Believe me,
there are ways that you already have defeated the narcissist and
I'm going to tell you what they are in this video.
Hey there, I'm Rebecca Zung.
I'm an attorney, also a narcissist negotiation expert and
in these videos, and on this channel,
I teach you the ways to escape the narcissist,
to shift that dynamic with the narcissists.
I've helped millions of people through this channel and
thousands of people through my law practice,
I've written two best-selling books,
“Negotiate like you M.A.T.T.E.R” and
“Breaking Free, a step-by- step to divorce guide” and
I want to help you too.
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Okay, so there are actually ways that
you have already started defeating the narcissists.
I know you don't think there are,
but I'm going to tell you that there are ways that
you've already started defeating the narcissist,
believe it or not and
there are signs that you have.
So, stay tuned and make sure you stay till the end,
because I want you to start noticing the signs
as you start progressing all the way to the end,
when you start looking back and
you know that they're in your rear-view mirror.
I've helped people escape,
so I want to help you too.
They start off with the love-bombing,
then into devalue and then, they go into the discard phase.
They have like these three phases and
this is by the way, their pattern,
whether they’re in a business relationship, or romantic relationship,
I mean, it doesn't matter who they are,
they’re really one-trick ponies,
they have like one set of ways of going about things and
so, it doesn't matter who you are,
they are how they are,
because they feel like that black hole of emptiness inside of them,
they really are trying to fill that emptiness,
they're like vultures looking around, looking around,
where's the best source of supply,
you were the one they found to fill that source of supply and
I always say this and if you're new to my channel,
you may not have heard me say this before,
but they didn't attach themselves to you,
because you had so little value;
they attached themselves to you because you had so much value.
They started devaluing you right away,
but they attached themselves to you,
because you had so much value.
So, they came on super strong and they wanted you to suffer,
they wanted you to suffer and
they wanted to get you under that control.
But, what are you doing here?
You’re getting educated, you’re getting enlightened,
you're figuring it out.
So, you're already starting to defeat them
because you're figuring it out.
That's number one.
They wanted you to suffer, but you’re getting educated instead,
your eyes are getting more opened every single day.
The fact that you have access to channels like this,
that you have access to education like this,
you now know what's happening.
So, that's one way you've already started defeating the narcissist.
That's the number one way you've already started defeating the narcissist,
and by the way, of course,
I’m saving the best one till the end,
so you gotta stay till the end.
Get everybody lined up against you,
make you think that you're totally alone.
They used words like, “Everybody else thinks this”,
“Nobody else thinks that”,
by the way,
I have a whole video on the narcissists’ favorite catchphrases,
which you should definitely check out.
What are you doing here?
You are finding a community of people,
if you want to know more about a community people,
if you don't have a support system,
definitely check out my free private Facebook group,
“Narcissist Negotiators with Rebecca Zung”,
totally free.
There are so many people in there supporting each other.
That's one way that you can get started.
And by the way, if you want to get more education,
I didn’t mention this in number one,
but you can get my free “Crush my negotiation” prep worksheet,
at winmynegotiation.com,
you can definitely do that and
if you are struggling, and you don't have access to help,
or you need access to a mental health system, or online therapy,
I have a partnership with BetterHelp.
We receive commissions on anybody who goes and gets their help,
it doesn't change your price and
we only endorse services that we trust.
So, please don't sit out there alone,
please go get the help that you need.
So, that is something that you can do,
Just do it.
So, that's number two, they wanted you to be isolated,
but you're out here, finding a community and
there are ways to find that community.
Or when you start to get those emails,
or when you start to see how their behaving,
because you recognize that it's just them being themselves.
Then, you are getting better,
you are starting to defeat that narcissist,
when you're no longer as emotional,
when you're no longer as triggered,
because you're able to start seeing it as them being a narcissist,
when you're starting to turn it as you observing,
then, you're starting to defeat that narcissist.
That is one really huge way,
a really huge sign that you're starting to defeat that narcissist,
when you're starting to see it through the lens of an observer,
because you're noticing,
“You know what? I'm not going to take this personally,
because I see them for who they are” and
one book by the way, that I highly recommend everybody,
is “The Four Agreements”.
It's Four Agreements that you make with yourself and
one of the agreements is,
you never take anything personally,
because how people treat other people,
it's always a direct reflection of the way they feel about themselves.
They're like, “Oh, I'm so powerful” and
“I'm this, I’m that, and the other thing” and
you're starting to see that weak, false self that lives inside of them,
you're seeing that to side the two sides of them and
by the way, I have a whole video on that exact topic,
which you should definitely check out.
They're just another person on the street.
By the way, I have a whole video,
it's called, “This is the only type of person a narcissist respects”,
I highly recommend that you check out that video as well.
So, those are the 5 ways you've already defeated the narcissist,
I know that you are at least at the first couple of steps,
because you're here,
you're already watching this video,
you're getting the education,
you're already starting the process,
so kudos to you,
give yourself a huge pat on the back for being here.
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So, thanks for being here, and remember,
never give in, never give up,
because you can beat the narcissist,
you absolutely can shift that dynamic
when it comes to narcissists.
They’re actually the weaker one,
they don't want you to know that, but they are.
Remember, they're the worst right before they're ready to give up.
I can totally help you with them, that's why I'm here.
I've helped thousands of thousands of people,
I can definitely help you too.
All right, so Namaslay.
I will see you in the next video.