Thanks to the internet and social media
It is now simpler for men and women to meet someone from the other side of the world
It's not difficult to understand why interracial relationships have become so common
Every year, hundreds of Thai women are sponsored by western men
to travel back to America, the UK, or Sweden as their spouses or fiancés
Some claim that Thai women marry foreigners for financial security rather than love
Marriage for money is common in various Asian nations, not just in Thailand
Another factor to consider is that Thai women are extremely close to their relatives
Marrying a wealthy foreigner for money is not frowned upon, as long as she helps her parents and siblings improve their lives
In this video, we asked fellow western expats why they would not let their friends marry Thai women
And what signs are red flags to watch out for
These are real people based on real comments
Why should you not marry a Thai woman?
It's tough to respond to the question
Do you mean in terms of physical appearance?
Personality?
Friendliness?
Kindness?
Also, which class of Thai women?
Is it low, working, class, or the great majority of medium well-off?
Upper? Rich? Are you referring to women in regular jobs?
Such as stores, farming, and so on?
or to the category of women with whom the great majority of foreigners have contact
i.e. the sex trade?
Obviously, if you only mean looks then it's a matter of personal preference
They have quite distinct facial characteristics compared to westerners
Don't compare them with Thai models, actresses, and other Thai ladies who have very international looks
In my experience, the bulk of wealthy Thai ladies are rather snobbish, arrogant even
and want nothing to do with westerners
Other Thai ladies are often quite pleasant
If you are courteous and smile at them they will smile back at you
This is true even if you are passing by them on the street
However, if you're seeking a partner whether it's just for sex or a long-term one
Proceed with caution
Most people are obviously looking for financial benefits
Mainly for their family and or children
Dating a Thai lady in my opinion and that of many others
Is nothing like dating a westerner
You'll have nothing in common to talk about because their hobbies are more basic
and there will always be money concerns
There is also the language barrier to consider
However, if you're lucky enough and take the time to find a decent one
They're gorgeous and a lot of fun
If you're not thinking about a relationship you'll find there are many options here
There are good and bad people around and even the good can turn bad due to greed or peer pressure
The latter is more prevalent in this case though
Some may try to con you right from the start
While others are really concerned about their own well-being and the well-being of their families
As a result, it's no surprise that money holds more importance for women here than it does in the west
Even though, it is often on the agenda for men and women across the world
Many immigrants originate from less privileged countries and have less formal education than westerners typically get
They also lack global perspective due to their exposure to Hollywood movies
and a false idea that all foreigners are wealthy
The notion that tourists from other countries have to work and save hard in order to enjoy a vacation in Thailand is unknown to many Thais
Since they have never been there
They just use their eyes to take in what's going on around them
Such as: #1) Due to the low monthly income in Thailand
When locals witness tourists from other countries shelling out 500 baht for a lunch
Plus a 100 baht tip or 1,000 baht for drinks
They automatically assume we are well off with a lot of disposable income
The idea that you've worked six days a week, plus overtime
and long hours for two years in order to afford a two-week vacation here will not cross their minds
#2) It's all about face in Thailand and with Thai women
In most cases, it is traditional and expected for the foreigner to pay for everything for everyone at the meet and greet with the family
Including paying for neighbors to join you at dinner or for drinks and so on
To show off their social status, some Thai women may show off their wealth at the expense of their foreign husbands
This is because it is thought that a Thai woman who finds a foreign partner is suddenly rich
"She has a foreign boyfriend, please send money to us," her family and friends would most likely say
#3) While real love can be found
A Thai lady who is not interested in gaining money or social status will not date a western guy
This is from my experience living here I would estimate 85% of the time
In my experience, I've seen Thai women who have been in a long-term relationship with a western guy for many years
But when a man has terrible luck and isn't making as much money as he used to
They just break up with him and find a new one
Many people will just switch partners if the pot runs empty and they have nothing left to gain
Enjoy yourself, but use caution at all times
We foreigners might get different answers to this topic based on what we know
In my opinion, you have some of the world's most beautiful ladies in your midst
But there are certain drawbacks to dating Thai women
If we're not careful about who we select
Often, guys are swayed by a woman's good looks and nice demeanor
Nice Thai girls, I'm told are exactly that. Good girls
As of this writing, I've had a bad experience with two Thai women
Both of them cheated on me with other foreigners and I have a feeling the same can be said with Thai men
First, I went with a woman who was college educated, had a decent career, and owned a house and two cars
Even though, she was raised in a low-income household
she had somehow managed to pay her way through college as an adult
