- Have you had fun today?
(laughs) - This is a great date.
- This is our first date.
- Mhm.
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- Today we're gonna play "Never Have I Ever,"
first date edition.
- Oooo. (laughs)
- So how are your dates like?
What's a date for Spenser?
- Food. (laughs)
- I haven't been on a first date in four and a half years.
- I went on a couple first dates like a month ago
because I became single
and I was like, "Better go on a date."
- I've only been on three first dates
where they actually took me out to eat.
- I went on a first date at a karaoke bar.
We talked for a while
and it was like fun to have the karaoke in the background,
but he, like, did karaoke in the middle of our date.
- No, no!
- I realize in relationships, if someone can't take you
out to eat and pay for it at least once, it wasn't a date.
- Well one of the first dates I had recently,
I mean it wasn't, like, horrendously bad,
but this guy was obviously looking for,
like, a super serious girlfriend.
"So what do you look for in a relationship?"
"So the best part of a relationship is when you're
"so comfortable with each other you just watch TV
"all the time together and snuggle."
I'm like, "I don't want to talk about snuggling
"on my first date.
"I like getting to know someone."
He was like, "No.
"We have to be comfortable with each other."
I'm like,
"So you just like farting in front of your girlfriends,
"basically is what you're saying."
(woman laughs) - Never have I ever--
- [Both] Kissed on a first date.
- What? (laughs)
- I have not.
- Is that weird to do that?
I feel like most people kiss on the first date.
- That's very normal.
If you're like, feeling it.
- Yeah.
- You should either ask or go for it.
I've been the kiss initiator many times.
- Ooo!
- The three dates that I went on,
I never kissed that person.
But, I mean, a random hoe at a club? (laughs)
But on a date, I have not.
- Oh god, they have to come to me first.
- I think each time the person was surprised
that I did it. - Mmm.
- I feel like I go on dates with people
that I need more time before I can kiss them.
- I did it to my fiancé.
I went in for the kiss, we pulled away
and his face was just.
And I was like, "Oh he doesn't really like me.
He's not that into it."
And so we parted ways and I was like,
"I'm never seeing him again."
- The dude that I had the date with that was bad,
he went and just kissed me without any kind of signal
that I would want to and that was, like, gross.
It is good to try and figure out if they want it first.
- [Nina] Never have I ever gone home with someone
on the first date.
- I get so nervous that I'm gonna be judged
as, like, a harlot if I go home with someone.
Yeah, there's that thought in my mind of,
"I don't want to seem like a slut."
Which I hate.
And that is what is drilled into you,
growing up as a woman.
- I have never done that.
- Mom, Dad, I'm sorry,
but I think you might've assumed this. (laughs)
- Once I lost my virginity,
I was just like, "I wanna (beep)."
So I did not care.
I wanna see what the sexual chemistry is like.
- It's weird because everyone I went on a date with,
I never went on a second date with them again, also.
I didn't vibe.
- I'm in a current situation where this paid off.
- Aye!
- First-time sex with a new partner is so awkward
and like it's never great
and so I'd rather know them a little bit more
before I go into that world
because it could just end up in disaster. (laughs)
- [Nina] Never have I ever faked an emergency
to leave early on a first date.
- I haven't.
Boring!
- Yeah, I just suffer through it. (laughs)
- Same!
I find it so hard to tell someone I don't like them.
"This is the greatest time ever!"
Even though I'm dying inside.
- I would try so hard to make it go well.
- I do this in my everyday life.
- Even when my roommate leaves the apartment,
I tell her, "Text me if you need me to save you."
- I once ended up on a date that was drinks
and then it turned into another bar,
and then I didn't like him.
And then it turned into a nightclub,
and I was like, "When can I leave?"
And I don't know why I didn't just leave.
And then of course he didn't understand
when I eventually told him I didn't like him.
Which is my fault because I was giving him
the wrong signals.
- I know. - He was acting
like this was the best time ever.
He's like, "Oh we get along so well."
I'm like, "Ah!"
- Mine is literally like, "I straight-up have diarrhea."
'Cause I know it's not going to be a second date.
I'm living my poo-poo truth.
- Bubble guts.
- Pttt.
- [Chloe] Never have I ever backed out at the last minute
because I looked at their pictures
and decided I wasn't into them.
- I don't think that I have.
- I don't think I have.
- I don't think I've talked to anybody whose pictures
and profile I'm not into.
- So I love Tinder, and I love flirting with people
and just getting matches
because it reminds me that I am that hot.
Because every person I've ever met,
they look like their photo.
- I would sit there and analyze--
- Same.
- Each one for like 15 minutes and be like,
"Would I want to talk to this person?"
"Do I find them attractive?"
"Could I see a future?"
So I never ended up in a situation where I wasn't,
in some way at least,
somewhat physically attracted to them.
- It's been more like I showed up to a date.
Like, sometimes people will take a good picture
and then you get to the date and you're like, "Oh."
- People are very good at texting and writing
and not so good in real life.
You can have an amazing conversation on text with someone,
and you meet them and they're like a potato.
(woman laughs) I was just like.
- Honestly, if you're 6'3", that's all I need.
And a good credit score.
- [Spenser] Never have I ever ended a date early
because I wasn't having a good time.
- I didn't make a crazy excuse
but he made me so tired because he was boring. (laughs)
I was just like,
"Oh man, I could really use my bed right now."
Then he was like, "Can you take me home?"
And I was like, "Fine, don't try and kiss me."
- I don't waste my time in any situation.
