Radhey Radhey Swamiji my question is, when one of our loved ones is going through a
difficult time and we are trying our best to help them but there is no
positive results in the situation what should be our duty then? Should we leave
it to God? What should be and how should we help them? To help others is an
instruction given to all human beings. "quoting Ramayana"
Ramayana says to help others is a great Dharma, so to be loving and caring and
helpful and supportive to your friends and relatives is a wonderful thing, but
remember it is not in your hands to alleviate the sufferings of others
Sufferings come due to many reasons pasts 'Sanskars', if the doctor himself or
herself could cure disease then everybody who went to the hospital would
be cured but the doctor also has to admit that I treat and he cures
right! But then the doctor realizes that it's not in my hands to remove suffering
similarly if you are helping somebody you need to understand that there are so
many reasons why suffering can come. Every soul has 'Sanskars' of endless
lifetimes, besides that sometimes suffering comes
as a direct intervention of God for the spiritual elevation of somebody.
"quoting scriptures"
Sri Krishna says when I wish to be particularly merciful on some soul when
I love some soul very dearly I snatch away his or her material luxuries, I make
like difficult and painful for that soul in that case the suffering is a grace of
God and we are trying to alleviate it? Earlier days they used to say spare the
rod and spoil the child. In the abode of God he doesn't spare the rod he wants
to bestow special grace on us so he makes life difficult
but nevertheless it is not for us to think oh this is the grace of God. When
somebody is suffering the appropriate sentiment is that I must try and help
but help in a detached manner. In other words do your duty and leave it at that.
"Karmanye Vadhikaraste Ma Phaleshu Kadachana - Bhagwat Gita" do your duty whether it's to your
friends all your relatives or your family members or your children. As the
children grow up you will realize that it's not in your ability to control them
You have the best of intentions but they can be really painful, the children so
what do you do? Do you spoil your own own life and fill yourself with anxiety? No
if you adopt this principle that I will do my best for them and leave it at that
then you will not be disturbed. That is in fact how a teacher helps others, the
teacher does her duty nicely compassionately but she knows that
despite my best efforts, some will respond some will
not right so if some child doesn't respond she puts an extra care and still
the child doesn't respond she says well whatever God wills I have done my best
we must adopt that formula in our philanthropy in our compassionately
motivated endeavors to help others as well.