- You think you're not a morning person
but I know the real reason that your mornings are a mess.
(upbeat dance music)
Welcome back to another episode of Wine Wednesday
on Amy TV, where we don't believe in complaining
but if you're gonna whine, pour me some, would ya?
Today's wine of choice is a different one.
I have stepped outside of Italy finally.
This is the Charles & Charles Cabernet Sauvignon and Syrah
from Washington state.
It's one of those labels that really catches your eye
at the grocery store, where I'm pretty sure
we got this, probably.
I'm actually gonna put my wine down.
I've had a little, so I'm gettin' started
but I think I'm gonna get a little too passionate
on my white couch today.
As many of you know, I'm finishing up my next book,
which is all about good morning routines.
Listen, if ya think that it's gonna be the same kinda crap
you've been reading about morning routines forever,
I promise you, it's not.
So go into this conversation today,
and if you care about my book down the line,
with this in mind.
Everyone's morning is different and that is super important.
Not just because we're individuals,
but because it's how we operate.
You need to lean into what's best for you.
Everyone has to wake up and everyone has to get going
with their day, so what you do with that time matters.
I kinda just want to dig into what I think the real problem
with most mornings for most people is,
because saying you're not a morning person
is a very easy excuse.
So this is the part where you get mad at the morning person
for saying that you not being a morning person
is an excuse.
Hah!
I am not a morning person, nice try.
No, but really, I'm not.
I have never woken up one time in my life
and felt incredibly amazing, okay?
It doesn't happen.
I don't get up outta bed (birds chirping)
and just like sing with the birds
and float through my day as if all is well.
I don't.
I have to be a self-starter in everything,
including getting outta bed.
So keep that in mind first, okay?
It's not morning people against non-morning people,
especially right here.
But I think that's the biggest misconception.
If you don't feel your best right off the bat
in the mornings, and you haven't done anything,
literally anything to experiment with otherwise,
then you just assume that because mornings
are not your friend, that you can't possibly be
a better version of yourself, throughout said morning.
So look at how silly that sounds
when you finally say it out loud.
Am I right?
Henry Ford said, "Whether you think you can or you can't,
"You're right."
So think about all of the things that you've said,
"I can do that", and because you thought that way you tried.
And the other things that you're like,
"Oh that'll never be me", and then it was never you, right?
You can't win the lottery if you don't play.
I personally just even think that's real, so I don't play.
There you have it!
Whether you can or you can't,
in your own mind, you're right.
So if you really think,
"Oh man, I wish mornings were better for me,
"but it's against the grain of my soul".
Okay, well keep tellin' yourself that
'cause it's going really well for you
to not have a good morning.
What I actually think the core issue is here
is not this classification.
That's just the beginning.
But everything after that reinforces that fact for you,
for your mindset, is what really what makes it worse.
So you wake up in the morning, you roll over,
you look at your phone, you feel a certain way
because you've been staring at your phone.
I don't care if it's uplifted or not so good,
you still spent your time doing that instead of
coming to your own thoughts in the morning.
Cool, maybe you're excited about it,
no matter how you felt afterwards.
But then you're in bed a little bit too long.
Then you're rushing to get into the shower
and you're thinking to yourself,
"I'm rushing to get into the shower!
"And then I'm gonna have to rush to work.
"And then I'm gonna drive like a maniac.
"And then I'm gonna get to work
"and I might be a couple minutes late, maybe more.
"And then I'm gonna see all my coworkers
"who got there before me and I'm gonna look like
"the idiot because I'm late.
"But at least I know it, because look, we're rushing.
"I'm gonna be late."
Then you get to work and you stand there
and you talk to people about how,
"(breathes heavily) It was a morning."
You know how you're like,
" (groans) It was a morning", right?
It's the beginning of a great story.
Except for (clapping)
that we already know how this story ends.
And it continues to reinforce the fact
that you're not a morning person, therefore you think
you can't be a morning person, and it's all about being
a morning person, not just using your morning time,
which is an actionable thing and not a false classification.
This, my dear friends, is simply all of the symptoms
and execution behind an addiction to drama.
We're all addicted to drama on some level, right?
We watch dramatic series on Netflix
and we talk dramatically to our friends
about the gossip of the day,
and we dramatically roll into work, sopping wet,
walking in the rain, five minutes late and lookin' a fool.
Simply put, this gives us a little bit
of adventure in our day.
A day that may not be that adventurous,
you know it's not gonna be.
And you don't really wish for bad things to happen,
but sometimes you kinda wish you were livin' on the edge
and that is where this addiction to drama comes from
and sorry to say it, but you are not a morning person
and that's okay.