Over time, I discovered that the one thing she didn't overcome in her conduct
was her horrible upbringing and attitude toward life and people
This person is a covert narcissist and it might be difficult to identify them at first
That takes us to a second issue
They are obsessed with taking selfies and posting them on social media
and westerners are praising them
This, along with the attention they get from westerners
Is making many Asian women narcissistic types
I'm not just referring to young women here
This woman was in her 40s, although still very attractive
As a result, of the cultural differences, I allowed them to happen, and it is my fault
For these reasons and more
I like Thailand and all of its people
But I will proceed with extreme caution in the future when it comes to dating a Thai woman
I should point out, that none of these women worked in a bar
and I don't usually frequent tourist attractions or nightclubs
Thai ladies come in a variety of shapes and sizes
In my opinion, they aren't as intellectually fascinating as western ladies
There is a general consensus that people are shallow and preoccupied with things like appearance, social status, and other frivolous pursuits
A large number of people, even those who are well educated
Lack a basic understanding of the rest of the world
Of course, I've worked with some quite intelligent Thai ladies
but as a whole, I wouldn't characterize them as international
Following their marriage, Thais are the most unfaithful people in the world
They put a lot of effort into their appearances in Bangkok, which is why they dress so beautifully
Compared to western women
They are not as aggressive or confrontational
Yet, they may be nasty and lack etiquette when they're irritated
and they believe they don't want anything from you
I've also seen several Thai ladies who have no morals and are willing to lie to get their hands on your money
Many lovely ladies are looking for a long-term serious relationship with someone who will accept them for who they are
Flaws and all
There are also a few women who are constantly having a good time and are a delight to be around
As a result, it is dependent on the individual
Add my name to the list of guys who believe Thai ladies are the best thing that has ever happened to them
In 2014, I met my wife online
We began talking over skype
She took me on a tour of her village as one of the first things she did
Everywhere she went she made people grin and laugh
She then drove me to her school where she teaches
Her classmates admiration for her was deep
On weekends, she would travel to her brother's residence
Which is also where her mother resides
She'd clean the house, do the laundry, cook, and care for her elderly mother
This includes nearly daily visits to the temple
I never thought I'd fall in love over the internet but skype proved me wrong
I knew I loved her, even before I met her
It was the best day of my life when I discovered she loved me exactly as much as I loved her
In 2012, we were married in Thailand
It took nearly two years of hopping through hoops to bring her to the United States
I anticipated that there would be something about her that I didn't know or that would change once she arrived
There hasn't been anything like it
She still goes to the temple frequently and I accompany her
Every day we make each other laugh
It is a very lovely existence
Updated: December 12, 2018
It's taken me a while to write this I'm feeling very stupid and it's me to blame
While I was in it for the long haul I was only a stepping stone for her
Everything was good when I paid for her every wish and put her through school
As soon as I lost my job, she grabbed all of my money and fled to her wealthy pals
Whom I despised
As if that wasn't enough, she continued to deceive me and build a gap between myself and my family
Before I filed for divorce, she abandoned me for a year
She is now attempting to steal all I own
She will not ruin me, I'm not concerned with money but it's everything that matters to her
I find the whole thing amusing
Until we separated, we never had a bad day
It was still the most enjoyable five years of my life
I reasoned that if I kept giving her money, she'd lose interest in it
I treated her like a princess, it's me to blame
I don't believe she actually cared much about me at all
This is a sobering dose of truth collected from first-hand accounts of a large number of people
Many people in Thailand will tell you that the country is wonderful and the ladies are wonderful
But I can assure you that the truth is quite the opposite
Although Thailand and the ladies there have their advantages
I can assure you that getting to know them and the nation as a whole is no stroll in the park
It's a daily struggle you won't notice until you've lived in Thailand for a while
and have had plenty of time to get used to it
What I initially posted will not be repeated
You get what you pay for if you marry a bar girl or a naïve farm girl
This is due to the fact that money is the most important thing in this country
As soon as you run out of it, they are done with you period
When they see you, they don't care about your old, sagging physique, or hairless head
They are not interested in your farang food or your farang culture unless it's a query about English grammar or speaking English
Because they need to utilize the language for some purpose
A Thai woman's brain is like a teenager's
So when you marry one, you're really marrying a child in a woman's body
When it comes to lying, they are among the most talented
A polygraph machine wouldn't be able to keep up with a Thai if it was linked up to them
They thus require a truth detecting machine
Those people are masters of the art of deceiving
Certain things will come to mind for a few of you
Some might say that my Thai wife never cheats on me and she's a decent person with a good upbringing etc. etc.
