Mat Boggs: Hey, this is Mat Boggs.
Have you ever wondered what is it that actually causes a man to fall in love and want to spend
the rest of his life with you?
Well, yeah, that's somewhat important but I think it's gonna take a little bit more
than this guy.
Today, I'm gonna share with you seven things that men need to fall in love with you.
Number one is he needs to be ready.
It's interesting.
Every man has a belief about what his life needs to be like, the prerequisites that he
needs to accomplish or experience before he's willing to allow himself to fall in love and
then spend the rest of his life with somebody.
And it's unique and personal to each and every man.
For some men, it's a certain age.
For other men, it's a certain amount of income or their career needs to be at a certain level.
Or he needs to feel like he can provide for you at a certain level.
Or have a particular house.
Every man is different in this but we all have a certain level of accomplishment or
what we need to experience first before we allow ourselves to "settle down" and spend
the rest of our lives with the love of our life.
So, if a man tells you he's not ready, the best thing that you can do is believe him.
Number two is he needs to know that he can provide for you.
See, every man wants to feel capable.
He wants to feel like a provider.
He needs to know that he can provide the home that you want.
He needs to know that he can provide the vacations that you want.
He needs to know that he can provide the kids that you want, and the experience that you
want.
That's essential for us falling in love and deciding, yes, this is the woman that I want
to be with.
So, if your man is doing a good job then appreciate him, celebrate him, and let him know that
so that he feels capable in the job he's doing for you.
Number three is that men need to feel confident that they're not gonna hurt you.
See, as men, we do not want to hurt woman.
It is painful for us to have a woman cry based on something that we have done.
We hate that.
We would rather have our arm chewed off by an alligator than to make you ... owww ... we
would rather have our arm chewed off by an alligator than to make a woman cry because
we don't wanna hurt a woman.
So, if he thinks that you have completely fallen in love with him, and you've decided
that he's the one but yet he's not sure, that will often cause him to put the brakes on
or to pull the ejection cord and back out of the relationship early because he's afraid
if he goes forward six months and then finds out that this isn't really what he wants,
he's gonna cause you a whole lot more pain.
Number four, he needs to feel sexual chemistry with you.
Men, we do not marry women that we're not sexually attracted to.
We want the sex life to be amazing, just as you want the sex life to be amazing.
So, here's what's great.
As you feel more comfortable and more confident with your own sexuality and as you build a
positive relationship with your own sexuality, your relationship, your vibe, is actually
gonna drive the sexual chemistry in the relationship.
Whether you're already engaging in sex or even if you're saving yourself until marriage,
even to that degree, just your own relationship with your own sexuality puts out a vibe that
communicates to him that the sex life is going to be amazing.
Number five is he needs to feel loved and accepted for who he really is.
See, even men have a fear of not being enough and not being accepted and loved.
Just as women have a fear of not being enough and not being accepted and loved.
See, that's a man or a woman thing.
That's a human thing.
We all have fear of not being enough and if we're not enough we won't be loved.
And so, one of the greatest needs we have in a relationship is to know that we are gonna
be enough and accepted in the eyes of our partner.
So, how do you communicate that?
Interestingly enough, the most powerful way that you communicate that, it starts with
you loving and accepting yourself because as you love and accept yourself, you actually
are sending out a subconscious signal, a vibration to him that communicates that you're able
to love and accept him as well.
The challenge is, this is often what trips people up.
It's often one of the biggest blocks to love is our inability or our non-relationship with
loving and really accepting ourselves.
And so, if you know that you could really dial that up in your own life, I've actually
created a great gift for you.
It's a self love process that will really activate and enhance your own self love, and
put you in that state so that you can signal to your man that he is loved and accepted
in your presence as well.
So, I'm gonna link it up here in the video, and I'm gonna link it in the description for
you.
This is a very powerful process.
It's a gift from me to you so go ahead and click the link, and you can get that process
at the end of the video.
Now, number six, he needs to believe that you are his partner in life.
That you have his back.
That you're gonna stand by his side.
Just as he will have your back and stand by your side.
He needs to know that you will value the same things, that you want the same things in life.
And I'll give you a quick example of this.
One of my friends came to me saying, "You know what I love about my wife, man?"
And he told me a story about when he was dating some other woman, and they were in the car,
and he had to slam on the brakes because of what was going on in traffic.
The previous girlfriend immediately looked at him and was like, "What are you doing?
Why are you driving so recklessly?"
And then he said his wife, you know ... they broke up, that other girlfriend ... he started
dating his current wife, and he said it was so amazing.
A few months in, we were driving, traffic like stopped fast so I had to stop fast, and
she immediately didn't turn to me, she looked at the person in front of me, and was like,
"What is that person doing?
Why are they stopping so fast?"
And he said, "It dawned on me that her immediate response was to have my back whereas the other
woman's immediate response was to criticize me."
So, are you gonna be the type of partner where you're immediate response, your reaction,
your instinct is to have your man's back?
To believe the best in him?
Or is it gonna be to throw him under the bus and to criticize him because men, we want
a partner who will stand by our side, have our backs, support us, just as we're gonna
support them.
And number seven, and this is the most important one, is that he needs to feel like he can
live his purpose with you.
He needs to feel that with you life expands rather than constricts.
With you, he's able to be the best version of himself, that life gets better, gets richer,
gets more full.
That you're able to travel together or have the adventures together.
That you're able to maintain and deepen friendships that you both have.
The feeling that life is gonna get more adventurous, more expansive with you rather than more constrictive
with you is key.
And that he can really live his purpose.
And what's really great about this is how you communicate that by you living a life
you love.
By you living your purpose.
By you creating something amazing and seeking to grow yourself, you naturally challenge
him to grow his life.
You naturally ... you going for your purpose, you naturally challenge him to go for his
purpose.
And he's gonna feel like the best version of himself in your presence.
And when a man feels like the best version of himself in your presence, he absolutely
falls in love and says, "Man, this is the experience that I want for a lifetime."
So, my question for you is this: when it comes to love, when it comes to dating, when it
comes to relationships, what question do you have or what challenge are you facing that
if you could just wave a magic wand and have it solve it, you would love this solved or
you would love this question answered?
Go ahead and post it in the comments section below, and your question might just be the
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