If I'm not having fun, if I'm not feeling it,
if it's not good, I use my diarrhea excuse
and I'm out.
I only have one life to live
and I'm not gonna spend it with someone who's
not making me feel good.
- Wait, maybe I have. - Oh!
- It was the karaoke date.
He stayed there,
and literally as I was walking out the door,
he was getting ready to do his next karaoke song
so I was like, "He's still on this date with himself.
"It's just me who's leaving.
He's with his people, he's fine." (laughs)
- Likely, if you're not feeling it, the other person
most of the time can sense that.
- [Joyce] Never have I ever felt scared on a first date.
- Scared on a first date?
I think I have a pretty good screening process
and I get really good reads on people.
So I've never put myself in a position
where I was around someone who I had
any kind of question about.
- I don't think I've ended up with a person
who has made me feel scared,
but I have always taken a precaution,
which sucks that we even have to do,
but I would text my friend who lived in New York
and be like, "I'm going on a first date with some stranger.
"This is the address we're going to.
"If I don't text you in like three hours or something,
"I'm dead." (laughs)
Or it's going really well, one or the other.
- Because I love ooey gooey folks,
I love the soft and sensitive. - Ooey gooey?
- I knew at the end of the day, if it came down to it,
I could probably beat their ass.
- Joyce you could beat my ass.
- Anytime.
- [Chloe] Never have I ever gone on a first date
just to get a free meal.
- I don't care that much about food
that I would want to sit through boring conversation.
- Be honest. (woman laughs)
- Yes, I've done it, whatever.
I'm living in LA, I've got to pay rent.
I'm broke right now.
Yeah if someone wanted to take me out to get some sushi,
hell yeah I'm gonna eat that damn sushi.
- If ever I went on a date, I was like,
"Well I'll be paying for half of it,
"so we're not going somewhere crazy fancy."
- That's true.
It's so awkward to assume something like that.
- I don't know if I wanna do this,
but then you're like, "Well you just paid rent,
"and you don't get paid for another two weeks, so."
Yeah!
Let's go on the date.
Was the food a good incentive, sure!
- Out of three dates, one of those dates
I went just for food.
- The way to get a date done quickly
is to go just have a drink somewhere.
- Yeah. - You can't have dinner.
Plus then you've got to try and eat in front of them
and you can't even really taste the food
'cause you're concentrating so much
on how well you're eating it
without throwing it down you and on the other person,
and trying to talk while you're having a mouthful.
- Yeah, you're either enjoying new food or a new person.
Not both. - Yes.
Never have I ever gotten into an argument on a first date.
- There were two things that stick out to me,
and I can't remember which one we argued about.
He didn't even really care when we got to talking about it,
but we had a little back and forth about it.
I was like, "So why did you answer that way?" (laughs)
- Yikes.
- Politics.
- One, I'm from Boston.
I can get in an argument with anyone.
Two, I get a little excited when I get in an argument.
Three, there are multiple kinds of arguments
you can get into, first of all.
- I wouldn't call it a fight,
it was we just had a discussion about it
because we disagreed.
- I've gotten into an argument, not in the fun, flirty, way
which, I mean, I'm also a Haitian woman
so I love to argue.
So I had to cuss him out, I had to correct him real quick.
- You had to go "woop!"
- [Nina] Never have I ever talked about having kids
on the first date.
- I haven't, but the person I'm on a date with has.
- What? - This fricken' dude
I went on a date with the other day
who was just, like, super into relationships.
- I'm gonna avoid an attachment, so that's not my vibe.
It takes a lot.
- I feel like a discussion of kids
is something you want to get into when you're about to
do something serious.
- I just don't need that information on the first date.
That's terrifying to me.
I'm a commitment-phobe anyway,
so throw the word kid at me, I will try to run away
and then not, because I'm too nice.
- I'm not gonna talk about kids with some rinky-dink
person I met on the first date.
- Nope!
- [Chloe] Never have I ever talked about my ex
on the first date.
- There's a reason why I'm single, so.
- Listen, I'm not.
Didn't do this with the current one. (laughs)
- I'm sure that I have. - I feel like everyone does.
- Not in like a, "Let me tell you about my ex,"
kind of way, but it's probably just come up naturally
like, "Oh yeah I went on a date with somebody who did this"
or, "I was in a relationship
"with somebody who was like this."
- I have, only because the boyfriends that I've had
in the past, I've been with for a very long time.
So they've taken up a significant part of my life.
Yeah you're not supposed to do that, huh?
- It's not cute.
And I learned that lesson real quick.
- I really held it in, though,
because I had broken up with my ex on,
like, a Friday morning,
by Friday night I had scheduled another date. (laughs)
- Whoa!
- This person isn't gonna know that I just went
through a break-up this morning. (laughs)
- That's crazy!
All right, Ms. Four Years and Engaged. (laughs)
(woman laughs)
- I'm just trying to get through a year, okay?
- I think that on a first date, it's,
A, Most important to be yourself.
- Don't put yourself in any situation
in which you're uncomfortable and don't be afraid to leave.
- They accept you for who you are,
or you throw them in the trash.
They deserve you, it's not the other way around.
- Your time is valuable,
and it doesn't deserve to be spent
with somebody that you don't get along with.
- Yeah, 'cause you're never gonna see them again.
- It's best to be honest with that person.
- Like, "Hey, you're gonna be a great friend."
And if you don't even like them as a friend,
say you got diarrhea.
- Communication is key.
If that communication's not flowing,
neither will the love.
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