This video is about = "How to break up with your friend!" I will reveal simple and effective
ways for breaking up with a friend of yours... To find out more please stay tuned to this video...
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I believe I'm the best person to advise you on this difficult topic, as I've sadly in the past
few years had many breakups with many friends, such as his best friends, close friends, friends, I spent
a lot of time with friends from childhood, friends who I experienced great trauma with...
If you've stumbled across this video and it's already resonating with you, it's possible that
your friend is toxic, or having a detrimental effect on your mental health, personal life,
rather than complimenting you, and bringing you up. Because if your friend was healthy, genuine,
making you feel good, why on earth would you want to break up with them? Breakups are breakups! Okay
you're not romantically involved with your friend (most likely) so its therefore purely platonic and
strictly a friendship! But there are a lot of similarities to breaking up with your friend
and say someone you're in a relationship with = there are still emotions, there could still be pain,
there is some form of suffering, there are still arguments, there is still drama... My point being
is a breakup is a breakup, whether it's with your girlfriend, boyfriend, husband, or your best friend
remember that! As I mentioned to you already, I lost many friends for many reasons over the years...
Some were toxic, some betrayed me, hurt me, humiliated me...
some drifted apart, and some were just a bad influence on me...
either way (thank god) I surprised myself and survived and if anything have thrived and improved
in this process! So rest assured although this may appear very daunting, and very difficult to begin
with, you're going to be fine at the end of the day... As I've always said in all my videos, blog posts =
friends they come, friends they go! So approach this with an open mind, and with the understanding that
in the long run everything's going to work out for the best! Here is how to break up with your friend...
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The first step to take may seem obvious but important, and that is to decide your friendship is now over...
This is irrespective of how long you've been friends, what you've been through,
emotional ties, mutual friends, none of that matters... Once the decisions made it's final...
There's no room for wishy-washy thinking as this is our lives we're talking about...If you're
brand new to my content you may be unaware that I was a gambling addict for many years...
I suffered for ages but during my addiction phase of life, I made friends who were just as bad as me...
Most of our time was spent in casinos and betting shops. Most of the time we just spoke
about gambling. Our social interaction and life revolved around the addiction. Towards the end
I noticed that my life was nowhere where it should be, and certainly my addiction made things worse...
"This isn't me!" I used to say to myself "I'm not a gambler! I don't like this life!" I had no choice but
to do the difficult thing, and that was to become clean and sober and cut gambling out of my life...
But that decision also meant cutting those friends in the process. One guy in particular
(who I was really close with) I used to speak to him every day, and he had to go as well. Don't get
me wrong I suggested "let's meet up outside of the casino, gambling..." but no one was interested. In fact
when i was announcing my sobriety, I was met with a backlash of hate and criticism by these friends...
"You'll be back in the casino! You'll be gambling again! There is no way you will keep this up! You'll
be back to being gambling once more! If you're a real friend you wouldn't leave us behind!!"
I've remained clean and sober for three years now, and I have no idea where these people are...
but I wish them the best of luck. Take some time to evaluate your situation your friendship
and the effect it's having on your personal life, and of course especially
your mental health, and then make that bold, brave, vital decision that it's time to break up...
Now breaking up with your friend, losing your friend is not an easy thing to do...
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Sometimes when we're dealing with toxic people, we run the risk of making things worse by confronting
them. If we say "it's over or I hate you or I don't want to see you anymore!" it will trigger a fight
or flight response! God forbid, a person like that might be full of rage and unpredictable...
I once did this with a toxic friend = who caused nothing but chaos and made things worse
and because you're not dating this person (or hopefully living with them) you have more of
an opportunity to pull away, which is the SAFEST most powerful and effective option to breaking up!
So once you've decided to break up, it's time to slowly pull away... This is NOT cowardly, game playing,
toxic, manipulative, if anything it's healthy and easy! When they call, don't answer. When they text
you don't respond straight away or at all. They ask to meet up, you say "you're busy." When they're
chasing, cut off supply. This may be hard to do at first as they may bombard you with messages,
drop bys, calls, emails, but you've got to stay strong and firm! Years ago, a very close friend of
mine really disrespected me, it was out of line and he never apologized, I couldn't stand him anymore...
so I did this EXACT tactic, rather than confront, made things worse, I pulled away. I refused to ever
see or speak to him again, or be friends. He called me every day for a month, I never answered....he
turned up to my house, I never answered the door, he texted me several times and I never replied. He knew i was
fine, he was not concerned if god forbid something had happened to me, it was more about his EGO.
His insecurity, his need for validation. Thank god I stayed strong and slowly and surely
the calls stopped, as did the texts, and he eventually never got in touch with me again...
Pull away slowly! Of course delete, block them, go ahead, nothing is stopping you! This is your life,
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Once you've pulled away and eventually cut off the supply for them to contact you, speak to you,
see you, abuse etc, trust me = they'll get the message! Lord knows what they are thinking, but they'll get
it trust me! Remember the guy who disrespected my family I mentioned? Well one time he was out
for lunch with a couple of mutual friends of mine. My mutual friends knew I was done with him
but they kept their mouth shut. However he ambushed them all on the lunch (that I didn't attend) saying =
"He doesn't talk to me anymore! SCG hates me! I don't know why, he's no longer my friend, doesn't
want anything to do with me! Why?!" This was excellent news to me, this person had finally got the message
and all without me causing drama, or having a fight... Let's talk about "Supply." Narcissistic
Supply refers to the constant supply of attention and admiration needed by narcissists. To gain this
attention, narcissists will often use a FALSE self that is likable to attract people to them...
however because narcissists are unable to make healthy connections, they tend to target people who
are more vulnerable to feed their supply. By simply deciding to cut this friend out of your life
they no longer get their fix from you if they're toxic! They can no longer get the supple!
Which could be any of the following = praise, achievements, or winning, reputation, validation,
attention, feeling powerful, having power over others, being in control, or the feeling of control...
What your former friend will most likely do is go out and find someone else to replace you with...
and repeat the cycle all over again...AKA a new form of supply, and good luck to that new friend and
thank your lucky stars that that's not you anymore! You're not fitting that role of the punching bag,
the emotional abused victim anymore, or the person that's constantly disappointed...
Trust me on this, eventually they will get the message you want nothing to do with them
Trust me that's gonna happen... If you're currently not sure if you're in a bad negative toxic
friendship, here is a list of typical signs to look out for = that they always need something
from you no matter what time, place, or what the request. They never take accountability
for their actions, their behaviors, especially their words! They may weaponize their struggles
completely onto you! They make you feel guilty for spending time with other people, including a spouse,
your family, your children. They completely dismiss your values, morals, and gaslight you!
They tease or insult you regularly, sometimes in public, and especially in front of other people...
They want all your intention on demand, no matter what time, three in the morning, "give me all your
time and attention, focus on me! They peer pressure you into doing things you don't want to do =
"come to the casino...let's smoke, let's go get drunk... let's do this, let's do that..." They disrespect your
boundaries! They'll just turn up, unannounced, plop on your sofa, and do whatever they want !
At the end of the day, after you pull away and walk away, focus on yourself
for the time being to undo the toxic abuse or neglect you've suffered from such friendships,
and instead when the time's right = make friends with genuine people healthy ones who want the
best for you, and compliment your life! They're out there trust me, but you will not find them holding
on to the anchor that is your negative friend, who ultimately you just need to break up with...