- They get boyfriends. - Okay, so let's look at it. You need a boyfriend - is that true?
No.
So how do you react when you think the thought "I need a boyfriend", and you don't have one?
I feel lonely and left out. All my friends do, which doesn't make a difference because I'm not my friends.
- And... - If you were thinner, you would have a boyfriend...
... can you absolutely know that that's true?
No.
Does that thought bring peace or stress into your life - "I need a boyfriend"?
Definitely stress.
And how do you live when you believe that and you encounter a male?
I get really scared. I don't know really what to do. I end up with the whole self-violence thing again.
Yes, honey. So who would you be meeting some gorgeous man,
without the thought "I need a partner", "I need a boyfriend"?
Who would you be meeting that hunk without your story?
I'd probably be really laid-back and cool, I guess...
- Yes - ... an enjoyable person to be around.
- Yeah! You would be your own perfect mate, and they would be a bonus! - Yeah.
Yeah. Isn't that what you really want? Just to meet the world just kicked-back, comfortable, relaxed...
- It does sound much better. - You know, you're the mate you've been waiting for, you've been looking for.
So "I need a boyfriend" - turn it around.
I don't need a boyfriend?
Ah! Bingo! Reality. How do I know I don't need one? I don't have one.
Without the thought, can you imagine... without - like the thought can come in when you question it,
cause thoughts aren't gonna stop. I came to see until I met my thoughts with unconditional love,
I cannot meet you with unconditional love, because you're gonna say what I haven't dealt with yet.
So I try to shut my thoughts down, meditate them down, medicate them down,
try to shut them and credit card them down, food them down, alcohol them down... let's see.
Try to do all of that, and here they come, here they come, here they come.
So I'm left with all of the effects, and the thoughts are still here.
So when I question them, it's a wonderful thing, it's like unconditional love,
so now you can say anything, you can say anything and you cannot be my enemy, because
you can only say what I have thought and the world has thought; there are no new stressful thoughts.
So there's only, you know, that's why I say, you know, you're the love of your life.
Work with this, it leaves self-love.
But to live in the world with "I don't need a partner", you know the turnaround,
is to be open to every human being, cat, dog, and tree.
- Okay. - Yeah.
Also, it leaves you open for every male in your life, and when one says,
"Oh, you are a gorgeous babe", you don't have to marry them...
... you know, just because they have been, they have flattered you.
And if you do enough, if you question your mind, you do enough Work, they may say, "You're a gorgeous babe,"
you could say, "Well, yeah!"
You noticed? I notice.
Yeah, but you can think it to yourself, "Now here's a wise man."
Not everyone is that wise in this world. Are you? And that's the point.
- Let's look at the next one. - Okay, uhm...