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Oh God this room looks full and I'm so
bloody intimidated I think I'm leaving
okay we are talking about what if I was
in class 4th and I don't know how many
of you remember your life from that
point in time in your life but I was in
class 4th and it was our Slavia teacher
who used to on a personal level
one-on-one level used to hate me and for
some very odd reasons I don't know what
was the reason but she shared with us
the the world's most popular story the
story of car wash and quechua how many
of you heard that Wow
so she shared with me that story and not
with me but further with the class now
the problem was that car gauche was my
favorite animal and the basic reason
were to one I don't know how many of you
have ever dealt with a car wash or a
rabbit but there were two basic reasons
for that one when I was that young my
face was swollen but that is one of the
same size so I have a brotherly
relationship with car gosh and the other
one was that if you have dealt with car
wash you know that car gauche is one of
the most laziest animal you can ever
come across a car go she never moves
until there is a important urgent board
meeting yeah and that's what I loved
about car wash because I since my birth
have hated hard work I hate it so much
that I go for walk in a car just keep it
very simple right I just don't like
extra labor I was the only boy who used
to play cricket in formal shoes because
you don't need joggers to Empire a match
so that's that's how my life has been I
hate hard work and I'm so damn proud of
it and in fact every time I prayed from
Allah that please give me a job which
does not require any form of hard work
and so he listens so she shared the
story and I was pretty up
set about it because you all know that
story they started together carwash boho
targets allergy I decided to take a nap
were nap went long they can catch wasps
slowly and gradually shelter ah or pair
finally would G gaya and then the moral
of the story was slow and steady wins
the race
what if is the day I want you to think
about it by feeling your almighty
watching you over put your hands here
and tell me one thing
yeah got you hair is carnival item here
is it is it an animal that should be
engaged in something like this hello but
this race happened and then you know
what happened who did young and that's
okay I can tolerate that if we don't
come up with such lousy moral of the
story slow and steady wins the race
immature Super Soaker ooh tie every time
you're telling him shall de jaldi jaldi
jaldi jaldi jaldi jaldi and sham going
tell him slow and steady wins the race
da I think there is something going
wrong something is somewhere is screwing
everything up for us we have somehow
been told that slow and steady wins the
race this story didn't had that the
story is all about pray for mala that
your competitor sleeps because if it
doesn't your father can't even win
that's the problem which we have not
realized and you know what stories make
mind sets they develop mindsets and this
is what has happened on the name of hard
work so there's an envelope my question
would be ache what comes out of an
envelope come on
can I have some loud guesses before I
move forward what comes out of an
envelope money letter
good okay you're right you're right but
I'm the speaker I'll be ultimately right
it can develop save waha bharata joe
smith Donahoe right okay now do you know
what do we say
what's the english word for that process
of taking out of an envelope what's an
English word for taking it out from an
envelope take out and we'll okay your
words gone my chance develop envelope
develop and dare you're there with me
you remember all those oldies Hakeem
sons would know that one click of choc
erotica pelos co-develop or padam katate
oh god maybe not multi ironing it is
actually that ridiculous you see because
we didn't had filters them okay but now
what I'm trying to talk to you about is
a and will it's a barnacle in key
process Coquette they had developed so
what comes out of an envelope that is
what gets developed from an envelope
which was already in there but now when
I talk to these faculty members and
managers and parents all around and I
asked them hey it's your responsibility
to develop your children your students
your employee they say yes I say how you
do that they say we look at where my
child is struggling and then we try to
coach them train them and make them a
better person ridiculous idea because
develop means bring out what's there but
what we do to develop open B envelope
see what Allah missed out on
and try to compensate the mistake
there's something going wrong which we
need to address over here because what
is happening is we are missing out
greatness after greatness after
greatness on the bloody name of hard
work because somehow we have been told
and let me tell you a very strong and
very powerful and a very motivational
and very moving quotation by none other
than there's this popular man I don't
know if you know him or not but hazards
so Hills in 90 is what people call him
what he said what a profound thing he
said I want you to just internalize it
he said if you are bad at something and
you try hard you become not that bad but
if you are good at something and you try
hard you become world class and yes and
that's one thing which has somehow been
missed out on from the entire cycle of
