Okay, you got this going on? We need to talk. You need to show you what is going
on and why this is too much in your life right now. I'm going to open up your mind
of what to do next of how to reduce this in your life.
I bet you have experienced this right here where you are trying to move
forward and you are running into a whole section of worry. And you know, it's
normal for us to have worry. It's normal for you to have worry. Because worry
means that there's something we're trying to evaluate, to be cautious, to be
careful, to figure out. But what if you're like excessive? What if you're like
really focused on worry? And you literally your whole day is full of
worry. You just can't let go of scenarios or situations or people and you're
constantly worrying. What's up with that? Why? What's going on? Is that normal?
No. It's not. If you can have worry here and there, that's normal/ but to be
completely dialed in and connected to worry all the time. There is something's going
on. There's something. Something's happen inside of your head that I can help you
with. Because I like that I can think of other things besides worrying. You know,
as a mother, if you if you have kids and you're a mother, you're probably worried
about your kids all the time. But guess what? Not all moms are like that. Why is
it that you're so into this worry experience that's going on? Here's what's
going on. Let me help you with something. On this drawing, you see that it looks
like you are up against worry. Like you're heading this direction. It seems
like you keep bumping into worry. Well, let me fix this picture a little bit. So
that you know what's really going on. On this picture, I'm going to draw a new
image that shows what is really happening. What's really going on. You see
as you are attempting to move forward in life, you think you are bumping into
worry. But actually, what happens is inside your
head, you have an experience in the past that you're still worried about. It...
It's already happened. The experience has already happened but you were so worried
about it. Then something happened and now
afterwards, you have not even let go of what's happened in the past that
continues to concern you. You see each one of us has experienced
that that happened to us in our life. And I had to learn like you're going to
learn that when I have an experience, that challenges me. That really tests me.
If I don't find the lesson learned from the experience, that experience will
continue to haunt me. If I have a bad experience and I don't find a lesson
learned, that experience will haunt me. After a week, after a month, after a year,
after a couple years. After many, many, many, many years. If I didn't go back in
my mind and go, "You know what? I learned from this experience." That past
experience will continue to be a concern for you. And the reason why this is
happening is because your brain is trying to process "Why did that happen?
Why did this happen to me?" And when you don't have an answer of why that
happened to you, your mind takes past concern and projects it into today as a
current concern. Unfinished, unresolved past concerns over things that have
happened to you come to the present. You see your brain doesn't know the
difference between past present and future. It does not even comprehend that
at all. Inside your head, the past the present and the future exist in the same
time zone. There's not three different things going on in
future past and present. Your brain on the inside just goes, whatever's happened
in the past still feels like it's happening today. And so even though it
happened 2 years ago, some some tough terrible thing happened to you. And you
have not found any lessons learned from it, you're still concerned about that
because you're going, "Why did that happen to me? Why me, why me, why me. Why now?" And
even though it's 2 years ago, your brain registers that as it happened
today. Because we still haven't solved this problem. So, worry... Actually the
worry you have today is an over concerned feeling. An over concern
feeling that is turned into worry. So, how do you solve this? How do you make this
better? Well, what you do is you write down a
list of all the different things you're worried about. And you write down a list
of all the things you have been concerned about in the past that you
have never figured out why that happened to you or or why you why then? And for
you, the best thing to do is to find a lesson learned. And I know it sounds
crazy, is like how can you learn from something terrible. Well, you actually can.
It teaches you something. When something terrible happens to you, it can actually
teach you of what never to do again. Or it can teach you how to better prepare
next time. Or it can teach you what kind of people to avoid? Or what kind of
situations to avoid? So, there's all kinds of things to learn from our past
experiences. But if you don't reconcile that past experience, that past
experience is not in the past, it's in your head. And whatever's in your head is
as though it's happening today. And those unreconciled past experiences are
creating an overwhelming worry for you today. You probably didn't know this,
right? You probably didn't know this. I didn't know this. But when I got trained
and I learned about this, oh my goodness. I started thinking about all these past
things that have happened to me that just thing...
That's just things like I was thinking about them that they were just problems.
But when I started attaching lessons learned to them, now those past
experiences can quiet down. Because there was purpose in it. I gained something
from that experience. That bad experience actually now has value. And when I can
reconcile those past experiences and close those chapters and close those
files inside my mind, it reduces the amount of worry I have today. Now, I'm...
Still pay attention I still look at things. But I'm not I'm not literally
being haunted by my past. So, your past concerns of what happened in your past.
And you haven't found those lessons learned is what's being projected to be
in front of you. This is how you manage worry as you clean up your past by
finding lessons learned. What did you gain, what value can you find from this.
And I'm not kidding. No matter what has happened to you. And I've seen some of my
own clients who have looked at some terrible things that have happened to
them. And they found some lessons learned. And as they go to reconcile each one of
those experiences, their current day doesn't have this overwhelming worry
going on. They actually feel more free. They feel free from their past, they feel
free in the moment. Because these are now closed down chapters because there's
value. And that's what our brain wants to know. What did we learn and what are we
going to do next time and did this help us. And if you can find that for your brain,
your worry levels are going to come way, way down. Well, hey I hope you enjoyed this
training and you're recognizing that it's time to make a list and look back
in your past and find some lessons learned. You can move forward with this.
And it's a definitely a stress reducer. And that's what I want to do for you is
I want to help reduce the stress and the worrying your life so you
and actually enjoy waking up in the morning. And why do I do this? Well I'm a
mentor. And I like helping people get into their life in order and helping
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