not good-looking enough or
oh it's my ethnicity it's my skin color
it's my height and they immediately go
home and they promised themselves
they'll never talk to another woman
again
because what's the point they were born
with imperfections and they'll never get
a woman for love them the world is just
an unfair place on the other hand when a
girl ignores me and walks away which has
happened countless times before the
first thought of my mind is well she's
probably having a bad day or oh she
looks really busy she must have an
appointment and the interesting thing
about this is that you'll never know for
sure what was actually going on with
Diane's mom or what was going on in
Jane's head when she ignored you I mean
unless you somehow managed to sit them
down and interview them you'll never
find out what just happened to them
our ago what happened with their family
that morning what happened in school
just the other day so in cases like this
you decide what the reality is is there
a chance Diane's mom was actually an
and cut you off for no reason
absolutely but was there also a chance
that she was just trying to get Diane to
the hospital you bet it's up to you
which reality you choose to live in and
that reality becomes the reality you
live in wait what or your body quite
literally ends up reacting to it if you
dog Jane ignored you because of your
height well your self-esteem would have
dropped instantly and you lose all of
the motivation and all that courage you
managed to muster up that day you would
have dragged yourself home mope around
and probably stuffed yourself with junk
food and watched Netflix until you
passed out what if Jane ignored you
because she was running late to her job
interview after being unemployed for an
entire year well that's a whole
different scenario isn't it your
self-esteem isn't on line for that
reality you wouldn't lose nearly as much
motivation so as this video title states
this is how you bend reality you simply
choose whatever story you want to live
in I don't know about you but I prefer
to choose the story that doesn't make me
feel like crap an important thing to
keep in mind is that you have to be wary
of living in realities that are
completely false let's say for example
all of the girls you're approaching are
slapping you they're calling you a creep
and they're calling the cops
chances are it's not because all of them
had bad days it's probably because
you're doing something wrong maybe it's
because you haven't showered in like a
month so keep in mind that you should
only bend the reality of stories are
open to interpretation which honestly
makes up an overwhelmingly large amount
of the stories we tell ourselves if you
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