Hey ladies this one's for you. So I had someone ask about why would a guy kiss
you and ask for a second date and then ghost you, so this is for you.
Okay, so why would a guy do that? Well there's a couple of different reasons
that could be why. So first of all it might be that he's a player and he was
asking for or leading you to believe that he wanted a second date so that
you'd go further with him than just the kiss. Players just want to get laid,
well, yeah for the most part let's just go with that. So let's say that you
set your standards you didn't go any further than the kiss and therefore he
wasn't really interested in more than that because it might take him more
effort to get you into bed and he's already determined that there's other
women out there who will sleep with him quite readily right away, so, lucky you
you dodged a player, yay. The second reason could be that he actually wasn't
interested, was not interested, but he didn't want to disappoint you. Men hate
disappointing women, truly, so they'll say what they need to say to get out of the
pickle in the moment and even though they actually disappoint us way more by
doing that than just being honest. So it might be that he actually really
wasn't interested but you were enthusiastic, or he felt he had to say
that because of the kiss, or whatever, so it might be that he actually just wasn't
really that interested and didn't have the balls to say so. Shitty. Lucky you, you
dodged a pussy, no offense to the all-powerful pussy. Third thing is he
could be just a healthy guy, so if he didn't you know set up a date
immediately for a second date, he might be busy and have shit going on in his
life, and he will get back to you. Now if it's been a few days and he hasn't given
you a thousand different reasons why his life is so busy in order to make plans
for a second date or at least have some communication, then he's he's either
seriously too busy to be dating, and again lucky you, you avoided that one who
will never make you a priority, or he might be just actually have had
a change of heart. He might have met somebody else if you met him on a dating
site, maybe the girl he really wanted actually finally came through, who knows,
there could be a lot of different reasons. The one thing that women often
do that does repel men is get too anxious and too needy and too desperate
with texting and communication after the fact. You gotta be able to let a man
spring back to you, it's like an elastic band, if you don't pull away it can't
spring back. So hopefully it's one of those reason and he's not just dead,
that could happen, and so if I would actually definitely need to know a bit
more detail to be able to further advise, but it's one thing that we can do as
women is have full lives that are interesting. We've got to give a guy a
reason to want to come back. Nice guys need to be chased, if you don't want to
have to chase a man you probably don't want a nice guy because they're very
insecure, sorry like quote/unquote "nice guys", not decent kind men, I'm not talking
about those, I'm talking about the guys with nice guy syndrome who desperately
want to please everyone by saying the right thing in the moment but then they
don't follow through. You don't want to be with a player, you do want to be with
a healthy guy who actually wants to be with you. So if this guy isn't the one
thank your lucky stars you didn't give away the cow's milk for free, or
whatever, and look for the next guy, and don't be desperate, have a full life.
Hopefully this helped, thanks so much for watching, I'll see you in the next video.