Hey everyone, it's me Niharika and I am back with another session for you all. Well this
one is based on friendship. A lot of my friends have mentioned that I am a good friend but
then in the past there used to be a friend of mine actually came up to me and said I'm
not a good friend. I was like, “Are you serious?” I was pretty much taken aback.
Well what's wrong girl? Apparently there were certain things that she was really unhappy
about. Now you might be a terrible friend and not even realize it. That should scare
you right? Yes, it should. You know, Sometimes our actions and words that escape our mouths
stop going through a filter and then eventually we are not even conscious of how horrible
we are as a person, as a friend or as a lover. You know we get so used to our friends, that
we become insensitive to the things we say and do. Now sure that level of comfort can
be a great thing but not always it definitely has an ugly side to it. It could be a reflection
of the person you really are. Well I'm not gonna get into all of this but yes I'm gonna
mention some signs which will actually tell you if you are a good friend or not, yes?
So if there are still things you should be conscious of then do watch this lesson with
me.
Well do you project your own negative qualities onto your friends? Well then that's one of
the signs. After a while you kind of start assuming that because you think in a certain
way your friends and others do it too. For example, if you are prone to talking about
others behind their back basically gossiping, well you assume that everyone does the same
and eventually you begin to become like others and blame others and talk about how they went
on about something even though they never did. Now this can get really annoying and
yes trust me your friends too notices so be very careful guys.
Another sign that could probably make you a bad friend is you start criticizing or blaming
them for everything, “Hey, you did that.” Well you just feel that it was not your fault
and you are always right, everybody else is wrong, everything happened because of them.
Well this is how you feel about a situation then definitely you’re gonna lose your friends.
The next sign is, that you only spend time with them when you need something. Now when
you reach for the phone, it's never to see how they're doing, basically you're not worried
but what you want to do is have fun. Friends are more like an entertainment for you so
you end up calling them or talking to them for your needs. Now if that's a common response
you get from multiple people like saying that, “Ah, you called again, well I'm not free
today.” Well definitely which means your friends are ignoring you. So guys you got
to be careful, I mean be a little sensitive towards people. Now this is definitely a bad
sign if you only call them for your own needs.
Well what's the, another sign that which makes you a bad friend? Well you evade all the responsibilities
leaving them to handle it all. When there's work to be done or responsibilities that should
be divided or it can be taken care of well you just kind of sit back and relax, teamwork
is not for, you well that goes out of the door because you would rather be doing something
else or probably nothing. Well what's worse when you walk away when the going gets tough.
Soon enough you will be the one who will be all alone trust me your friends will evade
because you never take responsibilities, you are the one who's always relaxing taking a
chill pill and you always are dependent on others to do things for you. Hey, that's not
right and if this is one of the signs then definitely makes you a bad friend and you
need to really change that.
Well here's the next thing, you never think about how they may feel. Wow, you are being
insensitive. Your words hurt like knives and you might not even know it or even care about
it because you have a disregard for how they may feel. You don't stop to wonder that how
your decisions or your actions or probably your words may affect what your friends think.
Sometimes it's the lack of action that hurts them the most because trust me if you are
insensitive towards your friends probably you're not being conscious about it and you
just don't realize it but your friends are very, very important for you. So do not hurt
them in this manner.
Well here is the next sign that you got to be careful about, you don't listen to what
they have to say. Yes, you are a bad listener, their opinions mean nothing to you and it's
usually drowned out by your own stories. You fight for time to speak and when they are
talking you just cannot wait, you are so impatient and you can't wait for your turn to talk.
Huh, well what you can do is at least pretend to listen but guess what you don't even do
that, you know the moment your friend is trying to tell you something, giving their opinions
about something or just sharing their stories but you don't care, you take them for granted
and you don't listen to them and eventually you start talking. So it's all about you.
Another sign is that you never stick to your words. Oh come on, if you say that you will
do something, don't go back on your word. Punctuality goes into this too. Don't be the
person who is consistently an hour late than promised. This is like again you're taking
that person for granted. You know I used to be like that, like I will be honest, when
I was in college people used to call me that, “Hey Niharika, you better be there according
to our time, not as per Niharika standard time.” So that's what kind of a joke in
the college that everybody cracked because I used to take their time for granted. So
which I have learned and I'm really sorry about it but yes guys you gotta be punctual,
you gotta stick to your word.
So friends these are the signs of being a bad friend. Now to share it with your friends
and let me know what do they think about you and of course what do you think about this
video. Well I hope this video really helps you out and you try to avoid or try to work
on yourself in order to be a good friend because trust me we live in the world where we need
people around us, we need good people and we need good friends. So be the best and I'll
be back soon with a new lesson till then you take care and have a great day.