Gentlemen, this is Mantelligence.
Today we are showing you the top 11 mistakes that “nice guys” make when trying to get
with a girl And because we don’t want you to wind up
in the nice guy trap we’re also showing you the 1 thing that
will keep you from ever being the “nice guy” in the first place.
So...to make sure you don’t get painted as the nice guy, here are the top 11 nice
guy mistakes + the number 1 thing you can do to avoid if from happening to you.
#11. They’re Nothing But “Yes” Men
In case you don’t know what it is, a yes
man is a guy who automatically agrees on everything ...instead of stating his true opinion or
his real feelings.
Whether it’s friends, co-workers or classmates, a yes man follows
the herd, and never make his voice known ...all because the only thing he worries about,
is being liked.
And while being a yes man might be a safe option for being included in a group,
when it comes to girls...it definitely does NOT help you stand out or seem interesting.
#10. They Fail to Flirt
If there’s one thing that immediately lands
a guy in nice-guy territory, it’s being too scared (or nice) to flirt
in the first place.
So what does the nice guy do instead of making his intentions clear through flirting?
He simply continues being a polite, pleasant guy, and hopes that one day
...the girl he likes will simply change her mind and finally see him as more, than just
a friend.
#9. They Don’t Set Boundaries
While it’s absolutely true that women love
a guy who can go with the flow, they also lose respect for a guy who doesn’t
ever establish his personal boundaries.
Whether it’s because a guy feels like he has to always be totally fun and spontaneous,
or because he feels like he has to do everything a girl wants to do in order to have a chance
with her, too many guys out there set aside their own
unique preferences just to impress a girl.
#8.They Don’t Tell Girls When They Like Them
And if you never tell the girl you like that
you actually like her, how do you expect her to know?
Because at the end of the day, ...girls are not mind-readers.
so even if you’re being as sweet as can be
...that does not mean a girl will automatically assume you like her.
So do yourself a favor, ...instead of only ever sending out ambiguous
signals, or not sending any at all, stop sitting on the sidelines and and at least
try to hint to a girl that you like her.
#7.They Feel Entitled
What may be the only thing less attractive
than entitlement in general, is when a guy feels entitled to a girl just
for being nice to her.
But just in case you need reminding: Simply being nice is a bare minimum requirement
for getting a girl, and is definitely NOT something that makes
you better or different from other guys.
#6. They Throw Shade
While some of the other things might keep
a nice guy from gaining points, being a jealous person who criticizes the
other guys she might be interested in ...is something that might actually make a
guy lose points with a girl.
That’s because if you’re a “nice” guy who is too unconfident to make a move
himself, while also trying to keep her from getting
with other guys .that’s a winning recipe to make her think
you’re both unattractively shy AND resentful.
Guys, as a quick reminder: While most of the mistakes we’re talking about here can be
easily be avoided, The trick to avoid becoming the nice guy,
at the end of the video, is so effective… that we have to give it special attention.
So to make sure you don’t kill your chances by being the nice guy… be sure to watch
it.
Now let’s get back to the mistake with #5!
#5.They Mistake Niceness for Goodness
Even though they might seem awfully similar,
the main difference between a nice guy and a good guy,
is that a good guy doesn’t depend solely on niceness to get a girl.
Of course, a good guy is a kind-hearted, charming and respectful person,
...but because he doesn’t limit himself to just being “nice”
...he’s also got the kind of distinct personality that women really like to see.
#4. They Trust In the Friend Zone
With so many guys worried about ending up
in the friend zone, you’d think there wouldn’t be so many
who constantly find themselves there.
And while most women definitely want a guy they can also call a friend,
that does not mean that showing how great of a buddy you are
is the ticket to winning her over as a girlfriend.
#3. They Practice Transactional Niceness
To be fair, a lot of the guys who do this,
probably don’t even realize they’re doing it.
But unfortunately it’s true that for a lot of“nice guys” out there,
being nice is less about being a kind a decent person,
and more about using “niceness” to get something.
Which if you think about it, ...is probably one of the shadiest things
any person can do.
#2. They Misunderstand How to Respect Women
At the heart of it all, “nice guys” simply
don’t get how to respect women.
And as a result, that fundamentally takes them out of the running
with a lot of women.
You see, the problem is not that these guys don’t respect women,
it’s that they equate niceness with showing respect...
and get confused when being nice doesn’t actually work towards getting a girl to like
them.
#1. They’re Not Playful
Just like guys fail to flirt or make it clear
that they like a girl more than just a friend, they also forget to be playful and relaxed
around girls they like.
And how exactly does that lead to being a “nice guy?”
Well, if a guy isn’t being fun or playful, but still wants a girl to be around him,
he’ll often fall back on the safer, more boring option, which is just being nice.
The only problem is...when a girl has to choose between a fun guy and a nice guy,
9 times out of 10, she’s NOT going to choose the nice guy.
First of all: Not being the nice guy is NOT about “standing your ground” or disrespecting
anybody, and it also does NOT mean that women “just
like jerks.”
But what it does mean, is that if you want to be more than just the nice guy to a girl,
you’ve got to become more interesting.
And these easiest way to do that, is to just state your true opinion and how
you really feel about things.
If you don’t agree with something, say it.
If you don’t want to do something, do your own thing instead.
You may not get every girl you want, but we guarantee
...that showing, building on and improving your own unique personality,
will be infinitely more attractive to women, that just being another boing, generic nice
guy.
That’s 11 mistakes nice guys make and the 1 thing to do to prevent you from being the
nice guy yourself.
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