Use Your Hands To Communicate Like A Badass [0:00:00]
So, you’re walking across the stage about to give a presentation to a hundred people
and all of a sudden you started to think, what do I do with my hands?
Well, you can’t get rid of them, but do you put them behind you?
Do you put them next to your side?
Do you bring them up?
You feel awkward.
Guys, if this is you, you’re going to love today’s video.
We’re talking about hand placement when you’re walking or talking.
What to do with your hands when you’re nervous.
Are you ready, guys?
Let’s get into it.
[Music] So, let’s start things off by talking about
why it’s so important that when you speak you talk with your hands as well.
This is based on the 2005 study coming out of the University of Rome.
People are more likely to listen to you when you’re using your hands.
So, if a number of people are speaking, you’re going to listen to the person whose hands
are moving.
And then, when you’re listening to them, you’re actually more likely to hear them
even if they’re speaking with the same voice.
When you don’t have hand movements, people can’t hear you as well.
Next up, they’re more likely to understand what you just said and they’re more likely
to remember what you just said.
And the last two points I think are pretty obvious when it comes to hand gestures is
they help you exaggerate and add emphasis to what you’re saying and, they express
your state of mind, basically, your level of emotions.
Now, before I get into specific hand gestures.
I want to talk about best practices.
So, let’s draw a box right here.
We’re going to go about 36 inches and then about 24 inches down.
This is the box that you want your hand gestures to fit into.
And basically, you’re going to stay within this box.
If you go outside the box, you are crazy man.
If you have no gestures at all, you are robot.
This is very culturally-based.
So, you’re going to find maybe in Canada over in India very different than it is in
the United States over in England or Australia.
So, how many gestures per minutes should you be using with your hands when you’re giving
a presentation when you’re talking to people?
Well, if you’re doing ten or less, that is low.
If you’re doing forty or more, that is a bit high.
Now, there’s an interesting study over at the Science of People and they looked at the
best TEDx speakers when they’re giving presentations.
Twenty six gestures per minute is what the best average.
Now, what about holding things when you’re giving a presentation maybe a clicker?
So, you go to the slides, maybe you want to have a pen, so you can do a point you’ve
got a laser pointer or just you want to have something in your hands.
I think this is good especially if you’ve got bad habits which we’ll get into here
in a few minutes.
But, I’ve got certain little things that I do when I’m talking, I’ll touch my ring
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All right, gentlemen.
So now, let’s talk about the ten useful hand gestures and positions that any man can
use.
First up, open hands.
This is all about honestly.
It’s showing your hands, showing that you have nothing in your hands that you’re not
going to attack the other person.
Next up, we’ve got open arms.
This is showing you’ve got nothing to hide.
Now, again, don’t go overly crazy here unless that is your intention.
But open arms, it signals I want to bring you in, I am open to your ideas and to what
you’re bringing.
Next up, we’ve got the fist pump.
Oh, yeah, this is signaling victory that something good just happened.
This is about emphasis and sending a signal of strong emotion.
Next up, we’ve got the hand rubbing.
This is all about plotting.
This is all about, okay, we got something sneaky going on.
I’m thinking here, something’s going.
Basically, the wheels are turning.
Next up, we’ve got the hand on the heart.
This is showing that you are sincere that this is coming from the heart.
Next up, we’ve got stop, halt, do not come any farther, stop what you are doing, I’m
interrupting you.
A very powerful signal, be very careful with this one.
Now, this one, you want to be very careful with as well and that is pointing.
People don’t like it when you point to them, but if you’re talking to a group and you
want to get the point across, you can point up a bit, you can point down and oftentimes
this gets the audience to look in a specific direction.
[0:05:08] Now, the next example I’ve used in a number
of my videos and that is this versus that.
And I do a lot of comparisons and that’s what we’re doing here.
We’re taking a person over and we’re being very clear that there is something over here
and that something over here they are very different.
Next up, we’ve got tiny versus big.
And, again, it gets the point across and helps people remember especially useful in a story.
Next up, we’ve got the spread fingers.
And this one is showing that you are in charge, that you are calculated, that you are calm.
You can move your fingers out.
I rarely use this one, but I do use the next one quite a bit and that is the praying.
Now, the praying I purposely try not to use this one.
I don’t want to send out that symbolism with it, but what I do is this right here.
I’ve used this many times already in this video.
I use this to emphasize a point that is important.
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Let’s talk about the five things you don’t want to do with your hands.
First up, your hips, you want to avoid putting your hands here because this sends the message
that you’re condescending that you’re overbearing that you are acting like a parent.
Next up, we’ve got crossed arms.
You’re cut off, you don’t want to be a part of what they’re doing, you disagree.
Next up, we’ve got hands behind the back.
This makes you look like you’re inspecting the troops that you’re aloof that you’re
above others.
Next up, we’ve got hands crossed in front.
This makes you look weak and timid.
And now, let’s talk about one that I admit I do and that is putting my hands in my pockets.
However, there are good ways and bad ways to do this.
Now, one of the worst things you can do with your hands is put both of them in your pockets
fully.
This makes you look nervous, it looks like you’re hiding something, you’re insecure,
you’re dishonest because what you’re doing is you’re hiding the hands.
Now, how to get away with putting your hands in your pockets?
Don’t put both, instead just put one and either expose your thumb or your fingers.
I like exposing the thumb, I think it’s more of a power look; the fingers, more of
a sexual look.
But what we see here with the fingers and the thumb is that this right here is a very
relaxed pose.
Now, if you’re going to continue to put both hands in your pockets, the best way that
you can do this is simply expose the thumb.
This right here, it just gives relax to casual look.
Now, if you expose the fingers, the problem here is that we’re pointing guess where?
Right at the crotch, so it’s a little bit of a sexual pose.
So, if the purpose of your hands is to give you balance when you’re walking, should
you just gesture when you’re walking?
I think it is fine if you’ve practiced and you know what signals and what message you
want to send.
And this takes me to my final point and that is to make sure that you control the gestures
that you’re using.
Everything we talked about in today’s video, it’s about you understanding the message
you send with your hands.
All right, gentlemen.
Now, it’s your turn.
I want to hear from you down in the comments.
Notice those hand gestures there?
Guys, the point is I really do want to hear from you, guys.
I love going down the comments and reading how you guys are using these information to
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So, really quick I want to share with you a pet peeve.
I hate it when I go down in the comments and people are talking about the size of my hands
or I use too many hand gestures.
Guys, I can’t do anything about the size of my hands.
This is just simply what I’ve got.
And if you’ve got big hands, you’ve got small hands, guys, don’t let the haters
don’t let it bother you.
Guys, haters are going to hate, you just got to get right past them, right?
Nothing I can do about the size of my hands.
It’s just simply the way I’m made.
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