Hi everyone Agnes here and I'm going to read a viewer's question today. Before I do
I just want to let you the viewers know that this channel will not be purchasing subscribers or
views at any time okay. That is a thing on YouTube now unfortunately but I will not be doing it
okay. So viewers question: 'I feel like I'm doing something wrong in terms of love because a lot
of my manifestations do come to me exactly as I want them but some of them come with a plot twist
that takes away all of the effort out of it. This happened with the specific person - an ex,
we broke up midway long distance and I manifested meeting him finally after six years of being
on good terms as friends using your whispering technique and long distance meditations. Although
when the time came he never really committed to me like I've been trying to manifest.
I've been trying to feel like this didn't happen or the plan is yet to be unravelled but
I'm questioning my manifestation approach now. My question to you is in terms of a specific person
do I focus on attracting a specific person using meditations and visualisation or do I simply
surrender to the universe knowing they're to come to me now?' All right I'll answer this part first,
now you said again 'do I focus on attracting a specific person using meditations and
visualisation or do I simply surrender to the universe knowing they're to come to me now?' Now
the answer to this is both, but there is a third part. So you will do your meditations and
visualisations to imply that you are with a specific person, you also surrender and
let go to the universe which means you don't go into all this preoccupation about it in between,
you let go and surrender which is about you putting your full attention elsewhere and you
work on your self-love. Now, why? Because if you want to be loved you need to feel loved,
this is the thing that so many people seem to forget and I know it's easy to forget because
the law of attraction world is about techniques, the law of attraction world is about manifesting,
the law of attraction world is about being an action figure. A lot of the
work is - you do that but then you have to surrender and let go, you have to allow
the plant to grow with the sun and the water and that is the letting go part, the allowing part
as Abraham Hicks talks about all the time, 'the art of allowing.' So I would suggest you go and
watch some of those YouTube's about 'the art of allowing' and also really work on the self-love
so that you feel as loved as you can. Because if you are doing these techniques but you're not
feeling loved you're not going to get very far because the imaginal scenes can only go so far.
Now, why? Because you haven't changed 'states' as Neville says - if you're
feeling unloved or you're feeling unwanted you will then attract the evidence of that.
So get into the state of 'I am loved, I am love, I am lovable,' 'may divine love be made alive in me'
as Florence Scovel Shinn talks about. So it's more than one thing to do, firstly
you do your techniques, you do your self-love so that you feel the state of feeling loved and
then also you surrender and let go and allow. So three parts to answer your question. Now
you said: 'I'm quite focused about this because the first method keeps me laser focused on the
person to the point that I am constantly thinking about them and I start thinking that I'm hindering
the universe's plan by doing so. The other process teaches detachment and surrender and
while I'm detaching I feel like I'm not working hard enough for my manifestation to come to me.
You see the problem I've never quite been able to balance the perfect proportion of focus and
detachment towards the manifestation together.' Well you do your imaginal scene if you're doing it
at night or in the morning, you do it and then you let it go for the rest of the day. At lunch
time you might read a script for 5-10 minutes, you might do a self-love meditation at night to
raise your state of love. So you're doing little bits throughout the day and then I
think having some days off fully where you let it go, there needs to be a letting go
active in you, why? Because otherwise it's like you're trying to force and
push and make it happen. So I understand what you're saying: 'how do I know how much to do?'
Do a little bit, let go a lot, do a little bit, let go a lot, okay and work consistently I think
on self love as in get enough sleep, make sure you exercise, you drink enough water,
you eat healthy food, you treat yourself with respect, you have good boundaries
and you do some kind of prayer and meditation to give thanks and you do your gratitude. So
I hope that helps 'Cinnamon Tea,' you sent me this back in October so thank you for
your question I hope that helps. Now I will also put down below the 'Self Love Success Stories'
playlist because I think the people that have had successes in their self-love then they are
then ready and prepared to be able to step into attracting a meaningful relationship okay. I'll
put also 'Neville Nugget' number 8 which is about pretending, this is an interesting one for you
to revisit and also a manifest your soulmate success story. Alright so thank you for your
question 'Cinnamon Tea,' lots of love everyone and I will see you you know where you know when.