Okay, so look! I'm sure I'm not the first to tell you that women love confidence.
Lack of confidence often stems from fear.
And letting fear win is not at all attractive and will prevent you from going after the women you want.
I'm Matt Artisan from The Attractive Man. And this is 12 Ways to Boost your Confidence with Women.
Let's jump right into it because these 12 tips are really effective.
And if you put them into practice, your confidence will elevate. Make sure to watch
the entire video because the last three are my favorite. #12 Learn How to Give Women Pleasure
Imagine you had the ability to satisfy any woman in bed. How would that make you feel?
How would that affect your psyche, right? If you walked into a room full of women, let's say at a bar, and
you knew that the woman that you choose to take home is gonna have the best night of her life. And that
making love with you, wouldn't compare to any other guy
she's ever had. That would definitely boost your confidence. Am I right?
Because most guys have no idea what they're doing in the bedroom and most girls are left unsatisfied.
So, practice the skill and arm yourself with techniques for giving women pleasure in bed.
#11 Lift Heavy Weights This will boost your confidence threefold.
First of all, testosterone is released when you lift heavy weights and with more testosterone flowing
through your system, you'll have more drive to push through your fears.
Second, the healthier that you feel, of course, the better you feel. And the better
you look, more women will be checking you out, which will be a confidence booster. Finally, the stronger
you are, the more confident you'll feel as men. We tend to correlate strength with status. Our brains are
constantly comparing and sizing us up with other men around. Plus when you're stronger,
you'll feel like you have more ability to protect women.
So, if you're not already doing it, start lifting heavy weights. #10 Learn How to Fight
Here's the deal, women don't sleep with cowards. They sleep with men that make them feel safe
since women are smaller than men, their
instincts cause them to choose men that make them feel safe and who can protect them from danger.
I know we don't live in a particularly dangerous world now, but it's how our brains evolved,
you know, tens of thousands of years ago.
So, if a woman knows that you can fight, she's more likely to be attracted to you. Plus, just knowing that you can fight will
skyrocket your confidence because people will no longer intimidate you. Personally, I prefer Krav Maga.
#9 Dress Like a Winner Don't you feel like a stud every time you put on a
well-fitted suit? That's because whenever you step into a high-status outfit, you get a shot of
serotonin, which is a happy chemical associated with status. In other words,
you can trick your body into feeling high status just by looking the part.
So, dress like you're super successful and you'll feel more powerful. Plus, women will notice you and they'll
check you out a lot more. Thus, giving you an extra boost in confidence.
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#8 Accomplish your Goals and Live with Purpose Making goals for yourself and not just accomplishing
those goals but even just getting closer to accomplishing those goals is proven to release
dopamine and make you feel good.
I recommend you pick a big goal. Something that you know will boost your confidence
such as getting a raise or finding a new job or starting a business.
Or learning a new skill or getting a certain amount of dates or getting a girlfriend.
Then, just chunk it down into smaller,
daily or weekly goals. And as you get closer and closer to that bigger goal,
your confidence will increase. On top of that, have a clear purpose and mission for your life.
What is your driving force? Why were you put on this planet?
Maybe, it's to raise a family or start a business or just help people. Somehow, maybe, help feed the hungry or
start a rock band or become a politician and change the government. For example,
my mission is to help guys become the attractive man that we're born to be and find that person inside them.
So what's your mission? When you have a clear picture of what that is and our daily trying to achieve it,
you'll be living a life of purpose and confidence will be a natural byproduct.
#5 Master your Body Science has proven that your posture affects the way
you feel and your level of confidence.
Studies show that by posing your body in a way that emulates power, your testosterone
increases and your stress hormones decrease. For example, stand up tall with your head up and your
shoulders back and notice how you feel. After a couple minutes of being in this pose,
you'll feel more confident. People that are timid to make themselves look smaller. They hunched over cross their
arms, look down. Don't do this!
I recommend that you set a reminder in your phone to check your posture every day.
Confident and powerful people have an open body, head up, eyes straight and straight back. On top of that,
you can do the "victory pose" which has been proven to increase testosterone.
I mean, think about it anytime you've ever done that pose.
It was when you were feeling really confident, right? Like when you made a shot in basketball or won the game or
got a raise or got good grades or succeeded in something.
Well, those same feelings get associated with that pose. Next time you feel timid
when you enter a bar or club, just throw up the victory pose as soon as you enter the place. That might sound a
little weird to do, but you'll feel great . Women will notice and you're already getting out of your comfort zone.
Which is always a good thing.
And by the way, getting out of your comfort zone can definitely increase confidence as well.
#6 Have Selective Memory
Guys that lack confidence tend to dwell on past failures instead of focusing on past successes.
