Hello! Welcome to the second video of my Tinder series.
Today, I'm giving you my ultimate three tips on using Tinder.
That together with what you learned about photos in the last video, links up there, should
allow you to be one of those exceptional women who find and keep an awesome guy from Tinder.
I'll see you in just a second.
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All right, now I'm giving you the strategies that I teach my own clients to help them find
the golden needle in the proverbial Tinder haystack.
Okay, brace yourself right now because this first thing you are going to hate me for,
you need to swap right way more often. Like 70% of guys.
Okay, and before you stop the video and become a hater, let me explain.
There are good guys on Tinder. I promise you, I promise you they're on there.
But the problem is all Tinder gives you is a few photos and a tiny paper resume.
Now, I don't care how intuitive you are, you cannot spot a good guy from just that.
Swiping left a lot and then swiping right on only the hot guys is not high standards.
Like we like to tell ourselves, it's just judging a book by its cover on Tinder.
The good guys are always hidden. So always give the benefit of the doubt.
When you swipe right a lot, it ensures you still catch those potential good guys in your net.
You can't be a sniper on Tinder.
You've got to get down there, get in the trenches and made lots of guys.
Now, this will give you a lot of matches, so slow down.
Rather than clutter up your inbox, swap right on seven out of 10 guys.
Then just talk to those guys for a while.
Now, the second thing is you want to screen out any guys that goes straight to talking about sex.
So any hints that he's on Tinder just for sex, just rule him out, easy, simple, done.
Any guy that tries to turn the conversation that way, gone.
It's clear what his intentions are, so save yourself the time and don't even bother with him.
Now, number three, third tip, if it's going well, give him your number quickly, start
a conversation, exchange a bit of banter, and then say something like, "Hey, great chatting,
but I've got to get to gym. Call me tonight though.
My number is blah," or, "Hey, I'm not a huge fan of messenger. Prefer to meet people in real life.
Call me after seven tonight and we'll continue this number, name x."
Three great reasons to do this.
Number one, messenger is an awful way to get to know someone.
You can't judge his mannerisms.
You can't judge his sense of humor or get any feel for chemistry.
However, if you talk to him on the phone and hold a great conversation, it's almost certain
you'll be able to do it in person.
Number two, you'll build more confidence when you're talking to guys regularly.
You're going to get really comfortable talking to new men, which is going to help you right
throughout your dating.
But most importantly, number three, it's part of the weeding out process.
We've already set up our pictures.
If you watch the last video to attract the right kind of going on Tinder.
Now, we're setting up our conversations to push away the wrong types of guys as well.
Guys, after one thing on Tinder, hate the phone, they hate it, it means they have to
connect with you, invest time in you.
It takes no balls at all to send a girl, "Netflix and chill" over messenger and that's why they
do it and they will do it if you stay on messenger, but if you ask them to call you, most of them
won't waste their time. It's like magic. They'll put you in the too hard basket.
This is the best way by far to get rid of these guys.
You've been swiping right a lot so you'll have a lot of matches, but you'll lose a significant
number of them in this step and that's a good thing.
Those few who do call you will be guys who want to put in time and effort to getting
to know you and maybe they're not the most beautiful guys on Tinder photo-wise, but would
you rather a 10 who wants sex, or a 7 who becomes a 10 once you get to know him as a person?
Set up your photos to draw in as many good guys as possible.
Swipe right a lot and get a lot of matches to message you.
Screen out guys who go straight to sex talk and move your conversations quickly to the phone.
You can find love on Tinder and good guys are out there.
You just have to know how to find them.
Well, let me know how you go with that, and if you enjoyed the video guys.
Uh, I'm thinking of doing a video on writing your Tinder profile as well, so let me know
if that's one you'd like to see. Pop in the comments below if you'd be keen to see that video
Other video on the photos is in the description as well below.
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I hope that gives you great Tinder tips, and I'll see you very soon.