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>>> WELCOME BACK EVERYONE. IT'S SAFE TO SAY THE NEW YEAR
HAS STARTED OFF A LITTLE
DIFFERENTLY THAN MOST YEARS.
TRANSFORMATIONAL LIFE COACH AND
MY FRIEND JENN MINTZ RECENTLY
SHARED FOUR VERY SIMPLE WAYS TO
EMBRACE CHANGE AND STEP INTO
THE NEW YEAR WITH EMPOWERMENT
AND PEACE, TAKE A LOOK.
JJENN SO HAPPY YOU ARE HERE AND
I LOVE THAT YOUR ADVICE IS WE
SHOULD ACTUALLY TAKE THE WORD
RESOLUTION AND KICK IT TO THE
CURB FOR 2021.
LET'S TALK ABOUT WHY DO YOU
THINK THAT.
THINK THAT. >> YEAH.
>> YEAH.
>> YEAH. HI CHRISTINE, HAPPY NEW YEAR.
SO GREAT TO BE HERE.
AND YOU KNOW, IT'S NOT THAT WE
NEED TO FULLY THROW AWAY THE
IDEA OF RESOLUTIONS.
BUT SO OFTEN RESOLUTIONS CAN BE
CONSTRICTSIVE AND LIMITING AND
THEY'RE FOCUSED ON EXTERNAL
THINGS RIGHT?
THINGS RIGHT? WE WANT TO LOSE TEN POUNDS TO
FIT IN OUR FAVORITE PAIR OF
JEANS OR WE WANT TO SPEND LESS
MONEY AND SPEND LESS TIME ON
SOCIAL MEDIA AND THERE'S A
PLACE FOR ALL OF THAT.
BUT THE REAL KEY TO SUSTAINABLE
CHANGE STARTS ON THE INSIDE.
ONE OF MY FAVORITE QUOTES IS
FROM DR. WAYNE DYER.
HE SAYS WHEN YOU CHANGE THE WAY
YOU LOOK AT THINGS, THE THINGS
YOU LOOK AT CHANGE.
AND FOR ME, THIS IS JUST SUCH A
PROFOUND WAY OF REALLY SAYING
THAT THE WORK STARTS ON THE
INSIDE.
INSIDE.
INSIDE. >> JENN.
>> JENN.
>> JENN. I LOVE THAT, IT IS SO PROFOUND
AS YOU SAID.
AND GREAT ADVICE AS WE'RE
LEAVING BEHIND THIS YOU KNOW,
TERRIBLE YEAR.
TERRIBLE YEAR. WE'RE TRYING TO LOOK AHEAD TO
WAYS THAT WE CAN DO THINGS
DIFFERENTLY.
DIFFERENTLY. BUT ALSO HAVE WINNING RESULTS.
AND YOU HAVE A GREAT THING THAT
YOU ARE CALLING "THE CALM
FRAMEWORK."
FRAMEWORK." TELL ME MORE ABOUT IT.
>> YEAH.
>> YEAH.
>> YEAH. SO THE CALM FRAMEWORK, K. L. A.
M., IT'S JUST FOUR WAYS TO TAKE
CARE OF OURSELVES FROM THE
INSIDE OUT.
INSIDE OUT. >> I LOVE IT.
OKAY JENN, WHAT DOES C.
REPRESENT?
REPRESENT? >> C. IS FOR COMPASSION.
WE CAN ALL BE OUR OWN TOUGHEST
CRITICS, THAT'S NATURAL.
BUT SELF-COMPASSION IS THE
ANTIDOTE TO SELF-CRITICISM.
REALLY WHEN YOU TREAT YOURSELF
WITH SELF-COMPASSION.
WITH SELF-COMPASSION. YOU ARE BEING MORE KIND AND
MORE GENTLER.
MORE GENTLER. I RECOMMEND FOR CLIENTS THAT
ARE YOU KNOW GOING THROUGH
SOMETHING WHERE THEY'RE BEATING
THEMSELVES UP OVER AND OVER
AGAIN THAT THEY PRACTICE
TALKING TO THEMSELVES AS IF
THEY WERE TALKING TO THEIR BEST
FRIEND GOING THROUGH THE SAME
SITUATION.
