episode 14 it has been a few months
since I started another long-distance
relationship and I can say out of every
relationship I've been in this one has
brought out the best version of myself
no matter where you are in the world I
believe in not settling for someone just
because they're close to you if your
person is out there somewhere in the
world and they're meant for you you will
end up together I have always been the
one to leave the relationship because I
know when to quit and when my heart
can't take anymore feel like there are
some things that are just kind of like
personal you just keep to yourself to me
distance doesn't matter how you meet
someone doesn't matter the pace in which
you fall in love doesn't matter but how
you choose to love someone does matter
a relationship is two people who love
each other just the same to love is not
a chore to love is effortless
good morning everybody so today is a
sunny warm day it's becoming spring I
have a lot to get done today but I
thought I'd vlog because I have a lot on
my mind and I just want to talk about
these things because a lot of people are
probably going through some similar
things last night I worked finished off
what I was doing for my boyfriend it
wasn't really originally a Valentine's
Day gift but it was more like an
appreciation gift of how he's been
towards me throughout the past couple
months or a few months so I wrote 20
letters I forgot to film the actual
letters because I was just so like
focused on it and then I packed it up
right away because I was just so excited
and I packed up some snacks and ramen
and curry and pasta sauces that he
wanted for himself because he misses
those things in Japan so I'm sending
those things to him today and I'm really
excited about it in three weeks we're
gonna see each other for the first time
and it's really exciting now we have a
mutual friend and I failed to mention
that in past videos I have to say that
we have been so talkative with each
other we're communicating every day we
have a Skype date today it's just
non-stop like 24/7 we are never too busy
for each other and I feel like if you're
in a long-distance relationship you
can't be too busy for your significant
other always been in relationships where
one person loves the other more than the
other and I feel like I've always been
that girl that has put in so much love
and effort into a relationship and I've
never gotten really much in return and
I've noticed that about this
relationship how we're on the same page
and on the same level he's so supportive
he encourages me every day he watches
all my videos and he just loves me no
matter what happens or what I do or how
I am he loves all my flaws and I think
that's so important when you find
somebody and I just I have zero doubts
so yeah I'm gonna go and send this and
go to the grocery store and come back I
will see you guys in a second so I
totally forgot
to show the letters in my video but I
just packaged up a bunch of things like
curry and ramen I put 20 letters in here
that I wrote him I just wrote the
letters and I put open and then open
when you are feeling lonely or open when
you can't sleep open when you wake up so
every time he's feeling a certain way he
can open a letter okay so that basically
took forever I was in there for like an
hour trying to send the package and the
lady was confused about cup ramen
because they don't say cup from in here
they say instant noodles so like they
weren't sure if they were gonna like
stop the package or not so I don't know
like exactly what happened but okay
hopefully it'll get to him what I
learned through long-distance
relationships is to look to live in the
present moment to keep your sanity even
though I know it's hard don't focus on
the future focus on yourself and
well-being communicate with each other
often make each other laugh as often as
possible and think about how that makes
you feel currently things will fall into
place eventually
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we want and we just get one they all
swear to commit like I try to eat less
sugar and this place is taunting me oh
my god into my favorite American soft
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one way an LDR will fail is if you care
too much about what other people think
and someone else's fears for your own
relationship don't do that
got this aroma humidifier it is so nice
oh my god the lights but you can put it
on for 1 hour 3 hours or 6 hours and it
smells so good
oh my god today's meal this amazing
delicious bento I get it at this
supermarket called Dai a and it has like
everything it has like tamagoyaki it has
some chicken fish black beans this is
ginger a bunch of vegetables and
Japanese potatoes and then this is like
purple rice it's supposed to be a little
bit more nutritious than white rice and
then I usually eat this with not though
a lot of stress happened this past
couple weeks and I got sick again I got
a cold and I think I just get sick from
stress mostly my immune system just dies
when I'm stressed and I work with kids
so but also I didn't have pneumonia
that long ago so I honestly I don't
think I'm completely better because I
still I'm coughing up some stuff past
couple weeks have been so long I took on
a lot of jobs a lot of social media jobs
so I'm just really busy it does get
overwhelming after a while because of
deadlines and things like that I think
I'm also getting anxious because I'm
gonna meet my boyfriend for the first
time and that's really strange to say
because I feel like I know him already
but I don't know I'm just nervous like
there's so much going through my head
like what is he gonna think of me like
am I gonna be is he gonna like me any
different when we meet in person how are
we gonna be together in person
physically so it's it's exciting because
we're so in love and I love that about
us that we just click I don't know I'm
just really I'm feeling like these mix
of emotions but they're not necessarily
bad I don't know how to explain them but
I think it's just anxiousness and
getting there
and but I'm excited and nervous at the
same time I just want to plan out
something so I'm in a lesson plan and
plan out my meals for the next three
weeks I think
that means you to grow empty do you miss
me do you miss Japan - I miss Japan yeah
what do you miss about Japan food yeah I
feel like the food is way better here I
think so too
everything is like it's way better like
if I go to a family restaurant yeah I
think those your buddy fight in Japan or
thighs area yes everything is like
Siberian gusts are like America western
style rest what are you gonna miss when
you leave LA not tropic what are you
