now the truth is whatever you do tells you what kind of person you are so if
you want to be a person with a lot of self-esteem you need to take repeated
actions that build that self-esteem so that you feel that you have esteem for
yourself because you observe yourself doing things that you have esteem for
so in this video I want to go over five habits that really helped me build my
self-esteem and I hope that will help you to to boost your self-esteem and
your confidence through simple actions in your everyday life and if you don't
know me yet my name is Stephan Erdman welcome to the channel I help
men attract women in a natural way in the 21st century
so consider subscribing and hitting the notifications button as well so in terms
of how your day will go and how much self-esteem you will feel and confidence
the most important time of the day is the morning that's right the very first
things you do in the day set you off in a certain direction in that direction
will carry on probably throughout your day so what I recommend strongly and my
first tip is to have a positive morning routine that sets you up for success and
that means of course that you start your day doing things that you know build
yourself as deep and set you up for a successful day and you avoid doing
things that you know lower your self-esteem and set you up for a bad day
lazy day whatever it is that you want to avoid so what is that for you here are
some examples from my own life I know that when I start the day with some
physical activity I tend to do a lot better during the day and I get into the
right mindset with a steam with confidence with an action
mindset so what I do personally is straight after I get out of bed if I'm
doing things right I do as many pushups as I can right in front of the bed okay
that tends to be around forty fifty and then during the day I tend to return to
these push-ups and do a few more and then I end up with a total of hopefully
around 120 up to 150 another great habit that I've built for the morning is my
morning smoothie I make a very specific smoothie for myself almost literally
every day I'm craving it now it's such an ingrained habit I'm a link to a video
year where I made a video about the recipe for that smoothie that sets me
off really well for work now those are some habits I've taken up that really
worked for me on the other hand there are some habits that I sometimes fall
into that don't work for me and I can tell straight away how my day pans out
worst one is waking up and instantly looking at my phone and scrolling
through feeds and things Twitter Instagram Facebook whatever it is taking
in information that actually is not relevant and a percent to what I want to
do in the day that doesn't help me get into a mode where I have self-esteem and
confidence and take action because for me when I'm in action mode I develop
more self-esteem so what are your habits that you have in the morning that you
could build into a routine that supports you that make you feel good that make
you feel like you respect yourself that set you up for success what are some
habits that you know you should avoid in the morning are you somebody that
Scrolls through endless things on your phone is there a way for example that
you could stop yourself from doing that by maybe putting your phone out of your
bedroom and putting it somewhere else but you can't straightaway pick it up
before you even get up there are ways of making that happen so try to give
yourself a regular morning routine that supports you the second thing that works
really well for me that I recommend to you if you want to build
more self-esteem and confidence is a have achieved list now most people have
a to-do list and even if you're going into work and maybe some of the jobs
you're having to do during the day or you want to do during the day are sort
of imposed on you by your boss or whoever there are still things that you
may want to think about that you want to achieve for yourself during the day and
having an have achieved list which you basically write down at the end of the
day is a really useful way of giving yourself a self-esteem boost at the end
of the day very often people forget to actually acknowledge the things that
they've done well during the day the things that they've achieved because
we're always like oh I've got to do this got to do this got to do this got to do
this but we don't really take the time to think about what we have done and
when you think about what you have done you're also giving yourself that boost
and that positive effect of feeling proud of yourself and feeling esteem
because of the things that you've done during the day so play around with us I
highly recommend this it sounds a bit counterintuitive but it actually makes
you more productive because it gets you focused on that moment of having
achieved things and that good feeling and it reiterates that in your mind and
then the back of your mind for the next day as well a third key strategy that I
recommend to you very highly and I'm sure you know this is important it's
just sometimes we need to remind us for this is if you want to build self-esteem
and confidence you need to eat and drink like a person that respect themselves
and their bodies so you need to eat and drink food and liquids that support you
that make you feel good that make you feel strong and healthy that are good
for you and you need to avoid drink and food that basically doesn't support you
that does make you feel good and healthy and that
you don't hold in esteem because if you're eating things that you know make
you feel bad but just feel great at the time you know incredible tasting sweets
or too much crisps or junk foods or stuff that make you feel lazy tired fat
whatever it is then you know you will destroy your self-esteem because you
obviously don't esteem yourself or your body enough to avoid doing that if
you're able to make a commitment you only put stuff in your mouth that you
know makes you feel good that long-term gives you benefits that support you then
that's going to boost yourself esteem of course and your confidence my fourth
point is about people if you choose to be around people that don't treat you
with respect that don't handle you in a way that you would expect then you're
obviously lowering yourself esteem so to make a conscious effort to have people
in your life that treaty with respect that boost your self esteem by being
respectful by being the kind of people you respect yourself and that treats you
in the way that you want to be treated is of course a great way to boost your
self-esteem and your confidence and keeping people around that don't treat
you with respect that put you down that maybe half bully you that make you feel
smaller that want to get one over on you over time or that are just not adding to
your life positively is a way to lower your self-esteem and to keep it down so
it really is important to clean your surroundings of negative influences and
of course in the in terms of dating it also means sometimes cutting off
things that you know where there's a girl that you're very attracted to on
the one hand but on the other hand she's not acting in the right way and you know
it's not helping you you need to know where the lie
is where you're saying well actually she's not acting in the way that serves
me at this stage and she is treating me in a way that doesn't work for my higher
level of self-esteem so I'm going to move on it's not always easy to
understand but it's really important and the better you get at this the more you
can build your self-esteem other people are hugely important in our lives often
subconsciously so it's important really important to manage that carefully and
lastly this is a great sort of self audit in terms of what you do and what
you say I love this it's so simple anybody can remember it it requires a
lot of conscious work in your day-to-day life but when you do this and you
actually keep doing it you notice a huge shift in the mindset in the way you go
about things sometimes you do surprising things and it can be quite amazing what
can happen and that's the following ask yourself no matter what you do in
your everyday life what do I really want to do now and what do I really want to
say now if you're about to speak let's say you meet somebody that you haven't
seen for a long time usually we just say the things that we usually say ask
yourself what do I really want to say to this person right now and you find
yourself thinking of something else just because of the word really what do I
really want to do today what do I really want to do when I meet this person how
do I really want to handle the situation when you do follow up on your really
action then you notice it builds self-esteem because you're getting truer
to your core and you're doing usually things that are sort of a level above in
terms of your awareness and your consciousness so this is one of my
favorite ways of really challenging myself to be better
in my everyday life so those are five strategies that have worked for me
incredibly well of course I can't always remember them all you weren't but if
there's one or two that really speak to you start with them and then come back
to this video and go for the next one and see how far that can take you now if
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