- [Narrator] Is there anyone in your life you've known
for a long time now?
Perhaps a good friend, a close sibling
or maybe even a long-term romantic partner?
In the sea of people who come and go in our lives,
we have to admit that we can't help
but long for a special someone
who will finally stay in our lives,
be it in a romantic or platonic way.
So how do you know if you've found someone
who will be in your life forever?
To find out, here are eight things you should look out for.
Number one, you feel a near-instant feeling
of familiarity with them.
Do you feel drawn to them for some reason?
Whether it's platonic or romantic,
when you meet the right person,
the connection you make with them
can be felt almost instantaneously.
You may feel closer to them
than with anyone else you've met.
And though you may not be able to put it into words,
there's just something about them
that feels familiar and comfortable to you.
Number two, you know how to balance your relationship
with other aspects of your life.
When you're in the fun exciting honeymoon phase
of a friendship or a relationship,
you may find yourself wanting
to spend all your time with them.
But what about afterwards?
When you found your forever person,
you'll still love spending time with them
no matter how long you've known each other already.
And you'll even encourage one another
to have just as thriving of a separate life
outside of your relationship too.
So while your relationship with them is important,
you also know how to balance it
with the other important aspects of your life,
such as your family, career, passions and so on.
Number three, you're comfortable
being vulnerable around them.
Is it easy for them to open up to them?
According to some of the most well-known studies
on the psychology of love and family therapy,
emotional intimacy is one of the most important hallmarks
of a healthy, flourishing,
and lasting relationship.
So if you've found your forever person,
then you're sure to know by the way
you're so much more comfortable being vulnerable with them
than you are around almost anyone else.
After all, open communication
about your feelings plays a crucial role
in sustaining long-term social relationships
and facilitating feelings of love and closeness
in one another.
Number four, you only have to think
about what you want to say,
not how you need to say it.
Another sure-fire sign that you've found a keeper
is if most of the time,
you only have to think about what you wanna say to them
and not much about how to say it.
There's no walking on eggshells around one another,
putting up walls or fears of being misunderstood,
all of which indicate open communication,
which as you know by now is a key ingredient
to any lasting relationship.
Number five, you both fight fair.
Now, you might be thinking
that finding someone who will be in your life forever means
that you never have to worry
about getting into a fight with them.
But that's a common misconception,
and a potentially harmful one at that.
After all, it's only normal
to have conflicts from time to time.
But what really makes or breaks a relationship
isn't the arguments themselves
but rather how you handle them.
If you find that you are both able to fight fair,
that is no name calling, no blaming,
no attacking each other's weaknesses,
where you still know how to respect one another
even when you can't agree,
then you've definitely found a good one
you shouldn't let go of.
Number six, they don't expect you to change overnight.
Everyone struggles with their flaws
and personal shortcomings
but when you find the right person,
they'll inspire you to become a better version of yourself
without expecting you to change overnight.
They accept you just the way you are, flaws and all.
And so will be patient and supportive
of who you are instead of judging or criticizing you for it.
Even in times where you're faced with an issue
and are struggling to improve,
they understand that it's not easy to change
and will be there to help you work through it.
Number seven, they never let you give up on yourself.
Do they reach out to you when they see you struggling?
While they won't pressure you into doing
what they think is right for you,
that doesn't mean that they'll just stand idly by
when they think that you're hurting or struggling
on your own.
Your forever person is one of your greatest cheerleaders
and supporters, and they believe in you,
even when you find it hard to believe in yourself.
Every time you wanna give up on something you really want,
or make the same old wrong choices you're always making,
they're there to tell you that they're better than that,
and that you deserve so much more.
And number eight, being with them
is an easy choice to make.
Last, but not certainly not least,
you'll now you've found someone who is going
to be in your life forever
if being with them is just an easy choice to make,
even when things aren't smooth sailing.
It's still one of the simplest and surest choices
you've ever made and continue to make
to keep them around.
You know that what the two of you share
is so precious and hard to come by
that you would never wanna throw it away.
So no matter what lies ahead,
you feel a lot better in just knowing you'll have them
by your side.
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