Hello everyone welcome back to my channel in today's minimalism video
We are going to cover
Living with a person who does not identify as being a minimalist if you are new to my channel
My name is Rachel Aust
I have a whole series of these videos and add a link in the description below
These are just going to be some tips that I've learned from living with house maids and living with my partner it might not be
Completely applicable to you if you like have kids if you you know live in a dorm room or something because I've never had those
experiences
but hopefully you can take some of these points and
Apply them to your life. Anyway as always if you enjoy the video
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So my first point is to lead by example
Never push someone into trying to take on any lifestyle choice that you make it shouldn't matter
What it is if you all of a sudden come to a realization that?
You want downsized what you own or you want to purge declutter or whatever you want to call it?
Don't push that on anyone else. That is your
Realization and that is something that you need to deal with personally absolutely approach your partner family
whoever you're living with housemate and tell them what you're going to be doing and
Explain to them why you're choosing this path, and that might help them see what you're seeing
but I do I think that you should go and
Shove it on to someone else and expect them to do the same in fact if you do that
They're more likely to resist and more likely to push away
Obviously you guys know that I've been on my journey for a while
And I started filming these videos a while ago as well
And I started even before then and now has finally started coloring his wardrobe. He I would call him a collector
He collects shoes he collects hacks. He collects basketball jerseys, but his regular wardrobe
He's actually started to downsize so just keep doing what you're doing decluttering your schedule
Sorting out your finances decluttering the actual possessions in your life
And other people will see the impact that that makes second a fun way to declutter is to make a game out of it
Especially if it is with someone else who is a bit more resistant or unsure of the idea?
So something that you could do is to say
I'm going to let's go and we'll declutter and will reduce by five items each every week
So every single week both of you the three of you however many there are
Taking away and getting rid of five items from the household
Something really important as well is tolerance for example a lot of people attach their memories to
objects or you might be more like me and not really have any
sentimental items I get asked a lot about what I do with them, and I just don't own any life that's
Just what I'm like
I don't attach memories or feelings to objects
Remember that it is a spectrum some people have no attachment to objects and some people are super attached to their object
So it might take someone a little bit longer if they might not understand what you were doing
And you might have to actually sit down and have a good chat with them about it that leads into the next point
I'd like to cover
Which is that everyone does things at different breaths?
Obviously you might be the kind of person who can go through your house
And it just declutter everything overnight whereas a lot of people need to take things in Stages
So if the person that you are living with would like to start decluttering it's more manageable to them and they can take it stage
By stage and look at it as smaller processes rather than one large thing that is happening in their life
Because you don't build up all the clutter overnight as you can't get rid of it overnight most cases learn to compromise
So when I was living which is housemates and before berry moved in I didn't own a TV my housemate didn't own a TV
You know right sound systems or anything like that it just wasn't
Important in our lives, and I know if I was ever living on my own with housemates again
I personally wouldn't have a TV. I don't see it as something that is a necessity oh in Burgundy birth TV
Obviously in our house now
We have a TV and a big sound system there are things that he likes he enjoys he boozes a lot
So of course I'll compromise and let those things be in the land
But at the same time he compromises from me and lets me decorate in just black white Gray and plain
Sharing a space with someone you should be able to work with them and come to an equal
Medium about how the space is going to look and how it is going to feel for both of you
You don't want to ostracize the person who is living in your house remember that is their space, too?
Just as much as it is yours
Something that I think is quite key is having your own little sanctuary, and I don't just mean you as minimalist
But I mean every individual in the house should have a small area
Doesn't matter whether it's a desk or whether it's as small as a corner or whether it's a whole bedroom
You should have an area that is your own that is decorated to your taste, and then you can feel at you sleep
Easy we're lucky enough that we have an apartment with two bedrooms and the main bedroom the one that we sleep in
That's the one that is decorated the way that I like the only things opposed in there
some of his clothes in the wardrobe and then the second bedroom is the
Study sort of room which Beau has set up with like his computer
And he has hats and shoes and all of that sort of thing actually displayed like a collection
And I don't have any of my things in there, and I don't have to go in there
And I don't have to look at it. So if you can't color completely at least get to organize it
I know he's gone through and organized all his clothes and his collections although there is a lot of things
He does have them organized neatly now again. It doesn't have to be a whole room
Even if it's just something like your desk like having a desk set up the way that you like it is clean it's minimal
It's neat it doesn't have all the clutter lying around
That's your area
Find your area of the house that you can have exactly how you want and then compromise on the other spaces
The last point that I want to make is don't let your new lifestyle choice
Come between you and the person that you live with
The journey should be a positive one and empowering one and one way you can learn a lot about yourself
You can't force it down on someone else's through it you have to be kind you have to be patient and you have to be
Tolerant of what they're going through and the rate at which they change if they're really not willing to budge on getting rid of some
of their items start working on other areas if you stop focusing on your
Budgeting and reducing expenses and finding out more ways to say it's money
They'll probably want to do the same with that a lot of people like to learn how to save money another area is scheduling
So if you start looking at your daily schedule re-planning finding more free time
that's probably something that they would enjoy as well and
Work on that together work on your calendars and look at your work schedules and figure out when you can spend more time together
It's a very personal journey
It's so focused on yourself focus on your own journey
Set some goals for yourself and figure out what you want to get out of it if you want some direction
I do have the 30 day challenge. You can download I'm thinking of writing another
Thirty days, so if you guys would like that, so it would become like a two month challenge
Let me know so I know that quite some simple tips, but I hope you were able to gain something from that
That's just some things that I've learned in my experience of living with someone who is not a minimalist
And I hope you really enjoyed the video and I'll catch you guys next time bye