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My parents just don't understand.
Subhanallah, it's something that I do agree with.
Sometimes parents just don't understand
but that will never give you the right
to transgress the boundaries of Allah,
where you will raise your voice,
where you will have a moment of lapse in your judgment
to say something, do something, act in a way,
or even a look, or even a sound of discontent,
or disgust towards your parents.
(uplifting vocal music plays)
Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta-A'la says in the Qur'an,
wala taqul lahuma off
Don't even exclaim.
"oof" "huh"
God!
Don't even make an exclamation that would be seen
as a sign of disrespect to those whom Allah
has made guardians for you in this world.
Those who you could not choose,
but they are your fate and Qadar, good or bad.
You will be the one who decides
how you're going to adjust yourself to it.
And I want you to know that there is no greater act
of worship that you can do after your worship of Allah,
the fulfillment of your Salah on its right time
than being good to your parents.
And there's no greater sin.
The Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam said
than to worship other than Allah
and second, only to that.
Wa aququl walidayn
That you are a person who is disrespectful to your parents.
That doesn't mean that whatever they say must be followed.
Anyone who orders you to do that which is Haram,
you are able to be of a passive resistance to it.
And to say, I can not do this Haram.
Your mom and dad can not tell you not to pray.
This is something that you would then pray secretly
without them knowing.
But it would not be something you argue with them,
angering with them, bringing anger to them,
whether they are Muslim or not Muslim.
And Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta-A'la tells us this in the Qur'an.
wa-in jahadaka
If your parents made Jihad,
if they struggled against you in every mean,
in every capacity, in every way,
ala an litushrika bee malaysa laka bihi AAilmun
That you worship other than me
in a way that you have no knowledge,
fala tutiAAhuma
Don't obey them. Don't do what they say.
Wasahib huma
But remain their sahabi.
Could you imagine to be like a sahabi?
You know, how Abu Bakr was
to the Prophet Sallalahu Alayhi Wa Salam?
wasaahib huma fiddunya ma'roofa
Accompany them in this worldly life with Ma'roof,
in the best of ways that you can,
in the most way that you are able
to be pleasing to them.
I tell you this story of Musa Alayhi Salam,
he asked Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta-A'la,
And this is recorded in the book of Al-Kabair
by Imam Al Dhahabi.
He asked Allah,
"Oh Allah, who will be my neighbor in Jannah?"
And Allah says, "It'll be a butcher."
And Musa is surprised,
he thought maybe it'd be another messenger or prophet.
And Musa says, "Well, where is this butcher, oh Allah?"
And Allah says,
"If you go to this place, you will find him."
And Musa finds this butcher,
he observes him from a distance.
And after the man, the butcher, had slaughtered some meat,
he sold it and he kept a good part of it,
that he began to walk home.
And Musa said to him,
"I'm traveling from a new land, can you-",
he doesn't know it's a messenger of Allah,
"Can I stay with you?"
And this butcher says, "Yes, and, but I'm going to be busy
looking after something and then I'll free myself
to give you the deserved attention that you need"
So Musa said, "Don't worry about me, I'm just
going to sit and wait for you."
So Musa sat under a tree and he was watching this man.
He went into the home and from a high level in his house,
he brought down this large basket
that had in it, a frail, old woman.
And he carried it down to the river
and he bathed this elderly, elderly woman.
He washed her clothes and washed her
and he combed her hair and give her fresh clothes.
He sat the basket with her in it near the fire.
And he began to cook that meat and once it was cooked,
he began to chew it because she had lost her teeth.
And he would take it out of his mouth and feed her
and Musa saw that every time this man
fed this old, frail woman,
she would whisper something,
but he couldn't hear it from a distance.
And after he fed her and enjoyed company with her
and spent this time with her, she wanted to sleep.
He put the basket back in its place.
And then he told Musa to come over Alayhi Salaam,
And Musa asked him, "Who's this woman?",
He said "Innaha Ummi, this is my mother."
"How long have you been serving her like this?"
He said, "10 years, now."
And Musa Alayhi Salaam said,
"When you were feeding her, what was she saying?"
He said to him that "My mother, she always makes this du'a,
She said,
Allahumma jaAllahumma an nabbiyeen
"Oh, Allah, raise my son to the rank of the prophets."
And Musa Alayhi Salaam understood that the du'a
of this mother was answered for her son.
And that's why the neighbor of the prophet of Allah,
Musa Alayhi Salaam, is an ordinary butcher.
And whatever thing you do in your life,
know that you can reach the highest levels.
If you have the Rida,
the blessing and the pleasure of your parents.
The Prophet Sallalahu Alayhi Wa Sallam said,
ridAllah fe rihdal walidayn
Allah is pleased with you
when your parents are pleased with you.
Wasakhatilla fi sakhatil walidayn
And Allah's anger is upon you
when your parents are angry with you.
May Allah protect us from this transgression.
May Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta-A'la
make our parents understanding of us
and us loving and respectful and kind
and dutiful to them, especially as they mature.
Allahhumma Ameen.