development our absolute job is to look
at people see what's missing see what's
missing rather than what's in there it's
like such aunt and uncle's mom coming in
and saying bit of batting to sabotage
with a volunteer kadiköy why the hell
you want him to ball while he's crushing
the bowlers dream and this is one thing
which I think I look at it as my job as
my responsibility to go to people go to
parents particularly parents because
they love so much they just screw it up
I was at a school I'll not take the name
because this goes recorded I was at the
school and I was meeting I was doing a
parent-teacher meeting over there this
lady came to me and said so he'll ask
elke but here give me bottom is OB mega
tell me which Academy repeater he's in
ninth class it nah BB&T it notch I marry
baby's extra ethnic bottom is a 14 year
or medical care you kept me by Jessie
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Sydney kushti tomodea paddock you here
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you know I didn't replied her right but
there's a problem even if we have more
than a child at home
you must have siblings are the same
they're different in fact ridiculously
different and we somehow benchmark
somebody and then the rest of our life
is spent closing the gap getting better
I was ridiculous at maths in fact I'm
not that bad at maths but when alphabets
enter maths I don't like that I mean I I
kind of you know I like numbers with
numbers and alphabets with alpha but
don't confuse them I I think that's
ridiculous but I was bad at it and you
know people come and tell me get better
with it get better with my school life
was all about maths and my father was a
visionary he came to me and said so
he'll work hard
yeah coos vicaroo fail jnana and then I
concentrated on kuch bhi because that's
important you have to somehow survive
that's what the world is now nobody
gives a of the fact that do I know
maths or not I make enough money and I
have people to do the maths that's
important yet you keep your focus right
and you can't come out of it so I give
you an example the school where I
studied from they invited I am from
Hyderabad they invited me for their
management convention for which I was
absolutely excited and we went to
Malaysia I was praying from a lark away
generally tea genomically but to hide in
our short-term mission TiVo
I mean he needs an advance notice you
know for God's sake
duh but you know the teacher was there
and I looked at her and I just didn't
went into the room until the program
started because you know you don't want
to be disrespected before your session
and I went into my session I did my
session 10 o'clock we break for tea and
she comes to me she had tears in her
eyes
of course of happiness but she came to
me and she ordered me like this and said
so here I said yes ma'am she hugged me I
hugged her she said it may shake seok
and I told her to come out kobato me I
Anita
so now now that the conversation is
going and your blood is rushing and the
claps are coming I don't want to just
leave it by pumping you up I want to
give you a tool that you can use so here
are my three tools that I'm giving you
first I'm going to talk about sign si GN
then I'm gonna talk about stop sto P and
then I'm going to talk about free F R
double e and this is something that's
going to help you to look into what
you're good at
but before I get into these tools I'll
just take another minute by telling you
where you can improve the most in your
areas of strengths or in your areas of
weakness but bless you you know that the
speaker is talking about strength so the
answer would be strengths duh but I am
telling you that's not how it is because
once the report card comes in and you
have to a 2 B and 1 F you know where all
the muscles are going now nobody looks
at a we start with F water you know
that's the problem and we somehow have
to beat that mechanic so now what I'm
talking about because parents hate me
saying that parents want me tell them to
work hard I'm telling them but what I'm
telling them is to work hard to what
they are naturally gifted at I'm not
willing to work hard for something
that's not there
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you may laugh but that's how we are
screwing up a life what's their fresh
can be used at its best but then we are
saving it someday later
that's what I'm doing so now let's talk
about three basic ingredients first how
do you know people ask me so early our
strengths make sense but how to know
what are my strengths okay first let me
give you some sign to that s is success
activities that you have been successful
at naturally and this can be anything
think why think vaulting crazy
Europe I've seen students SE baat karta
cuz they could sketch Carter attend they
don't need somebody to tell them they
are good at Horace make think general
you know somebody have come to you and
said you are to Judi Poulter pathari
teachers but it's amazing that's the
skill you have some political
capabilities which can be utilized later
right in fact very recently as a nation
we have realized that as a country
leader you need to be a motivational
speaker and so I'm also now looking at
it for future but what I'm trying to
tell you my friends it's something very
important success because nothing beats
that something that you have been
successful with without any particular
intimidation without any particular