I'm sure she is, there aren't many of these and even if there were it's not the norm
It's best if you marry a Thai woman who was orphaned so that you won't have to deal with the family's demands for money
Whatever number of men she's told you she's had a relationship with
When multiplied by five or six that's how many guys she's had relationships with
Farangs are often married to ignorant rural girls or ex-bar girls
So yes, this is a real problem
Most westerners in Thailand aren't as foolish as those who mistakenly assume
That the bar lady they met loves them and go on to fall in love with her
Buy her a house and marry her
At least with a p.r.o.s.t.i.t.u.t.e, you'll know where you stand
For the past two of those years, my Thai wife and I have lived together
Though we haven't been legally married
My last relationship was with my ex-wife who was an American
We were married for 20 years and had a wonderful relationship
I had no intention of having a Thai girlfriend
Much less a wife but life has a way of working things out
She put forth a lot of effort to win my affections and she continued to do so for a long time after that
Many things about my Thai wife remained positive but there are also aspects of her that irritate me greatly
1) the pursuit of ever more wealth
She never asks for a salary, money sent home, loans to family members, automobile purchases, or anything else like that
Like many others, she aspired to run her own business (cosmetics)
I gave her the money for that business and she lost the money that she promised to return
I have not seen a baht in five years
It's gone, went bankrupt of course
She wants to start a new company and I'm expected to pony up a million baht or she'll want 20,000 baht in salary
There's no need to worry about anything
You establish a business and it fails, then you come up with something new and ask for money
If that one fails, you come up with something else
Although. she has two businesses already making money
My wife is the first one to reach into her own wallet for food, rent, and other necessities
So far, she's been able to pay the rent and school fees for her two boys
That's not all she does though she also sends money to her mother
My friends in Thailand claim it's unusual for a Thai to repay someone once they have their money in their hands
We'll have to wait and see
2) cultural difference between Thais and foreigners
There is a huge difference between my wife and I
She has no hobbies other than working, earning money, and watching television
I'm a well-rounded individual, who enjoys the arts, plays a variety of instruments, and speaks a few languages
After about five sentences
My wife's eyes glaze over and she grabs her phone
I've given up attempting to explain anything to her
She doesn't care about it since it isn't amusing or enjoyable
She's a smart businesswoman but she's mainly interested in making money and watching Thai soap operas and comedies on tv
I'll leave you with this
I was seriously injured in a car accident on Christmas eve last year
and doctors didn't expect me to survive
Because I was in a coma and didn't have health insurance
My wife couldn't get into my bank account because she couldn't get into it
To help fund my procedures, she and her family, including her sons, and my brother-in-law
Sold some of their gold
To top it all off, she stayed with me in the hospital for two weeks
Sitting by my side through the gruesome details
All the while, hearing the doctors tell her to be strong and that I may still die
During the four months she cared for me, when I returned home she helped me get back on my feet
and return to a more regular life
I definitely would have died if she and her family hadn't helped
She didn't tell me anything about it, so I discovered it on my own
In general, Thai wives are very difficult to understand and sometimes irrational
but if you can figure them out, they can be very loyal
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