hey guys it's practical psychology and this video is going to be a
collaboration with insight junkie on body language body language is one of
the most fundamental techniques you have to know about if you want to attract
someone into your life most people think a body language is something that you do
subconsciously but a lot of times you can consciously change your body
language to communicate what you want it can be used to convey that you're
important that you have a purpose that you might be interesting all of which
makes you more attractive now there is a hidden benefit of knowing about body
language that most people overlook social norms don't allow us to say
everything we want to in an overt manner for example in a situation where you're
not sure if it's acceptable for you to directly tell someone that you like them
you can show that through your body language engage someone's reaction to
see if the feelings are mutual you can create communication and a covert manner
so let's move on to the first step number one keeping an open body language
when you first meet a stranger especially a cute girl it is very
important for you to convey that you're not a threat if you walk up to her with
a serious face with your hands in your pockets and she's probably going to be
scared so make sure you have a smile on your face the other thing is to have
open palms people instinctively put their hands up with their palms out when
they want to show that they have surrendered and this is because of a
reason when we show our palms subconsciously we are telling people
that we have nothing to hide we have no weapons and we aren't a threat this puts
people at ease and it'll allow you to get your foot in the door with a girl
that you've been talking to while talking to her just keep your palms open
in fact here's a bonus tip for you if you're going to shake her hand slightly
tilt your hand upwards in normal circumstances this can be a bit
submissive but if you're meeting a girl for the first time it can be helpful in
making sure that she realizes that you're not a threat the next point is
also very fundamental and all that inside junki explain this one
hey guys insight junkie here and the second my voice hits your ears you've
probably already made a few judgments maybe you like the sound of my voice or
maybe you don't like the way I talk whatever the case may be
your brain has made a split decision and now you're going to be hearing my words
through that filter and this is basically what a first impression is and
in most situations your first impression on a girl will be how you walk up to her
having a masculine gait shows her that you're in control of your environment
and are not afraid of anyone and that is very attractive you need to walk in a
slow and controlled way have you ever seen a movie or a music video where the
hero of the story is walking through a crowd and he's
have to be going slower than everyone else that's because he is in control and
he's not afraid to be in public he doesn't want to hide himself behind
anyone or anything that is very attractive so walk slowly and make sure
that you look ahead don't look down on your phone look into people's eyes now I
know this can be intimidating at first but really think about it if you get
into the habit of making slight eye contact with everyone you walk by maybe
even give them a little head nod and smile when that cute girl walks by it
will come naturally to you you would even have to fake it and you already
have shown her that you're an attractive man the next tip is to have great
posture number three posture nothing is more
unattractive than a guy who's slouched over all the time pull your shoulders
back keep your chin up and have your back straight a really helpful way of
having great posture is to imagine that you have a string above your head and
somebody was pulling on it keeping your spine and neck straight also you need to
get rid of your bad posture habits this means not using your laptop while you're
in your bed on your back eating Cheetos if you're using a computer lot make sure
to take breaks every hour or so just to do some stretches and realign your
posture I actually recently went to a chiropractor and he told me the same
thing a great exercise that I would recommend for getting a great posture
our deadlifts deadlifts just make your back muscles stronger and these muscles
will pull your shoulders back and give you the body language of an alpha while
also making you stronger another exercise that you can try is to stand up
against a wall with your body touching the wall and put your hands back on the
wall make sure that your elbows are connected on the wall and then move your
arms up and down while making sure that your elbows stay connected make sure to
really squeeze your back muscles while you're doing this I suggest 10 reps of
these for 3 sets every day until your posture improves the next point is to
pay attention to your feet your feet while you're talking to someone can
weigh a lot about your intentions if you're talking to a girl you just met
and both your feet are pointed directly at her this can also make her feel like
you're coming on too strong so be strategic with how you position your
feet if you're meeting someone for the first time then it's best that you keep
a 45 degree angle with your feet as if you were ready to leave at any moment
later as you get to know someone you could also try squaring up to earth with
your feet directly and see how she responds back if she backs up a little
like she's getting intimidated you know you should back off a bit but if she
seems comfortable or maybe even comes closer to you and you
know that she's interested tip number five is to don't be a spaz this is more
of a general tip on how you should conduct yourself if you're all over the
place moving your arms everywhere running to everything and in general
just being a clown then you're not going to be perceived as being very attractive
funny maybe attractive nope don't be in a rush
breathe deeply meditation helps a lot with this as it will ground you and help
you be more present in the present moment here's a mindset that you really
need to have you are enough you don't need to impress anyone you are here to
have fun you are confident and secure about who you are just say this in your
head again and again until you actually believe it it's called an affirmation
fake it until you make it when you keep this mindset your body language is
automatically going to reflect your thoughts if you're thinking about your
mortgage or your work problems or you seem to be very distracted then your
body language is obviously going to reflect that and it's not very
attractive so be present and breathe in the moment and then your body will relax
and be at ease and that will show confidence and just to wrap up this
video I want to tell you about a concept that I got from a great TED talk by Mark
Bowden and he's an expert on body language a lot of you might be thinking
that why should we have to put in all of this effort to understand body language
I mean shouldn't we just be who we are what's the point of learning attractive
body language anyway so I want to tell you about why you need to learn to be
inauthentic with your body language sometimes if you want to convey
something important imagine that you have the most important message in the
world that everyone needs to hear but you go onstage and your voice is very
low and you're all nervous and the words don't come out right and you stood all
hunched up with your hands in your pocket and nobody paid attention to you
its spite of having a strong message you failed because you didn't know about
body language in the same way imagine that the cute girl you're going to
approach is going to be the girl you're meant to be with not only that imagine
that you're the best guy for her wouldn't it be a shame if you don't want
able to get together just because you wouldn't know how to present yourself
properly and attractive body language is like a huge billboard that says that
you're attractive and trustworthy just changing this alone will do wonders for
your social and love now keep in mind I'm not telling you to
be inauthentic in your interaction be who you are but learn to present
yourself in an attractive way if you do it for long enough what was once in
authentic but become very authentic and a part of who you are and you will be
infinitely more attractive I really hope you guys enjoyed watching this video and
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