education you've been just good at it
even without talking to people you've
been good at meeting new people you've
been good at avoiding people anything
anything you good at and to make you
even better at it I'm telling you look
at the mischievous acts you were good at
there is a lot of sign over here I'm
telling you my daughter is her
Montessori bachata daniel ruzo squishy
karate team and I so wanted to meet him
because I tell you my friends monopoly
beta Kobe but I talked to Daniel Yoshi
arbequina
Yakuza Khamenei are they
these are very there in peaches party we
don't need them so Daniel was but I
wanted to meet him and I couldn't but
anyways my daughter had her birthday and
we went there with goodie bags and
children were standing in line type on
it in the--in sulky but she's standing
in line what a ridiculous idea isn't it
they should be coming all over the place
that's how nature created them and so
they were in the line and me my wife was
sitting over here we were then we're
giving brie bags and I had a ball
football the boy came in I was giving
the gift they were saying thank you
welcome kissy hug it was an amazing time
and then came a boy I gave him the ball
and he said Keith Nick I had and I lost
it because I didn't had any welcome for
that so I just got Earl and her teacher
shout Tommy I'll make a legend yeah and
I called him up I called him up and I
said thirty rupees cahier he looked at
the ball and he decided that it's a good
deal he said me Jericho pop Angelica
didn't work I met his papa I shook hands
he was in mine you know that I shook
hands and said I've capital he didn't
said yes I said are capita he said kiyah
kiyah I said coach bean I bought a
Arabic Ayaka he was overwhelmed is
Nicola clapping he was done in dusted
with him and I then sat down with his
father to understand what's what's the
problem and he started talking and after
listening to the problem I said to his
father there is a problem you must refer
a doctor he said suggest me one make up
do me up Kelly concert dr. Seliger
he said didn't we weren't we talking
about a child
Megan Evo to say her problem at me here
UK op team Nestle Mitchell apartness
losses Ghulam tad away hey Allah has
just blessed for you with a bloody
entrepreneur and you are telling Malik
Riaz how to buy a flat in Quran G and if
you can't buy buy it on rent by working
hard
duh he's gonna buy everything when I own
so much upon it i insult you murmur
pushed academic ahead and every time i
say if you're born poor that's not a
problem if your father-in-law is poor
then you should not complain because he
gave you a chance but now i'm moving
forward and i am giving you sign so s is
success i is instinct something that you
just voluntarily find yourself indulged
in to indulge into your teaching
somebody smes a cart a you're sharing
that somebody you're writing something
but instinctively you are driven in that
activity think about that this is
something where you lose track of your
time third is g growth things that when
taught to everybody and to you you were
able to better respond to that remember
we class miscarriage at ET some new
exotic i got it
oh yeah compelling identity because that
was a bloody sign which we ignored so
space of growth and last is need no
matter how much you do it your urge of
doing it never dies if I'm boxing I make
it heart but if somebody says one more
round yeah that's neat you don't get
tired of doing it so that's sign success
instinct Road needs now I give you stop
because people ask me so what to do with
weaknesses Jordan a I'm saying develop
your strengths manage around your
weakness I came to this city from
Hyderabad but he sat at a table I could
not speak in English for consecutive one
minute Maharaja Adam
now I do training outside Pakistan trust
me I don't do it in ortho in fact man I
wish my Malaysia makes session maybe
Shmi or Duval do Naga hard english'
I was okay with that but but i reaiiy i
realize that all those speaking was my
interest there was a tool which i was
missing at i worked around that and i
give a lot of credit to two girls in my
class when we were in principles of
microeconomics the first class that I
took at my university and we were asked
to present and you know how many of you
hate presenting just raise your hand
wonderful dunya katene but I dare him
Bella have public speaking dude I had
dead or teacher I had death while public
speaking so people do hate it that's not
a problem so when she said who's gonna
present in the next class I dropped my
pen and kept picking it up until she
selected too and I got up and then this
brightened up face came directly in
front of her and she said I'll play next
and I was like duh that week was the
most constipated week of my life
and then the next Monday I had to
present I went to these two girls
imagine the level of scared as I had I
went to these two girls I made them my
sister that's the last resort a man can
go to I made them my sister's just at a
term that they start presenting first
because the strategy was if these two
present we might get on with time and I
can save myself
but this has started with presentations
only and I knew there's no way out
the first girl I still hate her she
presented in English the second I still
love her because when she spoke she
spoke in English but to Smith Torah
Torah or Tony bola and I got so inspired
many be Torah Torah English my Bala and
