- Heya playa.
Have you ever tried to talk to your crush
and got an emoji response from them,
leaving you not quite sure how to interpret that?
Well, that's exactly what happened to Just Joey,
which is why he asked me,
"There's this girl at my school.
"She will avoid me at school,
"but talk to me a lot outside of school.
"She's popular, but I'm not,
"and when she sends me texts,
"she will do a kiss emoji and stuff.
"Do you think she likes me?"
That's a good question, Joey.
What do emojis mean?
Are they signs of interest,
or something else?
I'll explain that right after this.
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Now, let's talk about emojis.
What do each of these different emojis mean?
Are some of them real signs of interest
while others are just ways to friend zone you?
There really is no clear cut-answer here.
People use emojis in different kinds of ways.
Sometimes they're using it as a way to flirt,
while other times they're just making conversation.
The thing about emojis is
that they don't really, accurately, depict how you feel
or what you want to say.
They kind are an exaggerated form
of whatever you're trying to put out there.
So, for example,
let's say you compliment your crush
and they respond with, "Thanks,"
and then put the kissy-face emoji.
Does that mean that they want to kiss you,
does that mean that they're interested?
It's kinda hard to tell
because in that instance,
that person might be using it just as a way
to exaggerate that thanks.
The same goes for using hearts in a conversation.
I've had people ask me,
"Does using the pink heart, or blue heart,
"or purple heart, make a difference
"in how you come off to your crush
"or how they come off to you?"
Here's something important you should focus on.
Regardless of whatever emojis your crush
ends up using in your conversation,
the goal here, really, is for you to get closer
with them.
If you're looking at emojis as a way
to try to read their behavior,
or read their signs of interest,
you're kind of wasting your time.
Most people sit there waiting
for a clear-cut, define, signs of interest
from their crush.
They're waiting for their crush to kind of
drop a hint, or say something
that maybe can lead them in that direction.
But, the reality is, that your time will be
way better spent
if you're actively pursuing your crush.
If you're talking to them, if you're flirting with them,
and you're eventually asking them out.
Now, that doesn't mean emojis are useless in a conversation.
Like I said, they're kind of an exaggerated
form of how we feel in that moment.
So, you can use that to your advantage
in communicating and flirting with your crush.
The key to emoji flirting
is to not over saturate the message with tons of emojis.
When you do that, each one of them
kind of loses a little bit of its steam.
One simple thing you can do is
to assign a specific emoji to your crush.
Let that become kind of like a nickname for them,
so whenever you talk to them you could say,
"You're always such a this."
"Wait a minute.
"I thought you said certain emojis
"don't specifically mean a certain thing?"
That's true, but from your end,
if you're intentionally flirting,
you can find a way to craft that message,
with those emojis,
so they carry that forward for your crush.
It's possible that your crush might be
using specific emojis to convey a certain
kind of message,
but, like I said before,
don't get too hung up in trying to figure it all out.
In Just Joey's case,
the girl that he likes doesn't really talk to him in person,
but feels a lot more comfortable
doing it on Snapachat, or Instagram,
and using emojis there.
Well, in those kinds of situations,
emojis can really aid the conversation through.
But, at the end of the day,
the most important thing is to
approach and talk to that person, in person.
And while you can be suave, and fun, and flirty,
and use emojis, and do these different things over text,
it's still not gonna carry the same amount of weight
and the same display of confidence
if you were to approach them in person
and bring those emojis to life.
Also, one important thing to remember is
that people's online personas are a little bit inflated.
They may not be that flirty, or risqué,
or totally out there when you talk to them in person.
That's why it's common to run into situations
like Just Joey's.
People find it a lot easier to flirt,
share emojis, to send pictures,
to do these different kinds of things
online versus in person.
So, what does it all mean?
If you're getting kiss emojis,
and heart emojis from your crush
Does that mean that they like you?
Its' not really clear.
All you really have control over here,
is what you choose to do.
You can keep flirting back with them.
You can intentionally use emojis to flirt
and to craft the message that you want,
but ultimately, you're gonna have to talk to them in person
if you want to turn it into something real.
What do you think, though?
Does your crush use a lot of emojis
when they talk to you?
Do you do the same back with them?
Leave it in the comment section below
and we'll talk about it.
I'm sure a lot of you out there watching
have very specific situations
and things you want to talk about with me.
You can always shoot me a DM over on Snapchat,
or Instagram.
I do my best to answer as many messages as I can.
Thank you so much for watching,
but before you go,
definitely check out the videos I have over there.
I talk more about how to flirt
and how to talk to your crushes on Snapchat,
and in Instragram, and Facebook.
Pretty much, I tackle dating and social media all in one.
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Keep on learning.
It doesn't stop here, guys.
As always,
love
and peace.