- [Kim Jang-Mi] I don't rely on it.
You get what I'm saying?
- [Dave] Just a little touch here and there.
- [Kim Jang-Mi] No it’s like, “Maybe today I want to play around with my filters.”
It's kind of like putting makeup on for me, right?
It's like sometimes I want to put makeup on sometimes I don't… You know?
So for me like filters… I kind of feel that way.
It doesn't— like for me like I don't put makeup on every single day.
Like sometimes even when I'm at my cafe, I'll look like **** right?
And I tell people…
I’m like, “Hey, sorry. I'm having a busy day today.
This is just how you're going to get me.”
Like this is it and that's it.
- [Kim Jang-Mi] Honestly, like my fear was…
Looking at a photo and not liking it and having it...
Having other people see it.
And I felt so insecure about that like whether it's my eyes closed
or I had like a double chin or anything.
I just felt so insecure that I used to just like refuse to take photos.
And I remember like fighting with my friends when they have like the digital camera.
Like my friend just bought a digital camera and she like took a photo of me
and I'm like, “Delete it. Delete it.”
And she's like, “Why I like this photo. I'm going to keep it.”
And I’m like, “No it's a picture of me. So I want you to delete it now.”
And we really got into an argument and that's how insecure I was and…
I think I just kind of outgrew it.
I just accepted the fact that you can't look perfect all the time.
Even if you don't look perfect all the time...
That's just me. You know?
If I can look good sometimes…
Sometimes I won't you know?
But just accepting me for who I am that day.
I think it took a really long time but it made me realize I was a lot happier with myself.
I didn't have to look perfect and pretty all the time.
- [Saul] Yeah. - [Kim Jang-Mi] Yeah.
- [Saul] It’s not a realistic standard to hold yourself to.
- [Kim Jang-Mi] Exactly.
- [Dave] It’s very unhealthy too.
- [Kim Jang-Mi] It’s really unhealthy.
- [Saul] I hate when I see people’s Instagram like and
they always turn their head the exact same way.
- [Kim Jang-Mi] Oh the same?
- [Saul] They always have their camera held in the same place.
- [Dave] I hate it when it’s really good friends of mine too.
- [Saul] Yeah.
- [Dave] I’m just like…
I know you don't look like that…
- [Sam] You don’t send them a DM?
- [Saul] And just let them know like?
- [Dave] I’m not gonna ruin their day.
They’re just trying to look nice for the camera.
- [Saul] I’d rather—
The way I usually deal with that—
If it’s somebody I’m friends with…
I’m like, “You look really good.
You don't have to try to change it.”
- [Dave] Man, I said that and they just kept doing it so...
- [Kim Jang-Mi] I’ve actually said that before and it worked.
- [Sam] “I love you just the way you are.”
- [Kim Jang-Mi] No like…
One of my really close oppas right…
- [Sam] Was he photoshopping himself?
- [Kim Jang-Mi] No he wasn’t photoshopping but he was using all these apps right.
- [Dave] Like filters yeah…
- [Kim Jang-Mi] And filters…
And honestly, like the thing is…
Like he has a very cool personality… like cool style.
He’s very cultured, right?
But with this filter it took— it washed all that away.
- [Dave] Thank you. I have a friend.
She's so pretty on camera, but the photos she puts on Instagram…
She’s such a good friend of mine.
- [Saul] And they cut your whole chin off.
- [Dave] And she looks so much better in...
- [Kim Jang-Mi] I mean I'm guilty of like filters too.
- [Dave] Yeah. There’s nothing wrong with it.
- [Kim Jang-Mi] I mean I think… - [Dave] It takes away, you.
- [Kim Jang-Mi] The thing is like… I don't rely on it.
You get what I'm saying?
- [Dave] Just a little touch here and there.
- [Kim Jang-Mi] No it’s like, “Maybe today I want to play around with my filters.”
It's kind of like putting makeup on for me, right?
It's like sometimes I want to put makeup on sometimes I don't… You know?
So for me like filters… I kind of feel that way.
It doesn't— like for me like I don't put makeup on every single day.
Like sometimes even when I'm at my cafe, I'll look like **** right?
And I tell people…
I’m like, “Hey, sorry. I'm having a busy day today.
This is just how you're going to get me.”
Like this is it and that's it.
And that's when I started realizing like I don't really…
I don't want to live up to that beauty standard anymore.
Like yes… I'm wearing false eyelashes right now.
But I've learned to like myself without it also.
And I think I really want women to understand that they can
or they are beautiful without all these things.
These little things that we do is just almost like a… a costume play.
- [Saul] And like art.
- [Kim Jang-Mi] And art. Or just being festive.
But you don't have to do it…
- [Sam] Like Christmas. - [Kim Jang-Mi] Every day.
- [Kim Jang-Mi] Like sometimes I want to feel prepped up.
Sometimes I want to be lazy and just you know, just be very natural.
- [Dave] Slay queen.
Slay queen.