SITUATION. REALLY REALIZE JUST HOW MUCH
MORE GENTLE YOU ARE AND HOW
MUCH MORE FORGIVING AND HOW IT
REALLY BECOMES EASIER TO SEE
THE BIGGER PICTURE.
AND OFTEN TIMES TO FIND HUMOR
IN THE SITUATION.
>> JENN.
>> JENN.
>> JENN. I LOVE THAT.
SO TRUE.
SO TRUE.
SO TRUE. I FOR ONE I KNOW WE ALL ARE AS
YOU SAID, SO HARD ON MYSELF.
BUT I LOOK AT THE WAY AND THE
ADVICE THAT I TREAT OTHERS THE
WAY THAT I TREAT OTHERS, AND
I'M SO MUCH BETTER WITH --
HANDLING THEM WITH KID GLOVES
THAN I AM MYSELF.
SO I LOVE THAT.
THAT'S A GREAT REMINDER.
AND THEN LET'S TALK ABOUT A.,
WHAT DOES THAT REPRESENT?
>> YES.
>> YES.
>> YES. SO A. IS FOR ACCEPTANCE.
ACCEPTANCE OF WHAT IS.
AND THIS IS THE BIG ONE.
THERE'S A BUDDHIST PARABLE THAT
I LOVE.
I LOVE.
I LOVE. IT'S CALLED "THE SECOND ARROW."
THE GENERAL IDEA IS THERE'S A
WARRIOR AND HE GETS SHOT WITH
THE FIRST ARROW.
RIGHT?
RIGHT?
RIGHT? SO
RIGHT? SO THERE'S PAIN.
AND HE FEELS THAT.
AND THEN THE SECOND ARROW
COMES.
COMES.
COMES. AND THE SECOND ARROW IS THE
JUDGMENT ON THE SITUATION.
AND THAT JUDGMENT YOU KNOW, OH
GOSH, LIKE -- WHO SHOT ME?
WHY DID I GET SHOT?
I'M SUCH A BAD WARRIOR.
THAT'S WHAT REALLY ADDS TO THE
SUFFERING.
SUFFERING. SO THE IDEA OF ACCEPTANCE IS
JUST TO SEE THE SITUATION FOR
WHAT IT IS.
IT'S NOT NEGATING THAT
UNCOMFORTABLE THINGS HAPPEN TO
US.
US.
US. IT'S
US. IT'S NOT BEING PASSIVE.
BUT IT ALLOWS US TO VIEW A
SITUATION WITH LOWER ATTACHMENT
AND THEN CHOOSE HOW WE'RE GOING
TO ACT FROM A PLACE OF
NEUTRALITY.
NEUTRALITY. >> THAT IS SO GREAT.
I MEAN, AND I READ SOMEWHERE
THAT OUR MINDS CAN ONLY SETTLE
ON ONE THOUGHT AT A TIME.
MAKE ATE GOOD ONE.
DON'T KEEP RELIVING THAT STORY
OR THAT INCIDENT OR THAT
CONVERSATION OVER AND OVER
AGAIN.
AGAIN.
AGAIN. IT
AGAIN. IT DOES YOU NO GOOD.
YOU DO WHAT YOU CAN IN THE
MOMENT TO MOVE ON.
NOW L.
NOW L.
NOW L. >>
NOW L. >> YES, YOU KNOW I LOVE THIS
ONE.
ONE.
ONE. THE
ONE. THE L. IS FOR LEVITY.
AND I AM JUST A BIG FAN OF
HUMOR AND JOY AND PLAY IN OUR
DAILY LIVES.
DAILY LIVES. I ACTUALLY JUST READ A STUDY
THAT SAID THE AVERAGE HEALTHY
CHILD LAUGHS UP TO 400 TIMES A
DAY.
DAY.
DAY. WHEREAS THE AVERAGE ADULT ONLY
LAUGHS 15 TIMES A DAY.
>> OOH.
>> OOH.
>> OOH. >> SO YEAH.
WE'VE GOT SOME ROOM FOR GROWTH
HERE.
