- How do you deal with burnout in your career?
Do you feel like sometimes that you are overwhelmed
by very simple tasks, or no matter
how much you sleep, how much you rest,
you still feel exhausted by the end of the day?
Or maybe you are just emotionally shut down
and you don't know how to deal with all these things
and all the tasks that are in front of you.
What inspired me to create this particular video
for you today is because recently,
I had a dear friend of mine who experienced burnout.
I mean, very devastating, very serious burnout
that she could not actually physically move
and do very simple things.
And it took her weeks and weeks
just to get a little bit better, to turn the corner.
And I thought to myself, hmm,
I wonder how many people experience this issue
and also what are some of the things
that I do in my career, in my life,
to deal with overwhelm and overcome some of these issues.
So I'm not telling you what you should do,
I'm simply sharing with you what I do.
So first, let's define burnout exactly.
What is the definition of a burnout?
I believe the definition of burnout is a state
of mental and physical exhaustion,
while leaving you feeling at rock bottom,
feeling alone, or unable to cope.
That's a burnout.
So why do we experience burnout?
Because if you don't know why we experience it,
it's very difficult to solve this particular problem.
Now what I notice is in my own business career,
in the beginning, it is very easy for me
to experience overwhelm, experience burnout,
that by the end of the day, I just felt drained.
I felt like the life sucked out of me.
And it would be very, very difficult
and even though I was very driven,
I could push through, but I felt tired all the time
and wasn't sure why, why do I feel that way?
What I noticed is now I have grown up
and now I'm a little bit more mature, wiser,
and I've gone through a lot of things.
The me today could take on so much more
in terms of responsibilities, in terms of productivity.
I could do so much more.
Let's say if that's today, that's me back then.
So why am I able to handle so much more
without feeling burnout compared to who I was before?
Kinda like what is the secret?
What I noticed is is this.
When I have a conversation with someone who's burned out,
I will ask them, well, why do you feel this way?
They might say something like,
well, I don't know, it's just there's so much to do.
I just feel like I don't know how to get started
and I don't know, I'm tired, I don't get it.
And I notice as I go deeper, I asked them,
so, why do you feel that way?
Well, 'cause I'm afraid,
if it doesn't work what would happen?
I don't wanna disappoint my family,
I don't wanna disappoint myself.
I don't wanna disappoint the people around me.
I don't wanna feel that way.
And I notice usually, it's very much fear based.
They are afraid of losing something.
When you boil it down,
that's usually what it is.
It's some form of fear and that triggers the burnout.
Does that make sense?
So think a little bit deeper.
And what I realize is if when I start the day,
my day, which one of my morning routines is
I always start off with attitude of gratitude.
Every morning, I spend 10 minutes focusing
on what I am grateful for.
The little things in life.
The ability to breathe.
The ability to see, the ability to hear.
The ability to communicate, express my feelings.
The ability to walk.
Have family and friends who care about me in life.
The little things.
You see, human beings, we are very interesting.
You cannot experience gratitude and fear at the same time.
At any given moment, you're grateful or you're fearful.
When you're grateful, you cannot be fearful.
When you're fearful, you cannot be grateful.
Well, how does that apply to burnout?
If you start the day with gratitude
and you're grateful, your fear disappears.
When your fear disappears,
there's nothing to be afraid of, there's nothing to lose.
Because you know that while you're striving for more,
to be more so you can do more and give more,
you've got everything you want
and everything you need right now in your life.
You're better off than most people out there.
There are people out there, don't have food,
don't have security, don't have a roof over the head.
What could you be grateful for?
You start with that, then the fear disappears,
burnout disappears.
What I realize is also when people focus
on themselves too much, it's me, me, me, me, me,
they get burnout easily.
Let's say you're working at a corporation, a corporate job
and you wanna get that promotion.
You wanna get promoted, you want that pay raise.
You're competitive, it's dog-eat-dog world,
and you work, and you work, and you work,
it's very easy to get burnout
because you are driven by your own ego most of the time.
Ego is a very powerful fuel
but it is very, very dangerous.
Just like you have gasoline, you light it,
it disappears, you see a fire,
but it disappears, it doesn't last.
Instead, you have a strong why
that you focus on other people.
I find that that is the way more powerful fuel that has
more power, more longevity.
So people get burnout because they are disconnected
with a true why, what drives them, beyond than just ego.
And one more tip I want to share with you is
I also notice when people get burnout
and they don't know how to deal with the overwhelm
is they are perfectionist.
They try to make everything perfect.
Everything has to be lined up,
that they cannot even afford one tiny bit of error.
And they're so uptight and here's what happens,
when you focus on not making mistakes,
guess what you do, you make mistakes.
And that's how you get burnout.
So today I can handle so much more
because I start the day with gratitude,
what am I grateful for?
Being content with what I have while striving for more.
Not because I need more to complete me.
Not because I need more for validation.
For to seek approval from others,
but for my own personal growth.
It's a self-discovery process.
Second, focus on your why,
a bigger why beyond than yourself.
You'll experience less burnout.
And forget trying to be perfect.
Progress over perfection.
Even a little bit of progress,
fail forward, make those mistakes, it's no big deal.
In the big scheme of things, nobody gives a damn.
People only care about the outcome.
In between, nobody cares.
Just like making a video.
I stumble a word here and there, that's okay.
It's not perfect, that's okay.
As long as my fans, my audience,
is getting value, do you care?
Oh, I speak this word wrong,
that's not grammatically correct, or I miss a thing here,
or I don't pronounce that word perfectly, who cares?
Nobody cares, but when you focus on those little things,
it prevents you from delivering value.
It prevents you from doing your best
and that's how you get all uptight
and that's how you get burnout.
Nowadays, rarely, rarely I experience burnout
and I do a lot more than most people.
I have a lot more on my shoulders than most people
and I'm responsible for a lot more things than most people.
Yet I don't experience it,
not because I'm this superhuman,
it's because I focus on those things.
If you find this helpful, test it out.
Test out these techniques and comment below
and let me know how they work for you
and how you feel afterwards
and see if that makes a difference in your life.
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