Satsang with Mooji [music]
Don't Try to Love Everybody Be Yourself
[Mooji] You've got thinking eyes.
[Questioner] I was thinking whether I should ask you something more.
How do we get control of our feelings?
How do I make myself love everybody?
At the minute there are some people, there are some human beings whom
I just can't stand. I don't know if it's the right word,
but I just don't want to be like that.
It's there in the mind, you know what mean? [M.] Yes.
[Q.] I suppose it's control over the mind, which I don't have.
[Mooji] Don't TRY to love everybody.
Maybe you can at least try to be fair, but don't try to LOVE everyone.
[Q.] Well, love in the sense...? [Mooji] No, I don't mean affectionately.
But sometimes there will always be one or two. [laughter]
[Q.] So it's perfectly normal then. [Mooji] Yes, of course it's very normal.
[Q.] So I am normal. [giggles]
[Mooji] Well, sometimes you have to...
There's a love which is so all inclusive,
and it is so free that they say Jesus loved everyone.
But when he went to the temple and saw these people selling in there,
in that moment, he was not on a love mission. [laughter]
He was...aaaahhhhhh! You see.
Be yourself, this is the way,
and stay in this place that you've been shown,
this effortlessness, and leave the rest.
The rest will somehow align itself appropriately.
Really what I am telling you, it's so unburdening.
We're trying to cultivate good habits.
Ramana Maharshi said something very beautiful.
He says, 'All good habits manifest spontaneously in the delivered mind',
meaning that when you see where you really are,
automatically things come right.
You don't have to 'TRY to be like this' or 'try to be like this'.
Because I don't feel that if there's a 'you' loving everyone,
I don't think you'll be successful.
You'll do 99%, but your neighbor...grrrr! You want to...grrr! [laughter]
You feel, 'No, I didn't do it. I fail.', and so on. So don't do it. Stay,
[Q.] You're the first person to have said that.
[Mooji] Yes, it's all right to not like some people.
It's all right to feel; even the feeling of hatred can happen.
It can happen, but you've not tied yourself to it.
It's something that also arises.
If you see really gross injustice or cruelty, how can you say, 'I love you?'
How can you say that? You don't feel. You want to yourself give a good chop!
Isn't it? [Q.] Absolutely.
[M.] It's natural. So in the meantime, leave that alone.
Stay as that which is aware. Just keep staying. Stay as Awareness always.
Don't go to 'What should I do? What should I undo?
Stay as the awareness and immediately in this space of just being awareness itself
everything begins to slow down a bit and your perspective becomes more clear,
your discernment is much more sharp and there's more space in you,
more peace, you see more clearly, and spontaneously also.
You're not in the space of making decisions, but more that you recognise...it's so!
All the balance, everything, is already in you; the potential;
if you don't go through the medium of the mind to try and work things.
Stay only in this place of that neutrality in you.
This is not 'being blank',
because even if there's 'blank', there's the awareness of 'blank'.
Stay as the Awareness itself. Everything is showing up in this space.
And immediately you feel the expansiveness in you,
and a decision that you would've made five minutes ago completely thins out,
and now there's space.
Five minutes ago you felt like, 'I can't spare even two minutes to look!'
And now there's infinite expanse.
This is how changeful the conditions of the environment,
of the emotions and the mind can be.
It turns on a penny; it's just like this.
Don't get caught up in that. Stay as the Awareness itself.
There's always space; there's this huge expanse. Stay there.
And when your attention has united with that space,
somehow that recognition has a way of blessing;
every other aspect of your expression is touched by it automatically.
This is the easy way.
But if you want to cultivate good habits
and do ten steps towards, then this is a different thing.
And that's also a way.
That is the snail's way. [laughs] [Q.] I don't want that.
[Mooji] I will show you 'Samurai way'... Aha! [laughs] Quick!
Some people like the journey of 'Ah, I go.'
and 'Ah, yes, check it out and enjoy'. This is fine.
Because it's the same consciousness; it's playing this role.
But for some, there is no more time for dilly-dallying.
They don't want to look around, they just want to go, to get to that point.
What is it to go to the residue, if there is one?
[Q.] True
[Mooji] You can take one year to be happy or you can be happy now.
[Mooji] What would you choose? [Q.] Now.
[Mooji] You're happy now? [Q.] Think so.
[Mooji] If you go to your mind to try and work at happiness,
then you become very miserable.
[M.] Trying to be happy is a most miserable thing. [Q.] Yes, you're right.
[M.] On the contrary, if you're feeling miserable and you say,
'Listen, I'm not miserable enough!'
'I have only 80%. I want to turn up that. Where's the 20%?'
And go VERY miserable! Then you start laughing,
and then you find automatically, 'But this is so ridiculous!'
But if you 'try to be happy',
trying to be happy is like trying to act naturally. [fake laughter]
You can't do it. [laughter]
Stop trying and recognise this thing.
[Q.] Yeah. [laughs]
[Mooji] Look at this smile! My gosh!
[Mooji] Now she wants to hide it! [laughs]
[Q.] I'm happy about it. [Mooji] Yes.
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[Mooji] Yes, thanks to you.
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