HERE.
HERE. >>
HERE. >> YOU BET.
>> RIGHT?
>> RIGHT?
>> RIGHT? >> YES.
>> YES.
>> YES. >> I ACTUALLY -- ENCOURAGE MY
CLIENTS TO SCHEDULE TIME FOR
JOY ON THE DAILY.
SO TAKE AT LEAST 20 TO 30
MINUTES DOING SOMETHING THAT
YOU LOVE.
YOU LOVE.
YOU LOVE. AND THE EFFECTS OF HAPPINESS
ARE OFTEN LIKE THE EFFECTS OF A
GOOD WORKOUT.
GOOD WORKOUT. THAT AFTERBURN AND THOSE ELATED
FEELINGS WE HAVE LAST MUCH
LONGER THAN THE ACTUAL EVENT
ITSELF.
ITSELF.
ITSELF. >> I LOVE.
THAT YOU KNOW I LOVE TO LAUGH.
ALL ABOUT THIS ONE.
THE LAST ONE IS M. OF COURSE.
TO ROUND OUT OUR C. A. L. M.
FRAMEWORK.
FRAMEWORK. >> IT'S FOR MANTRA.
IN TRADITIONAL MEDITATIVE
PRACTICES A MANTRA IS A SOUND
OR CHANT THAT IS SAID
REPEATEDLY TO CALM MENTAL
CHATTER.
CHATTER.
CHATTER. BUT WE CAN ALSO USE A MANTRA TO
SET OUR PERSONAL AFFIRMATION
FOR THE DAY.
SO KEEP US FOCUSED ON OUR
INTENTIONS AND OUR GOALS.
SO FOR EXAMPLE, IF YOUR GOAL
FOR THE DAY WAS TO HAVE LESS
STRESS WITH YOUR CHILDREN, YOU
WANT TO REALLY FOCUS ON THAT
GOAL.
GOAL.
GOAL. START YOUR MANTRA WITH THE
WORDS "I AM."
IT'S LIKE YOU ARE ALREADY
SHOWING UP EXPERIENCING THIS.
SO YOUR MANTRA COULD BE "I AM
RELAXED AND PATIENT AND
ENJOYING THIS PRECIOUS TIME
WITH MY CHILDREN."
AND YOU JUST WANT TO RETURN TO
THAT THROUGHOUT THE DAY REPEAT
IT TO YOURSELF.
I ACTUALLY KEEP A DRY ERASE
MARKER IN MY BATHROOM AND I'LL
WRITE MY DAILY MANTRA ON MY
MIRROR.
MIRROR.
MIRROR. SO I CAN COME BACK TO THAT.
AND IT'S JUST GROUNDING ME IN
MY INTENTIONS AND HOLDS ME
ACCOUNTABLE THROUGHOUT THE DAY.
>> OH JENN, SO, SO GOOD.
AND ANY OTHER LAST WORDS OF
ENCOURAGEMENT AS WE YOU KNOW,
REALLY PUT OUR BEST FOOT
FORWARD AND OUR C. A. L. M.
FOOT FORWARD FOR 2021.
>> SUCH A CHALLENGING TIME FOR
US CHRISTINE, BUT I WANT TO
JUST REMIND EVERYBODY, WE HAVE
MADE IT THROUGH 100% OF OUR
TOUGHEST DAYS.
TOUGHEST DAYS. AND I JUST ENCOURAGE EVERYONE
TO REALLY ACKNOWLEDGE WHAT
WE'VE BEEN THROUGH.
AND TAKE THE TIME TO TRULY
HONOR JUST HOW POWERFUL AND
RESILIENT WE ALL REALLY ARE.
>> YES.
>> YES.
>> YES. I
>> YES. I LOVE THAT.
OKAY, THANK YOU JENN.
THANK YOU SO MUCH.
HAVE A BEST NEW YEAR.
AND THANK YOU FOR HELPING US
KIND OF GET INTO A BETTER SPOT
AS WE ENTER THIS NEW YEAR.
SO APPRECIATE IT.
>> THANKS CHRISTINE.
SEE YOU SOON.
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