Why do we instantly like or dislike a person we meet?
Does that ever happen to you?
Sometimes you feel a connection.
You get a good vibe, but other times it feels like an unknown force pushes you away.
Is it our mind or body that determines this feelin?
Well, there are different answers to that.
One common understanding is that our behaviors are affected by our subconscious mind.
So we tend to avoid some people subconsciously.
This generally works in our favor.
We read the other person’s body language without actively paying attention.
We link mean behaviors with past experiences and get away before getting hurt.
EMOTIONAL DAMAGE (the famous video/voice that’s on Instagram).
Your spider senses might be right about a person.
You got that person’s real deal.
In school, there are some people everyone likes.
You see that they are all fake and acting.
Just need to wait for others to see too.
When they do, you’ll have the satisfaction of saying, “I told you so.”
Hmmm, nope, don’t say it.
Because arrogant and bossy people do not get likes (referring to social media likes).
Yes, you do, warned them.
Believe me, they all remember it.
No need to say this out loud now.
So “ways to make people like you more” number 1 -and perhaps the most important one;
Don’t be an aa-nnoying person (we cannot say an ass* but we can maybe act like we were
about to :))). Uhh (sighs)…
There are some times that you wish people liked you more?
You know, not just your friends and family but the people you met.
Maybe you talk too much to compensate for this desire.
Don’t get me wrong talkative people are liked by others.
The important thing here is not to talk about yourself all the time.
“I have done this, I have done that, I was with blah blah..” how can the other person
relate to you?
It’s about connection.
Soo, here it comes; number 2: No one loves a chatterbox that only talks about themselves.
Ask others how they are doing?
Imagine you meet a childhood friend.
He non-stop spoke about his new school.
You are in a hurry.
Looking at your phone to check the time.
You don’t even make it secretly.
You literally look around for a lifeboat to save you.
To sum up, read the room, bro!
You can be that person easily if caught up with your cool stories.
It would have been lit if you two were chilling in a park.
Talk more, not less but not just about yourself.
The other person might also have a comic book collection, but you may never find out unless
you let her TALK.
When they start talking about deeper stuff, don’t just say, “I understand how you
feel.”
Seems harmless, right?
Subconsciously it is again about you.
Instead of saying this directly, you can kinda summarise or like paraphrase the other person’s
sentences.
So you feel frustrated, and a bit annoyed, right?
Hmm hmm, like this.
The next tip will be “truly care” (number 3).
Haha, I know these kinds of bonuses are a bit cheesy because you watch these videos
to get a few suggestions.
But honestly, if you set aside your own interests and ambitions for a while and help others,
it will pay off.
Moving on to the kind of people you want to yell “you don’t know everything” to
their faces.
They don't get liked because they seem to know all the right answers, they push their
own ways and techniques.
They act in aaaaa umm how to say controlling attitude.
Do you ever work with a bossy or snob friend in a group assignment?
Not very likable, huh?.
Okay, till now, we mainly talked about how to not be an unlikeable person.
Let’s continue with more accessible tips being liked.
Here is the easiest way to make people like you more; compliment them.
If you think they have a cool cap, just say “it is dope, bro!”
A study says that people tend to perform better at exercises after being complimented.
Even non-verbal cues such as nodding and smiling can be encouraging.
Speaking of smiling, go for the laugh.
It’s hard to not like a jokester.
Usually, the most-liked people are those that can fill a room with laughter.
Sense of humor changes from one to another.
It might not be your nature to joke around, and that’s also okay.
Just make sure you are ready to see the humor in something, and when you do, just give it
a go.
Be someone who can laugh easily and smile often.
But umm, not in a creepy way.
Maybe you tried to be a joke machine after watching this video, but no one laughed at
your joke.
You repeated again.
Realized that they heard you, but they didn't laugh.
You laugh at yourself and make a joke about this situation.
This can make everyone relaxed and laugh!
As you can guess, the following way is admitting your weaknesses.
Channel your inner social jiujitsu.
Come on!
Let’s be honest; there is still plenty of stuff that makes you embarrassed.
You clumsily spill coke onto your crush's white dress.
Or I don't know, someone saw you when your pants were down!
Just crack a joke before they do.
Teasing with yourself would give the message that you are an outgıing and carefree person.
I meeaannn make jokes but don’t sabotage yourself.
Don’t overdo it.
Otherwise people would think a few marbles are missing.
Oh, and I assure you, you don’t want to joke around about other people until you know
them well enough to have that right.
Imagine you make a joke about a cat, and that person’s cat has just been run away.
You got yourself a sad person.