(dramatic music)
- You know that you can have those money conversations
with your spouse, right?
Working together.
Nothing grows a couple better than like,
Because it is what it is.
You grow, you talk about it,
and every step, and you're supportive.
I've seen super ambitious, it could be a man,
could be a woman, like this.
But the spouse has got so much of that negative programming
and that poverty consciousness with money.
You will not believe the fight.
Like it's one step forward and two step backwards.
Because every single thing you try to do,
they don't understand.
So suddenly, you're like, "Oh, I want to get nicer shoes.
"I want to buy high quality."
"Are you cheating on me?"
(audience laughs)
Right?
Suddenly, you're like, "No, I want to go to a seminar."
"Why do you want to go to a seminar?
"You can't just read a book."
Right, and then suddenly when you're learning a skill,
our six-hour class,
"You're crazy."
Right?
"How come you don't hang out
"with our broke friends anymore?"
(audience laughs)
Because they're broke!
(audience laughs)
And then suddenly you do this to the broke friends.
(audience laughs)
Right?
Then they really hate you,
Because then you have no friends left.
You've pissed off everybody.
So all these things, it's just ...
It's tough, it's very tough.
So if you're single, make sure
you have that conversation early upfront.
In the beginning, the lust takes over, I get it.
We're all humans, right.
You'd better very early on in the dating stage
have the conversation with your girlfriend.
"Honey, I'm going to become wealthy.
"It's my number one focus.
"Are you on board,
"or are you not on board?"
If she thinks you're fucking crazy,
it's not going to work.
You got to find a new one.
You got to have someone who's saying,
"Good, I'll support you on that."
So set expectations.
This is who I am, this is what I'm striving for.
I'm not a typical boyfriend.
I'm very busy, I'm working on my business.
If you expect certain things
you expect from most boyfriends,
I'm not your guy.
Early upfront.
Set expectations, right.
Closing, it's called setting the agenda.
You got to set the agenda first,
here's how this call is going to go,
here's how this relationship is going to go.
Jennie, remember?
Can you go to the mike?
Round of applause!
(audience claps)
For Jennie, amazing, amazing, always amazing.
Really, I'm very, very grateful.
So we had that conversation early on, right?
- Yes, yes.
- And I remember you thought I was a little bit weird.
- Yeah, he was saying, "I'm going to become a millionaire.
"I'm going to get a $3 million house or a penthouse."
And then we're like,
"Dude, we're just dating a couple of days,
"why are you telling this?"
(audience laughs)
And I even had a conversation with his mom.
And we're like, "I think three million is a bit too much.
"How about just a million?"
But then he's like, "Yeah, whatever you guys talk about,
"I already made my decision."
- Just like, "I don't care what you say,
"just come along for the ride."
(audience laughs)
"Don't get in my way."
Now, however, I did tell her, like some things,
I'm not like a typical boyfriend, I'm busy, right.
And I said to her, and I asked her about her goals.
I asked about Jennie's goals.
"What are some of the goals you have on your list?"
And she told me a number of things, I remember one of them.
- I want to go to Disney
- Disney, go to Disney.
- Yeah, because I was 20 something, very young.
- Yeah, Japan.
She's five years younger than me, five years.
And then to go to Japan, right, I remember.
- [Jennie] I think so, yeah.
- [Dan] What else?
- I want to have my own closet.
- [Dan] Closet, yes, closet.
Something like that.
- Something like that.
- [Dan] Not a ton, like four or five things.
- But he's very smart because whenever he help --
- [Dan] Of course I'm very smart.
(audience laughs)
- [Jenny] Whenever -- - To have found you.
(laughs)
- Okay.
To achieve certain goal, he was saying,
"Baby, remember you told me you want to go Disney?
"Here we are!"
And I was like, "Oh, yeah, that's right!
"Okay, maybe you help me achieve my goals."
"Okay, maybe you helped me achieve my goals."
But I didn't think it, right.
subconsciously ...
(audience laughs)
- Brainwash thing?
What's the brainwash thing?
But really, I basically told her that,
"Hey, Jenny, what are the goals that you have?"
"Hey, Jennie, what are the goals that you have?"
But I said, "But I'm going to help you achieve all your goals.
"That's my promise to you."
And that was it.
I hit it one by one, one by one, one by one.
And that was it, right?
That's the way our relationship --
And now we set new goals as a couple,
what are we going to hit.
Now she knows my personality,
she kind of challenges my personality, right?
So when I say I want to do something, she's now,
and she's very supportive but she knows my personality,
she's like, "Oh, we'll see what happens."
- I was like "Show me."
- [Dan] Yeah, show me.