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NLP presuppositions that could actually be two different topics there and what I
will cover in a future video and that would be using preset positions for
persuasion and influence something that comes directly from the Milton model
that was one of the early models from NLP that was modeled for milton erickson
but that's not what I'm going to go into in this video this video is give me more
about the presuppositions that are laid out as sort of like mind sets for NLP
our approaches or filters to place over you're thinking now just to go through
something real quick here I some people will say that presuppositions are
actually beliefs and I disagree with that I've heard that from people who are
in NLP and I've heard that from people who have not taken NLP trainings that
they think that there's some sort of Commandments beliefs that you must have
our dogma and that comes from this idea that NLP is like a cult or religion not
true there is nothing cultish or religion like about NLP and the
presuppositions are definitely not Commandments or even beliefs the
presuppositions or more like mindsets they're more like filters to place over
your thinking and what I mean by that is that people might not like that word
we have many many filters are five senses or filters because there's
probably more to reality
well I know there's more to reality that we can sense just like there's lights
there's on colors on the spectrum that we can't see but we know exists there
are sounds that are sounded on a certain level that we can't even hear like say
like a dog whistle so there are things out there that we can
and taken through our five senses so there's more to reality than what we can
actually perceive so in that sense our five senses are actually filters are
thinking is phil are composed of many filters and our mindsets and our beliefs
especially our major filters on the information we're taking in so
presuppositions are not something you have to believe it's more like something
you think of as if what if things were like this what would it be like as if
you thought this way or this was true so again it's not it doesn't mean that it
is true it's something to hold and hold it lightly so the presupposition and
this one is all behavior originates from a positive intent to take a moment for
that to sync and it just took me awhile and when i'm teaching this it often I
get a lot of pushback because people started thinking about all the horrible
acts that humans have have committed and continue to commit and it's hard for
somebody to connect with that and say oh yes that person that came from some sort
of positive intent and when you think about these really horrible acts you'd
be surprised of you is and they've done this with people they they've worked
with people who serial killers are unhappy and if they did really deep a
lot of times these bizarre violent acts have something to do with trying to
connect with people trying to love our feel that sense of connection it just
gets really warped on its way out to becoming a behavior imagine though if
you looked at all the behavior that you've seen around you and instead of
judging it
it's easy to judge but Judge judgment puts distance between you and the person
you're judging it says more about the judger than it does about the judged and
it disconnects us so when we look at people are we look at behavior we don't
agree with or we don't like or even find repulsive imagine if you look at that
and thought to yourself well deep down you know that that originates from a
positive intent
how would that change your behavior how would that change your commute
vacation how would that change the way that you interact with people I don't
want to tell you what your experience will be like but try this out
try it taking a specific example of someone you're having a disagreement
with our dispute and think to yourself and doesn't matter that you disagree
there is behind did a positive intent with this is done for me has made me a
much more sympathetic person much more empathetic much less likely to judge
people and in that sense I feel like I've become more human and do this for
yourself
stop judging yourself or your mistakes or your bad behavior and instead look at
it as there was a positive intent somewhere that start there and go back
and find it
that's an amazing thing that's an amazing experience to have to not judge
yourself anymore and you will heal you will forgive yourself and you'll move on
and you'll learn from it rather than holding it down and not dealing with it
or not addressing it
this has been an amazing and I opening process for me and with this
presupposition does it just opens you up to more open your mind open up two more
possibilities more opportunities gives you more choice and when it comes to to
thinking about behavior that you really really repulses you like something
violent you know a lot of us don't want to go there because then we have to
connect to our humanity on a level that means that we have to sort of own the
fact that we were part of the same species and that in that sense we have
to connect with what humanity or humans are capable of and that's not an easy
thing to do so go lightly on yourself don't don't you don't have to jump into
the deep end right away just do this for yourself and do this for people you're
having minor disagreements with and just think to yourself know that presupposes
that there there's a positive intent behind this person's disagreeing with
you and it's amazing how that can even sometimes resolve disputes when you can
understand where that person is coming from
so give this a try and I think you'll find that it is quite an amazing thing
to
you and just think about how that will affect your communication when you're
looking for the positive and people they feel it and it changes the way that you
communicate the next one LP is all about NLP is not looking not about trying to
find a problem to solve
it's about capitalizing and building on what's right with people what is working
with people what is positive about people and about yourself and you start
there and then if you have to solve a problem or approach problems and by all
means do that but imagine if you're coming from that positive and
open-minded place and and approaching a problem from that rather than coming
from a judgmental place or a place of not understanding and not wanting to
understand so give that a try
I'd love to hear how that goes for you feel free to drop me a comment and are
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