that worked out so now somehow you also
have to stop upon weaknesses first is s
that stop then stop if it's in your
hands stop doing it stop doing those
forms of activities that does not gives
you power people may ask what is a
strength and what is a weakness no
strength is not what you are good at and
mark my words strengths is not what
you're good at you might have been good
at studying pre-medical for which you
selected MBBS which is now you know now
you need a MBBS to cure you because only
you were good at pre-medical duh so
strength is not what you were good at
and weakness is not what you were bad at
strength is something that strengthens
you and weakness is something that
weakens you no matter how good you do
you don't want to do it again are you
getting my point so first it stop stop
things stop doing it that's the first
thing but not everyone has that leverage
so let's move to T team up and offer up
you are weak at something make a team
with somebody who's good at that and
also offer up something that you are
good at offer it to somebody but last is
P perceive for God's sake don't look at
your weakness as a curse look it as a
feature it's a feature it's how you are
designed not everyone can do everything
Samina be x climb mountain and she did a
wonderful job she we invited her to one
of the camps that I was hosting and then
she came in there she talked to kids she
went off I was talking to a kid I said
captain item Co she said inshallah maybe
partially because to some opera Doggett
Omnitech cackling it that's what
inspires her let it be to her because we
all are unique in our individual sense
so second team up and offer up is there
but first feel your weakness as a
feature that's okay to say say you and
now last is free that's fr double e F is
focus focus focus on what you're good at
by following the sign following the sign
which I gave that is success instinct
growth focus on what you're good at and
once you do try
to release it these student hosted TEDx
events our amazing opportunity for that
you have a voluntary team executing this
entire show which I tell you we work in
the corporate sector even the best
professionals are not able to organize
it in such a seamless manner which is
incredible but now when these kids came
forward they also offered themselves up
for voluntary assignments these were
volunteers who who did that and I think
volunteering yourself allows you to
identify what you good at because you
would not volunteer for something which
you drain doing I think that's a great
opportunity communities that are
offering more voluntary services you'll
see those communities thriving over the
others because volunteering gives you an
opportunity to really identify what
you're good at because you don't want to
volunteer yourself for something which
you just don't like doing duh you know
that's so ridiculous I mean when the
voluntary carry or Museveni IKEA Fido
wha that's important so are is released
look out for the small opportunities e
is educate and I think that's very
important educate yourself in what
you're good at not at what you're bad at
because when you educate yourself in
something what you're bad at you are
trained educate yourself in what you're
good at
don't sell so here's in Donnie to a
finance for non finance manager program
send him to presentation skills he
learned better and last is expand and
what is expand look out for
opportunities to convert those little
movements little movements of strengths
to larger part of your day offer it
voluntarily offer it professionally
whatever it may be but do that why
because now I'm almost concluding what I
had to speak to you we were at a
a certification program that I was
attending and I really hope that I
control my emotions because at times I
get carried away with this but we were
at a certification program and our
instructor came and showed us a painting
and asked us to comment on it now
because the painting was horrible we
commented that way and we all bashed it
once we were all done there was this boy
sitting since morning in our room we
didn't knew who is he then the
facilitator said okay now I'll make you
meet the artist then you know what we do
know it's not running um you know the
cover-up technique so we all started
covering up and then he laughed he said
I was just kidding he's not the artist
we were like kind of you know we slept
with him decide carrucha Charu and then
he said something which moved me deeply
he said when you criticize an art you're
criticizing an artist so when you
criticize a human think who's the artist
he just creates the best
unfortunately what he blessed us with
the best we are somehow trying to fit in
to what others want it to be West and
that is taking away the real majestic
that has been created in us our ultimate
uniqueness something that makes you you
I'm not that motivational speaker who's
gonna come and say uplander Kiowas so no
that's ridiculous
and there's Rifkin pinky I was a CEO who
you as me and if you know there are some
medical issues padula but there's no
other under key of us look at your
haircut a look at what you are doing
look at what your draw
one two and make the most out of it my
last word
life is so damn limited to cover up
unlimited weaknesses but life is enough
to make the most out of the ultimate
gifts Allah has given to you thank you
so much thank you thank you
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