For example, they don't go approach that beautiful woman sitting at the cafe because they keep thinking
about the last time that they got rejected.
From this point on, I want you to forget your failures and focus on your successes.
That doesn't mean to completely ignore your failures. Just learn from the mistake and then try again.
Remember there is no failure. There's only feedback. That's so cliche, but it's true.
And here's another cliche "the path of success is paved with failures."
So don't worry about the interactions that don't go your way.
They will happen more often than not. Just learn from them and then focus on your success. By the way,
if you want all these confidence boosters plus seven additional ones in a convenient PDF then, make sure to
download my free Confidence Cheat Sheet. There's a link down in the description.
So, go check that out after the video. #5 Conquer your Insecurities
What's stopping you from having a ten level of confidence?
What is it that you're ashamed of? Is it a lack of money? Is it the way you look is it your height?
Whatever it is, conquer it. For example, if you feel that
your height is preventing you from dating beautiful women, just find evidence of short men dating beautiful
women. For example, this is my buddy Ike. He's five three and he's dated a lot of beautiful women even
before he was successful. If you're ashamed of the way you look, then get in shape, buy better clothes, work on
your style, groom yourself. And realize that the way you look is only a small fraction
of attraction when it comes to women. If you see your dream girl out there as a 10,
but you only see yourself as a 7, then it won't work. You have to see yourself as a 10 as well.
So do the necessary things to make you see yourself as a 10.
#4 Visualize Success
World champion athletes visualize success. Do you? This is a secret for sports psychologists because
sometimes you just have to see it in your mind before you can do it and achieve it in real life.
Studies show that the same neurons are activated in the brain when you visualize the
activity as opposed to actually doing the activity. For example, if you're afraid of approaching beautiful
women, visualize and see yourself
confidently approaching and flirting with beautiful women.
I know it might sound crazy, but your subconscious mind doesn't know
the difference between you doing it in your mind and you doing it in real life. And this can really boost your
confidence. If you've seen yourself doing it in your mind over and over again.
#3 Get Centered Whenever you feel rattled, take a second to get
grounded and centered. Here's what you do:
Take a few deep breaths.
Make sure to have a long exhale because the exhalation is when the body
relaxes. Your exhale should be at least 5 seconds. Bring your thoughts back to the present moment.
Stop worrying about what she might be thinking about you. Stop worrying about what you will say or what she
will say. It's that worrying about past failures or future worst-case scenarios that brings anxiety.
So just focus your thoughts, your attention and your whole awareness on your breathing and what's
happening in the present moment.
#2 Develop Jedi-like Mental Strength With a strong mind,
you can actually turn off fear. Recent scientific studies show that certain mindfulness excercises
help control our fear center of the brain known as the amygdala.
Have you ever noticed how Buddhist monks always seem so calm and carefree?
That's because they have the mental strength to not let anything faze them.
Here's an example of how you can strengthen your mind:
Sit back relax and close your eyes, focus only on your breathing and count to one hundred breaths.
Every time you lose track or another thought enters your mind, start over. Doing this exercise as a daily
meditation will give you supreme mental strength.
And #1 Destroy Fear Through Action
At some point, you just have to do it.
Real transformation happens when you push yourself out of your comfort zone. Every time that you're afraid to
approach a beautiful woman but you do it anyway, you cultivate courage and confidence. In fact, every time you
do something that you're afraid to do
that's outside your comfort zone, your comfort zone expands. And what was once difficult becomes easy.
So just start off with easy approaches like asking for directions and then just keep building up to bolder and
bolder approaches. This is called progressive desensitization.
And it's one of the best and fastest ways to overcome fear. And our Attractive Man
Academy program will walk you step-by-step through this process.
If you aren't in the academy, definitely check it out, man!
Because not only do we give you weekly lessons and missions to help you overcome your fears and explore
your confidence with women, but we also have weekly training calls where you can get any of your questions
answered and get live feedback on your approaches where we break down your approach live on the call. And
sometimes the lack of confidence when it comes to approaching women has to do with not knowing what to
say. So, download my Free Conversation Cheat Sheet that gives you
exactly what to do and what to say to spark attraction and make her want you.
I'll give you my top conversation starters for any situation.
Simple ways to keep the conversation going so you never run out of things to say.
Fun games to play to create a fun flirty vibe and ways to escalate the
interaction and more. And if you want a copy of the Free Confidence Cheat Sheet,
there's a link for that down in the description as well.
And if you're interested in live training, were we take you out and show you how to meet women in person. Then,
check out our bootcamp schedule and get a free consultation with one of our team members.
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My name is Matt Artisan from The Attractive Man, and I'll see you in the next video!