- Hey, everybody, today I'm gonna offer five ways to know
that you need to get back in therapy.
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I heard from many of you that you didn't know
when you needed to go back and if you took a break,
you wondered if it was a bad thing
to actually reach back out
and how many times can someone go to therapy?
There were so many questions
and know that yes, you can go back at any time.
It's better to go back sooner rather than later
and there are gonna be different times
in each of our lives where we feel the need
to go to see someone so we can just talk it out,
have an unbiased opinion,
somewhere where we can process through
all that we're feeling.
So know that there's no limits
to the number of times you can go to therapy.
I've been in and out of therapy
since I was probably 15 years old.
I'm 34 now so that's quite a while of me popping in and out.
So know that there's no limits to it
but the first sign that we need to get back in therapy
is that we are really tearful or cry for no reason.
I know personally that this is one of my signs.
I'll be watching a commercial for God sake
and it will be somewhat emotionally
tugging on my heartstrings and I will cry
without any warning.
I could be reading something in a magazine and feel tearful.
I could be watching something on Instagram and wanna cry.
I don't have any way to stop the tears
which means that I'm emotionally full
and that's when I need to go see someone,
I need to call my therapist, I need to talk to her
because I'm so full of everything
I haven't processed through that it's coming out my eyes.
That's how I personally know that I need to be in therapy
and I find that it rings true
for many of my clients as well.
And the second way to know
that we need to get back in therapy
is that we find ourselves just thinking negatively
a lot about ourselves, about others
and we aren't able to talk back to it
or we find ourselves even just shutting down
with the sheer amount of negativity going on
and the reason for this is because we haven't had anybody
to talk to about it and we're not practicing our tools
and using them.
There are points in time after being out of therapy
for a while that it can be hard to use our tools again
and to get back in the habit of arguing back
and taking that time at the end of the day
or at the beginning of the day
or maybe all times during the day to fight the negativity.
We can forget to do that and find ourselves falling back
into those old, negative thought cycles
and that rolls right into number three
which is if we find ourselves slipping back
into old, unhealthy habits.
That could be those negative thoughts
that we can't fight back against.
This could be eating disorder behavior.
I have a lot of clients who will call me
because they find themselves
having those eating disorder thoughts with more frequency
or doing small things that may not seem like a big deal
but they're just, it's the eating disorder being so sneaky
and getting back in little by little.
This could be self-injury urges
or urges to drink or use drugs
if you were an addict and you're in recovery.
Whatever it is, if we find those unhealthy habits
creeping back in, please reach out for help,
call your therapist and get back in as soon as possible
and the fourth way to know
that we need to get back in therapy
is if we feel like our emotions are running us
and are in control of us versus us being in control of them
and this usually presents itself with angry outbursts.
I've had a lot of clients come back in to see me
when they said that they just yelled at their waiter
at the restaurant and they're normally not like that
or they've had a lot of road rage struggles lately
and that's just not how they are in traffic usually.
They just relax into it and submit to the process.
Any of those things, if you find yourself
becoming easily upset
and not being able to control your anger,
that could be another sign
that we just need somewhere to go and talk about it.
If you can kind of see all of these different reasons,
have the underlying element of the need
to talk to somebody about it and process through it
and that's why if we have a good support system
in place already, it can extend the time
in between needing therapy
because we have other people in our lives
that we can talk things through but as we all know,
friends and family cannot completely take away
the need for a therapist.
Seeing a therapist is totally different
because it's an unbiased perspective
and they're trained to offer up tools and techniques
to stop it from happening again
but having supportive people in our life
can be extremely helpful
and help us process through some of that stuff
before we feel ourselves becoming angry for no real reason
and the fifth and final way
to know that we need to get back in therapy
is if we have any thoughts of death or killing ourselves.
Even if those thoughts come and go,
that is a sign that we're having a hard time.
If we're feeling so hopeless
that we consider death as an option,
we need to talk to someone about it
and sooner rather than later
because even though it can feel like we're in a dark hole
and there's no way out, talking to someone about it
and just having that little, teeny glimmer of hope
can keep us going and prevent us from doing something
that maybe we don't really wanna do
and I wanna end this video by letting you know
that we all can benefit from therapy all the time.
You don't have to have all five of these reasons.
In fact, you don't even have to have one.
All you have to have is just a desire to feel better
or to talk to someone to get some stuff off your chest.
I know that therapy has been super helpful for me
just to talk things out
that maybe I'm afraid to say out loud
to those people in my life that care about me
because I'm afraid of what they think when I say that
and that just gives us a safe space to do those things.
Don't think you have to be at the end of your rope.
Don't think that you have to feel like total shit.
Reaching out sooner rather than later is always a good idea
and finding a therapist that you can call
to get back in when you need to is great.
So taking the time before we're in an emergent need
for therapy can give us that space and time
to find the right therapist
'cause it can take seeing three, four,
sometimes five therapists before we find the right fit.
So know that even though I mentioned these five signs,
you don't have to have any of them to seek therapy.
I would encourage all of you to consider,
I would encourage all of you to look into it
and know that it can be extremely beneficial.
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what signs and symptoms do you look for in yourself,
how do you know you need to get back in therapy?
The more we share and the more we talk about it,
it could spark and idea in someone else's mind
where they realize, hey,
I should probably get in therapy too.
You never know because we're working together
towards a healthy mind and a healthy body
and I will see you next time.
Bye.