In this video, we're going to be talking about beauty
What it is, what it's not, and how you, even if you're a dude
can become more beautiful. Also known as being attractive, handsome,
or good-looking with the help of science.
Most of the information in this video is based on
a book called Survival of the Prettiest written by Nancy Etcoff
So first, what is beauty?
Well, you might have heard a phrase like
"It's something different for everyone" or "It's in the eye of the beholder"
Scientists even notice that when we start to talk about beauty
we stop describing what beauty is
and what the affect it has on others. For example
people say things like "I can't define it, but I know it when she walks into a room"
and
"it's when someone walks in the door and you almost can't breathe."
These are two famous quotes. There are also a ton of synonyms that agree:
Breathtaking, knockout, drop-dead gorgeous,
bombshell, stunner, ravishing. In fact
the absence of your response to someone who is beautiful
is actually a sign of profound depression.
Your brain just doesn't get excited when it should.
Beauty is more about your response to it than it is a characteristic of
that person. Is beauty really in the eye of the beholder?
Well, science says otherwise. We can prove
that beauty isn't a social construct, but that it's a
measurable thing. Actually, I'm gonna release a series
about personality. I think it's going to be about 20 videos long.
But one thing that's important in science is that we can
measure something throughout time, and across
every instance of its occurrence.
and beauty does this. So, there are two main studies
in the book that help prove this, and they both have to do with babies.
So in the first study, researchers got a group of babies
under six months old.
Why under six you ask? Because they didn't want the babies having
any cultural influence, and they wanted to make sure beauty was
something that was human, not something that was only found in the USA
or a first world country. Anyway, they somehow got babies
to look at faces in a somewhat experimental way.
They found that babies looked at beautiful faces longer than ugly faces.
And not just a little bit either. It was like a significant
matter of time.
Now, the second study was also on babies but it's a little
bit more harsh. Scientists studied
a mother's behavior toward her child based on
the baby's rated attractiveness, and sadly
if the baby was likely to be rated as ugly, the mother
actually spent less time holding them, and also the mother reported
higher stress trying to take care of the child. This kind of
study makes me wonder how it went down.
"Hey, uhh... I see you have a baby there. We're doing a study...
...on ugly babies. Would you wanna participate?"
So my first tip is to have big eyes and a small mouth and nose. Through babies, we can learn a lot. Like
we can learn that what we call cute are literally things that
look like babies. And why is this?
Well, scientists say we are predetermined to like things with big eyes,
a tiny mouth and nose, and chubby cheeks.
And here's maybe one reason why: Infants would die if
we didn't care for them, so they better be irresistible.
In fact, ugly babies are more likely to be
victims of child abuse. Another thing about babies that I
thought was interesting, is almost all cute babies had a similarity.
The people in the family all said that the baby
looked like the father, even if the baby was a baby girl.
You might be asking, "I wonder why this happens?"
And you might be questioning if you've ever heard of it before.
Well, it might be impossible to know why
it happens, but here's what the book suggests: When you pop out
of your mom, you gotta make sure your mom and dad can feed you,
give you love and take care of you. So you hack into your mom's
biological systems by having big eyes, chubby cheeks, and a small, cute mouth.
That doesn't work on dads. Instead, you have to look
like him, so all the family members say "He looks just like you!"
And maybe you really do. Well, this gets dad
invested and makes him think that he's truly yours.
Because think about it,
100 years ago, we didn't have DNA testing
and we really couldn't tell if the baby was yours or not
no matter how much someone may have promise
Tip number 2 is to BE AVERAGE
Now this tip is a little bit weird
and you might not even be able to do anything about it
but, here's how it works
So, someone took a bunch of psychopath faces
and blended them together into a single face
the face was the average of a bunch of psychopaths
So what would you expect? We get a very handsome man
Isn't that weird? So someone else took this and
and they went a little step further
They took 32 random faces and average them
by blending them all together
and what do you know? Another handsome face
We can also do this with woman faces
and get an average beautiful face
For some reason, beauty seems to be just averageness
Now, I'm gonna try to attempt to explain it
with two simple stories in nature
The first one was that there was a study done on bird wing length
and how long those birds live
In general,
the more average that a bird wing length was, the longer the bird live.
They said that the lesser died in storms and the lesser was eaten by predators
WHY?
Well, if you have extra long wings
or maybe super short wings
I would assume that maybe you have a genetic mutation
or an error that cause to that
and the bird was less aerodynamic
and wasn't as efficient in flying
So, in average wing length means that you can live longer
Now, what about zebras?
now the book doesn't really talk about this but
I think it's basically the same thing
See, zebras don't have black and white stripes for camouflage obviously
they have them to blend in
and we know this, because if you paint a red dot on a zebra
or you tag its ear
It would be the first zebra to get eaten
Why?
Because lion and other predators can actually
focused on that single zebra and catch it
You know the saying "A man who chases two rabbits catches none."
Well, its true
and it applies to zebras
Theirs stripes make them look like a huge herd
So an average zebras will live longer
while a zebra without stripes, or maybe even three legs
or maybe even a red dot on it, will not live long at all
So, as I end this tip
you should aim for an average face if you want to be attractive
Because it seems to be a sign of health
If your face is average,
there are no genetic mutation or biological error
and you seem safer
thus, more likely to be an investing mate to a woman.
