To gaslight someone means to manipulate a person into questioning their own sanity
This is seen in abusive relationships
and even after the relationship ends
the effects of gaslighting can still progress
Consequently
It is important to identify such a relationship as soon as possible
get rid of gaslighters from your life
and keep them away from contact for at least a year, if not permanently.
Gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse
that gives the abuser power to make the victim question their own mentalites
Here are ten signs to help you identify if you are being gaslighted in an abusive relationship.
One.
Using your fears
Abusive people often act charming in order to extract information from you and use it against you later on
They take note of you vulnerabilities, especially for this reason
the abuser will want to feel like they're better than you
and make sure you think that way too
for example
if you have weight insecurities
the abuser will poke fun of your weight and constantly point out people who are skinnier than you
Two
Knowing you
Many abusers think and act as if they know everything about you
right down to your thoughts
If you try to claim otherwise
they will assume you're lying
they may even try to convince you that you are lying to yourself
Three
Normal changes
This is one of the most obvious signs of gaslighting
If someone tries to tell you something is normal when you think it's wrong you need to get out of that relationship
for example
If you don't want to take the next step in a relationship
but your partner calls you a prude rather than accepting your comfort levels you should watch out
keep in mind
abusers do not exist only in romantic relationships
but in professional relationships as well
Four
questioning your sanity
A person is abusing you and yet you're the one that's insane?
That's basically how it goes in the mind of an abuser
When an abuser does not get their way even through manipulation
they may become more intense by questioning your sanity
You're likely to be called paranoid
hormonal
or overly sensitive
Five
Making you doubt yourself
When someone says something over and over again you're bound to believe it eventually
because of frequent exposure to such comments
you will find yourself questioning your own judgement and may eventually give up completely and just let the other person think for you
Six
Forgetting
An abuser tends to have selective memory
where they may deny ever saying anything that upset you if you try to confront them about it
for example, they may have made a promise that was never fulfilled and then claimed the promise was never made
Seven
Making you lie
You may not usually lie
but this person may cause you to lie at times to avoid any verbal and or physical abuse to come
This lying is motivated by stress caused by the abuser
Eight
Causing you to stay silent
It is innate for humans to want to share their experiences
but being with an abuser may redirect that nature
You may avoid or stop talking with the abuser
and may even stop talking about yourself and your experiences to everyone in general
based of habit and trauma caused by the abuser
Nine
Making you question your sanity
Manipulative tactics can change the way people think drastically
when you are constantly trying to end an argument with an abuser
it may become easy to just go along with whatever the person is saying
but this slowly changes the way you think
You eventually start believing the abuser when they say you are in the wrong and should apologize
Ten
Making you depressed
Being worn down by an abuser can easily make anyone depressed
being pushed to question yourself and your sanity will get tiring over time and eventually lead to a feeling of hopelessness
worst of all
because you think you have issues such as paranoia and memory loss you are likely to search for treatment for the depression
and the mental problems rather than for the issue itself
the abuser
Now that you know some of the gaslighting signs
Do you think you've ever been gaslighted before?
If so
How did you get out of that relationship?
Feel free to tell your story in the comments below
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