Matt: Imagine you're just hanging out with your friends and you see a drop-dead
gorgeous woman that makes your heart skip a beat and your stomach flip. You
start to imagine what her ass looks like under that dress when suddenly
everything that you wanted to say to her seems to suddenly get sucked out of your
brain and you're left completely blank. Before you even have a chance to make
your move, she disappears. Never to be seen again. If you're nodding your head
in agreement and reliving the frustration, don't worry, you're not alone.
After all most of us are just not taught how to talk to women when we're growing
up. The good news is it doesn't have to be this way. Learning how to talk to
beautiful women and sparking attraction is a learning skill just like any other.
I'm Matt Artisan from The Attractive Man, and this is four tips to talk to
girls to spark attraction.
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Matt: A woman wants to be turned on. We've done all the testing, we know what works.
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Number one: Opposites attract.
Would you like to know the key to making her sexually attracted to you? Show her your
masculine side. For there to be sexual attraction
you need to have polarity between masculine and feminine energy. You see
the women that you probably find most appealing are deeply attracted to
masculine men. Just like how you're probably attracted to very feminine
women. Just like magnets, when you put the same charged sides together they repel.
But when you bring two opposite sides together, they attract. So make sure to
show her a lot of your strong masculine side because she won't want to sleep
with you if you show too much of your soft feminine side. Unless she's a very
masculine woman of course. That means speak loudly with a powerful low voice
stand up tall and be proud. No slouching or closed body language, speak your mind
and don't be afraid to say no to her. This basically means don't be a pleaser
or supplicate and always make sure to lead the interaction and bring her into
your world. And of course have strong eye contact this is absolutely crucial. This
means don't blink too much or shift from eye to eye as you're looking at her. Now
I'm not saying that you should be aggressive to her, don't do that. But if
you act like a wimp you're not gonna get the girl, period.
Number two is: Emotion versus logic. One common mistake that a lot of guys make
when learning how to talk to beautiful women is they communicate logically when
they should be communicating emotionally. While logic certainly has its time in
place, it's certainly not the language of seduction. Women respond to emotions. For
example when you're teasing them, or breaking rapport, you're spiking emotions
of fun and excitement, and when you're building a connection, you're spiking
emotions of safety, security, and intimacy. On the contrary speaking logically
pretty much has no benefit when it comes to turning on women or making them want
to be with you. So instead you need to speak through feeling and connect with
her emotion, spark her emotions. Doesn't mean you need to always be talking about
feelings, it should almost be like an emotional roller coaster where the
emotions go all over the place. If it's just flat-lined, and then
you're gonna end up in the friend zone. And don't worry, I'm gonna show you
exactly how to do that that's why I created a free Conversation Cheat Sheet
and I have a link for you down in the description. Number three: Self-amusement.
Self-amusement is exactly what it sounds like. It's using the interaction as an
opportunity to amuse yourself. This is where guys really screwed up because
they do the opposite, they're always trying to amuse her but that just comes
off as needy, supplicating, and reaction seeking, and doesn't work. Once you get
the hang of it, you'll never run out of things to say, you'll feel good talking
about things that actually matter to you, instead of doing what most guys do and
try to amuse her, try to entertain her, but when you're interested in or amused
by what you're saying you'll be speaking with enthusiasm and passion and the girl
will naturally be interested as well. Here's a few ways to self amuse: Talk
about things that you're passionate about. When you're talking about your
interest or your hobbies speak with passion in your voice. Remember
enthusiasm is contagious. Also debating topics that you find
interesting. However, stay away from politics or religion, unless however her
political view or religious view could be a deal-breaker, in that case figure
that out as soon as possible. You can also make jokes that you think are funny
regardless of whether she thinks it's funny or not. Now try not to offend her,
however one time I was at the bar with one of my good friends, and he cracked a
penis joke and the girl just rolled her eyes and walked away, but we didn't
really care. Neither of us were trying to impress her, we were just having fun and
being self amused and I noticed that she looked back at us to notice our reaction
of her leaving and saw that we didn't really care, she came straight back and
she said "Well okay I guess that joke was pretty funny" and I was like "Heck yeah
d**k jokes are always funny!" You can also just tell her to do something that
amuses you, for example: I like to have girls draw me pictures, and a lot of them
actually do it. Oh hey by the way, if you're not already subscribed, hit that
subscribe button because I have a lot of videos coming out. Number four is:
Qualification. Qualifying a girl is basically just testing to see if she
fits certain criteria that are important to you and this demonstrates that you're
a man with standards and it puts her in the position of trying to prove herself
to you. Perhaps most importantly it ensures that the women that you're
allowing into your life are the exact types of people you want to surround
yourself with. Now before you qualify a woman, you need to take the time to
actually figure out what's important to you in a woman. For example: What
personality traits do you value? How do you want her to treat herself and those
around her? How do you want her to be sexually? The more specific you are with
your qualifications, the clearer the image of your ideal girl will be in your
head, which will make it easier for you to spot her when you see her. Once you
know what you want you can simply ask the girl questions to see if she matches
the qualities that you're looking for. For example, if I want a girl with some
sort of passion in life, I might ask: "So tell me something that you're interested
in, like I don't know what are you passionate about?" If I want a girl that
would be down to go hiking with me, I might ask: "Have you ever been hiking?" "Yeah"
"And did you like it? What did you think about it?"
Once you're able to congruently qualify women, she'll be eating out of the palm
of your hands. I know that sounds kind of bad, but listen man, women love a man
who's a challenge. They don't want to feel like you're attracted to them just
because their looks, or that they won you over just like that. She wants to feel
like she had to earn your attraction to her, so hopefully you're beginning to
understand how powerful it is to be the type of man who knows how to talk to
women in a way that demonstrates that he has standards. Now if you want to learn
more of exactly what to say and how to talk to women,
I created a free Conversation Cheat Sheet. You get my top conversation
starters for any situation, simple techniques to never run out of things to
say, simple ways to escalate the interaction and more. Download it right
now, because you'll want to keep it handy before you go out. So just click the
image in the bottom right of this video right now to download your Conversation
Cheat Sheet. And if you're not subscribed to our channel then go ahead and hit
that subscribe button! And if you want us to personally mentor you, then make sure
to check out our boot camp schedule. My name is Matt Artisan from The Attractive
Man, and i'll see you in the next video.