Tip number 3 is to BE HEALTHY
on the same note, you should try to be healthier
and there are a ton of reasons for this
But, you should know that being extra healthy
doesn't necessarily set you apart
But there seems to be a line that
you have to at least cross
between being healthy and being gross
you need to cross that minimum line to be acceptable
and you gonna accomplish this by taking shower daily
brushing your teeth, basic fingernail etiquette
you know your basic hygiene stuff
and one prove of this is acne
acne to us
to most people, isn't really attractive
WHY?
Well, it's because acne is an inflammatory respond
of the skin to bacteria
that's all acne and pimples are
they are basically just bacteria
and this is why the most important tips to have less acne
is literally just to clean your face more and not touch it
The book notes that almost all beautiful people have no acne
because it's a sign of health
another sign of health is long lashes hair and long eye lashes
that's why most men are attracted women with these features
Another sign of health is symmetric
which seems to be very important to being beautiful
and I could tell you to be more symmetrical
but honestly
there really not much you can do other than plastic surgery
So, to recap tip number 3 is that
Being healthy usually means being attractive
Tip number 4 is to HANG OUT WITH BEAUTIFUL WOMEN
specifically if you're a guy
so I don't want to go into too much details here
but the book said that a man attractiveness rating by other woman
increase if he was pictured with other beautiful woman around him
A LOT
So if you're a guy and you convince a good looking woman
to be around you more often
your social status will raise
look at guy like Tai Lopez and Dan Bilzerian
who are always around beautiful women
Not only will it make you more attractive
but study say by having an attractive girl around you
will also cause other people to think
you're more confident, more intelligent and friendlier
So that's a cool little psychological hack
The next tip I have is to USE FASHION
Have you ever heard of 'clothes make the man'
Well, according to some studies,
It's not the clothes that make a man
It's what the clothes represent
high income,
social status,
and access to resources
In one particular study,
a ton of women were asked if they would consider marrying
a group of men based on some information that was given
and one of this pieces of information given was the salary
and you should know, not very many of the women
wanted to marry a guy with a roundness same income
and absolutely no woman in this study say that
they wanted to marry a guy with an income that was lower than theirs
the book mention fashion a little bit too
as you can use fashion as a way that show off your net worth
which is like statistically the main thing
that women look for in a man
even if they say that they don't
See, fashion is a way for high income individual and the elites
to distinguish themselves
and then you always see the middle class and the lower class
trying to imitate the same fashion
and this is why fashion is always changing
and there are so-called seasons of fashion
to be more attractive you should understand
what is in season and use it to your advantage
to make it look like you're super wealthy to be more attractive
The next tip I have for you is to adjust your BODY PROPORTIONS
so, there is a small catch to this one
if you're in a place where's there's a lot of feminine
the people in the geographic area will see excess fats
as more attractive. They are more attractive to obese people
even if they say it's unattractive, it will still persuade it
and have an affect on them
However, in most first world countries
and like in the United States
Obesity has such a great influence on people's perception of attractiveness
that either breast size, lower waist and hip ratios can compete
so you have to worry about any of the feminine issues in most countries if you're viewing this video
something else i wanna' note about beauty
is that it seems to transcend race
beautiful people of any race are beautiful when they are rated by people of any race
so, that's pretty cool and optimistic
i mean, it basically says beauty isn't racist
anyways, let's go onto waist and hip proportions
The book said that the most beautiful woman have a waist to hip ratio of .7
Barbie has a proportions of under .6
and you can really see what start to happen when you exaggerate these features
so if you're a girl, you can greatly improve your attractiveness
by slimming down your midsection and making your hips wider
which happens, and its a multi billion dollar industry
and for man, if you want to become more attractive
you wanna get that V shape down your back
and aim for a waist to hip proportions between .85 and .95
so your waist should be a tad bits smaller than your hip line
and for man, this can usually be done through weight lifting cardio and a decent diet
My 7th tip for you is to LOOK MORE DOMINANT
In one study, the more dominant a high school boy look, the more sexual active he was
but what does dominant mean? Well, according to the book, it means a strong jawline, more testosterone in your system
a high muscle of fat ratios, and a bit to do with your facial structure
but the most telling is the DOMINANT BODY LANGUAGE
which is something i'll get into the next tip
the people in the study also noted that man can be too masculine
and when it happens, they start to look like criminals
at least those were the people's words
they said that people who are rated too masculine were also those to be rated less honest
and have more negative personality traits
so again, this tip is to look more dominant
which you can control by going to the gym more, eating healthier and training your brain with the next tip
and the last tip is DOMINANT BODY LANGUAGE
now imma' not gonna go into any dominant body language in this video because
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So to sum up this video
Tip number 1 is to have a BIG EYES, SMALL MOUTH AND NOSE
Tip number 2 is to BE AVERAGE
Tip number 3 is to BE HEALTHY
Tip number 4 is to HANG OUT WITH BEAUTIFUL WOMAN
Tip number 5 is USE FASHION to your advantage
Tip number 6 is to ADJUST YOUR BODY PROPORTIONS
Tip number 7 is to LOOK MORE DOMINANT
and tip number 8 is to show DOMINANT BODY LANGUAGE
I hope you guys enjoy this video and if you have any questions, leave a comment below.
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR WATCHING.