But you are not good in the morning
because you don't wanna be, because you
have an addiction to drama.
I feel like I need to get hired for the Dr. Phil Show
right now (laughing).
You are bad in the morning because you wanna be!
That's what he would say, right?
Sorry, not sorry.
It might just be true.
These are better stories to tell,
these are what give us some motivation to talk
about our lives to other people, when we don't really
have anything else to say.
Or when we do have other things to say,
it's just easier to complain.
That's why I created this series.
(laughing)
Like, literally to whine and complain.
My complaint today (clapping)
is that if you actually think that your mornings suck
for any other reason than your own self,
extenuating circumstances not included,
which do not include being late
because you scrolled Instagram and you missed your alarm
because you stayed up partying last night.
Those are not extenuating circumstances.
This is just not how it is.
Let me ask you this.
Why, why oh why, are you watching my channel right now?
I make a lot of videos about your mornings
and how to make the most out of them, your time,
how to get the most out of it, being organized,
going after the life you want. We talk about all of it.
Let me ask you, why do you watch these videos
about better mornings and you still haven't
quite connected the dots on how it works for you.
My answer would simply be,
"Oh, if I can't do the 17 step morning routine
"Amy's doing, then I must suck at it."
Or, "If I can't do what so and so does,
"first thing in the morning, it's just not for me."
Or, "If I can't fit a workout in because it just doesn't
"fit my lifestyle before 8 AM, then what's the point
"of having a good morning routine?"
"It's all about that."
Wrong, absolutely wrong.
It's about what's going to best serve you.
So instead of looking for a better story to tell,
just have a better story.
Don't worry about showing and telling,
just do something for yourself.
And I think it's really hard for us to remember
that at this moment in time, is to actually
just do something for just ourselves.
It doesn't have to be on Instagram.
I don't know about you, but I don't like postin' pictures
of myself at 5:00 in the morning,
when I'm barely alive and it's wicked dark out,
just so I can tell Instagram,
"Hey yo, I got up early, what'd you do?"
Who does that serve?
If I have to brag about it to get the benefit of it
then, like honestly, that makes no sense.
P.S. this channel is not dedicated to me
bragging about myself wakin' up at 5 AM, okay?
I just wanna make sure that's clear.
I'm literally only here to tell you
(clapping)
what I know, because I know people wanna know what I know.
I'm not here to brag, I'm just literally here
to tell you what my experience is.
I can't talk anymore because I'm gettin' so amped up.
This is why I can't hold wine in my hands right now.
Stop with the addiction to drama.
Take it out on Netflix, take it out on Happy Hour
with your girls and like gossip
or whatever makes you feel good.
Like if you need those moments, I need those moments,
I'm not better than that.
But if you are addicted to drama to even the affect
that you're letting it totally destroy your mindset,
your mental health, your ability to experience
a little bit of calm, or have time for stuff
you actually enjoy in life.
Because it's easier to be late, complain,
and to talk about how your boss is the reason why
you don't have time to do what you love to do.
Awkward, I know you gotta make a paycheck,
but that's on you.
There is only so much that, even in my book,
reading a book, watching these videos, getting motivated,
is gonna do for you.
I think it's very clear at this point in time,
it's about what you're actually doing for yourself.
I'm not saying you need to conquer a mountain tomorrow,
I'm just sayin' hey, wake up 20 minutes earlier,
see how it feels.
Have an appointment with yourself, make your phone
sleep in another room so maybe, just maybe,
you disconnect for 20 minutes of your day.
This is truly a real first step, a simple first step,
to going after the life you want.
I'm not asking you to be a lark and be up super early
and just make yourself feel so good because ya listened
to a YouTube video.
I'm asking you to listen to yourself
and figure out how to reverse engineer
more of what you actually want in your day
and therefore, culmination of all these days
to make a good life.
So if that's the real problem with your mornings,
I would love to hear what you think about this.
Question of the day is
What is a story you've been telling yourself
about your difficult mornings, that maybe
we can start to prove wrong?
Leave that in the comments below.
And in case you do wanna check out the book,
it's coming very soon!
Shine Squad is definitely going to get first announcement
of all of the things to come with the book.
There is also a fun little email list
if you just wanna get notified of when it's coming out
and how you can get your hands on it.
Links to both will be in the description below.
That's all for today.
Thank you so much for tuning in, I appreciate it as always,
and make sure you subscribe for good vibes,
kiss the ones you love (blows kiss),
and go after the life you want.
Cheers.
(making bubble sounds)
I don't remember the beginning of that sentence.