- [Instructor] Hey, Psych2Goers, welcome back.
Having fun together, being open with one another,
spending a lot of time with one another
and sharing a deep, emotional connection with someone.
Does that sound more like a close friendship to you
or a romantic relationship?
The answer could easily be both, right?
And for a lot of us, the lines between love and friendship
can get blurry sometimes,
and adding romantic feelings to the mix
can make things even more complicated.
So if you need some help figuring out
where to draw the line in the sand
between love and friendship, here are eight signs
that tell you things between you and your friend
are starting to become much more romantic than platonic.
Number one, you daydream about them.
Do you often jokingly say you and your friend
should just date each other instead,
or daydream about what it might be like
to end up with them romantically?
Well, it might seem like nothing more
than playful banter and lighthearted fun to you,
these romantic fantasies might mean a lot more
than you think,
especially if you feel butterflies fluttering
in your stomach every time you think about it.
Number two, you get jealous of their partners.
Well, it's understandable to have jealous feelings
towards your best friends, other friends from time to time.
The difference between platonic
and romantic jealousy is clear.
The former stems from a fear
of your friend leaving you behind,
while the latter comes from the disappointment
of having your romantic hopes dashed.
So if you find yourself feeling jealous
of the romantic partners and love interests
of your friend for more than a platonic reason,
it's time to take a good, long look at why.
Are you tired of swiping left and right,
or maybe you're trying to find love in the wrong place.
Number three, you can't wait to see them.
Be honest, do you enjoy spending time with your best friend
more than you do with your crushes?
Are they your favorite person to hang out
and make plans with by far?
Enjoying your friend's company
and looking forward to seeing them as one thing.
But eagerly, counting down the moments
until you see each other is another thing entirely.
And if you're dying to see this person
at all hours of the day,
then it might be that what you feel for them
is more than just friendship.
Number four, you want to be more intimate with them.
While emotional intimacy is certainly not uncommon
to have in a close, meaningful friendship,
wanting to be more intimate with this person
is a sure sign as any,
that romantic feelings are already starting
to blossom between you.
Are you becoming more physically affectionate with them?
Do you immediately turn to them for comfort,
even when other people can offer it to you,
or have deep meaningful talks with them almost every day?
If you answered yes to any of these questions,
then what you want might already
be more than just friendship.
Number five, you're overly affectionate.
Similar to the last point,
if you find yourself acting more flirty
than friendly around this person,
it's probably because your feelings for them
are starting to show,
even if you don't realize they're there yet.
More than ever before,
you wanna be close to them all the time,
to hold their hand, to act sweet with them,
to hug and kiss them as much as you can get away with,
and to take just about any excuse
to get to touch them and show them affection.
Number six, you talk about them constantly.
One of the reasons why everyone else seems
to be raising their eyebrows
at your so-called friendship with this person,
is because they seem
to be your favorite topic to talk about.
You can't say enough, good things about them,
and you're always sharing funny stories
or fun memories you have with them.
Then if you notice yourself constantly finding ways
to incorporate them into any conversation you can,
well, that doesn't take a dating expert
to see that you're already falling in love with your friend.
Number seven, you're not interested in anyone else.
Another telltale sign that it's not just friendship,
it's love, is if your friend becomes
the reason you're not interested in anyone else.
You're no longer interested in dating around
or pursuing anything with anyone else
because deep down inside, you know this person
is already everything that you want in a partner.
And the tricky part
is whether you've already admitted it to yourself or not.
And number eight, it's never enough.
Finally, but perhaps most importantly,
if you find that no matter how much time you spend
with your friend, it's never enough
to make you stop missing them and wanting to see them,
then you are definitely catching feelings for them.
No doubt about it.
After all, the fluttery feeling in your heart
every time you're near them,
that desire to see them and talk to them all the time,
the certainty that you won't ever be sick of them,
those are all signs of newly found love.
And though you might still think of them as a friend,
you're definitely spending with them more
than you'd maybe like to admit.
So be honest.
Do you relate to any of the signs we've mentioned here?
Do you think your friendship with someone
is turning into something more romantic?
If so, opening up about it to this person
would be a good first step to take,
especially if you suspect they might feel the same way too.
Ponder on the true meaning of your feelings
and think about what it is you really want,
and where you'd like to go from here.
Then once you're sure that this is something worth pursuing,
don't be afraid to make your intentions clear.
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