gonna miss I know I know I'm thinking
nothing because your life is better here
there like a lot of creative people here
so it's not a creative people enjoy yeah
I'm sure
yeah you don't even know anymore I'm
excited to like see your reaction to
everything again yeah I'm gonna get
excitable anything just like me when I'm
in the States watch me freak out at a
supermarket yes okay it's a supermarket
I'm gonna be holding the camera and tell
me you're I'm gonna be going crazy
alright I'm super behind on life right
now I haven't started editing the video
that's the deadline is this coming
Saturday I believe for my next series so
that's what I'm gonna be doing the rest
of the night I'm just gonna eat get in
my pajamas get all cozy and just work
work work I have a little bit of organic
frozen broccoli so I'm gonna heat this
up to add to the chili and and an IR if
I got medium spicy
Ami's chili black bean chili I'll just
cook this up really quick and we're
gonna make it with broccoli and the
duh and I have some whole-wheat crackers
to eat with it and that's gonna be my
dinner for tonight the chili cooking in
the pot and this is my pasta brown rice
pasta that I made looking to eat all of
this but I'm gonna put like a cup of it
in another cup crackers broccoli and
this and that's my meal it's the
finished product so we have the chili
and the broccoli the brown rice pasta
and I'm going to add some crackers but
one pack is a 90 calories and these are
like whole-wheat crackers or whatever so
these are the ones that I'm gonna be
eating with my meal have goals make sure
when you're with someone long distance
you won't be in one forever
this is how you're gonna have to be in
my videos for the next six months I'm
sorry I like it it looks nice I'm just
showing off my new camera strap is that
your new camera wait is that you is that
your new camera yeah you never showed it
to me you didn't show it to me um
oh if m2 by night wouldn't how much was
it uh $300 decent film cameras it's like
$100 with lens but this one have to pay
more because it's my mommy cool
mm-hmm it's got the show this beautiful
thousands how fancy you are you can with
24 millimeter 2.8 because they're decent
lens so I'm 28 years old now and I have
learned quite a lot about relationships
like this one here's what I learned and
what you need to know hey guys so it's a
couple of days later and I just didn't
get a chance to film an ending for this
but today when I was shopping
we were just texting each other all day
we're calling each other he had the day
off today he wasn't working and even on
his work days he answers my text
messages and he calls me when he wants
to and he reads my messages it just
that's how it should be because my last
relationship as he saw in the beginning
of this video
it was so toxic and I wouldn't hear from
my boyfriend for a couple days my last
relationship long-distance and it was
just frustrating and I remember I told
my ex-boyfriend how I felt and that I
was like I can't keep going with this if
you're not gonna respect the
relationship and you're not gonna make
time for me because long-distance is
hard you can't physically touch each
other you can't physically be there for
each other so you have to really work
hard in the relationship harder than
normal it was just very upsetting I was
depressed every day I was sad I didn't
feel like he cared and he even though he
said I do
care but there's just things that you
need to do when you're with somebody
that you love and if you want to keep it
going if we want to keep the
long-distance relationship strong and I
didn't believe in the things that he
felt maybe some people can do that maybe
some people can go days without talking
to somebody but I personally cannot and
I I wanted his time and he wasn't giving
it to me and he would make excuses and
he would say you don't need to know
everything that I'm doing which is one
thing if a guy says that to you in a
long-distance relationship you don't
need to know everything that I'm doing
and it's true you don't need to know
every single little thing that you're
doing and that's not what I mean that's
not what he meant by it and it's true
you don't need to know like when he's
eating or when he's going to the
bathroom like that's not important
but if someone fails to tell you things
like oh I'm going on a camping trip this
weekend I kind of asked him what he was
doing and he got upset about it and then
he was like I'm going on a camping trip
and I'm like since when were you going
on this camping trip I had no idea about
it I'm talking about long distance I'm
not talking about in the same area in
the same city whatever but when someone
gets mad at you if you asked some
questions if you call them and they
don't want to talk to you like if you
call them and they pick up and they say
why are you calling me why are you
calling me I'm busy that's a red flag it
just there's just so many things that
you really need to look out for when you
do start a long-distance relationship
and I've learned that so hopefully
anybody that's out there that's in one
now I can help you understand what to do
at this point if you're feeling down all
the time if you're feeling bad it's just
not a good sign it just means that
you're not a good match
your values and your priorities just
aren't matching up and if that's the
case then it's just something that you
need to end but I'm really lucky to have
my boyfriend I worry a lot I have
anxiety my boyfriend has always made me
feel so calm and he'll call me and text
me within the a couple hours or whatever
if he's busy at work or something and
that's how it should be
thinking
about my last long-distance verse this
one I just know and understand what's
what should be happening and what
shouldn't be happening I feel like we're
in this together and that's the most
important thing and I'm just so happy
and I feel like myself and I feel like
I'm the best version of myself anyway I
hope you guys enjoyed this I'm sorry if
there was too much talking in it but I
just want to help anybody out there who
is in a long-distance relationship as
well and if they're struggling with
should I stay with this person or not
know what's right and what's wrong and
the red flags and I'm sure your heart
will guide you I think that's the most
important thing and I I have been
through bad relationships but I know
when to quit
and that's when what you need to learn
and it can be hard don't forget to hit
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that's right
but then that it doesn't matter but
you're with someone
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you know that's how it's supposed to be
if I'm unable to make