Bree. How are you? Change is scary. How do you know that it is time to leave a company?
And how do you know which company is the right one
For you?
Oh, Bree. Well, let me tell you this in in interview intervention, and I think it was
on page 12
In interview intervention and page 12, I give this book away anywhere in the U S I will
mail it to you. You get the ebook, the audio book, and a bunch of other stuff. And on page
12, it says in here, I kid you not, it is probably one of my my favorite passages. I'm
just gonna read it. Okay. It's most people never act on new adventures. It's my opinion
that they would rather live with unhappiness than uncertainty. Okay. Instead of taking
a chance, they hold themselves hostage with decisions they made during their twenties
serving as the shackles. Okay. That's the exact quote in the book. So how do you know?
Well, this, this becomes a map. It's a variable answer because it's a matter of your pain
threshold. So I put my happiness is my highest form of evaluation of anything that I do.
Will it make me happy? Will it not? How does it make me feel? So I look at, is it what
I'm doing? So I want, I'm going to give you a little pecking order. Here is what you're
doing, bringing you joy, meaning, meaning if you're a project manager, as an example,
and Brie, I don't know what you do, but if you're a project manager, do you like managing
projects? Right? Like, think about how basic that question is. This is not a rudimentary
lesson. It what you do, if that does not bring you joy, okay. Then you need to change. Why
is it, why is that such a big deal to dissociate what you do with, with whom you do it? Right?
So if I like project managing, but I don't like these idiots that I'm working with. Well,
okay, well then go don't change, change, change companies.
Okay. That's that's one direction. If you don't like managing projects anymore, then
you need to change job functions or careers. So that is a very simple, and coldhearted
way of looking at it, but it cuts right to the CR it cuts right through the crap. Right?
So, so that's, that's something. Now you said change is scary. How do I know? It's time
to leave a company. If now, now we're starting to get into the detail of why I don't like
doing it with these people. Okay. The minute you don't like doing it with these people.
So the first thing I would say is I would start looking. Why not? If you don't like
it there, the first thing that I would naturally do is take stock of why is it something you
can change? If it is go and try to change it, right? All that go through your normal,
go through your normal stuff.
We don't. When a husband and wife have an argument, you don't just go get a divorce.
Right. Is it, is it something that you can communicate about? Right. That's what I'm
talking about here. Now, if you realize that something is unchangeable. Okay. So I really
don't like my boss. There's no way I'm ever going to like that boss. I can't see getting
a new boss or whatever. Then you got to go. I don't like traveling anymore. I have a newborn
baby. Okay. Well, and you got to keep traveling. Alright, can you go to a non travel position?
If not, it's time to leave, right? So you go through your questions and you will have
criteria that will supersede your in and help guide you through your choice. This matters
more to me than that, right? This, you know, being at home matters more to me than the
paycheck I have to do, do it this way.
All right. Now, if you get to a situation where they say we will change, okay, we will
change. They get one shot. Okay. That's how I do it. I have the discussion. We have the
discussion. I do not like this. You're treating me like a, you know, like an embassy. Well,
we gotta have this discussion. We're having an I'm so sorry, Bree. I won't behave that
way anymore. And so on. If the stuff continued, it's just an example. It could be anything.
Right. But if it continues, that's it. I'm outta here. That's how I, I, I decide now,
whatever it is, that's bothering you. That's how I look at it. Now. Second part of your
question. How do I know which job to choose? Well, the first thing that you don't do is
you don't just start looking for a job. Okay? You don't just start looking for a job.
You need to do some, you know, engineering, reverse engineering of what makes you happy.
What is it about what I do that I do? Like, what is it about I do that? I don't like,
what is it about my past jobs that I've loved? What is it that I need in my life list out
all your requirements. I talk about this a lot. I have a video out there on how to choose
the right job might be how to choose the right job or how to choose the right job for you.
Where I walk you through how you identify that criteria. That's the first thing that
you do before you leave. Then when you talk about, well, how do I know which company is
the right one for you? If you break down your criteria, you use that criteria to evaluate
the companies that you go interview with.
Now, I like to use that, to determine which companies to target, because some of your
criteria is going to help guide you. Actually, we just did this session with my bootcampers
about determining direction of your search and determining your choice of your search.
We just did this last week and one of the bootcamp booster sessions, coach private coaching
sessions that I have with people in my job search bootcamp. And I talk about using your
criteria as, as guideposts, like company type industry market. These are things that you
could decide from the comfort of your own home or desk, right? That determines where
to look. The other stuff like the of culture maybe the specific job requirements, the values
and integrity of the people at the place. And other things are things you won't know
until you actually get in and evaluate them. Right?
You don't know that from a website. You don't know that from a, a 10 K or whatever. So that's
how I determined that I have my list. I determined my route. Then when I start surfacing opportunities,
I use my list to evaluate them. I determine what questions I'm going to ask them based
on those requirements. And I would recommend you watch that you watch that video on how
to choose the right job, cause that will answer the ladder, the ladder question that you have
there. So I hope that helps Bree hope. You enjoyed my little book reading there from
interview intervention and peeps. If you don't have it, grab it, grab it. I, I ask that you
pitch in seven bucks for the envelope and the service fees that I incur in inventory
fees that I occur. And I basically pay the shipping to anywhere in whether it's in the
U S or, or, or internationally. So so, so grab this. It's really, it's a really great
book. I know that. Cause a lot of people read it. Tell me about it. Have luck as a result
of getting it. So grab it. Thanks, Bree. Awesome questions. Really nice.