This is Charlie from Charisma on Command and today I'm gonna be doing another video breakdown
for you this time on body control and gesticulation and for this I have picked who I personally
think is the best person that I've ever seen at using their body to communicate and that
person is Tony Robbins.
So in this video you're gonna see his seated so he doesn't even have a full range of walking
back and forth to control a space or a stage. But I want you to notice how he uses his body
to communicate charismatically the things that he wants to get across.
First thing that you'll notice, I think this is potentially the most important thing when
you think about using your body is that the energy that you feel and the way that you
use your body are totally linked, right? So it's very, very hard to sit still with your
hands glued to your side and be excited yourself and make other people feel excited versus
if you have your arms moving about freely and your walking and controlling a space,
you're likely to feel an increase in energy personally and you're gonna be able to transmit
that to the people around you much better. So watch one how high energy Tony is and how
that is completely reflected and mirrored in the way that he uses his body.
So notice the incredible range of gesticulation that Tony Robbins has, most people stand when
they talk with their hands sort of bent in 90 degree angle at their elbow and they have
one gesticulation and it's like an unfolding of their hands and like maybe a point with
a finger. Tony touches his head, moves his arms from above the elbow, wave them out completely,
he opens his palm, whispers into his hands. All of these different things that he does
make him much, much, much more engaging at the speaker. So continue to watch, just one
of wide variety of ways he has to use his body.
So one of the things you're gonna notice here is how though he's not standing, Tony is forward
and back in his seat. By controlling the amount of space between you and your audience you
keep them on your toes. Now you don't wanna get right up at somebody's grill necessarily
but I can promise you that if you do they're going to pay attention and feel your presence
and then if you pull back, you can actually maintain that attention. So notice how Tony
goes forward and back in his seat and how it keeps the two guys that he's speaking to
incredibly engaged.
So this is something else that a lot of people don't do that Tony does. He's got snaps, claps,
chest pats -- all these little things that create a pop of noise. That cause attention
to him and any room when you're doing that and I've seen people do this, it makes eyes
go to you and all of a sudden people who might not even be listening to your conversation
are going to go, "Who was that guy? Who was that girl?" They're gonna be intrigue by what
you are saying because you are making very unique noises with those snaps and those claps.
The second thing is, notice how open Tony's palms are the majority of the time. He keeps
his palms open they guy's about 6 foot 7, so he's an intimidating figure, and one of
the ways you communicate very quickly that you don't need harm is by revealing your palms
to people and just notice with almost all of his gesticulation you can see his palms.
Last thing I'll say just in terms of the wide, wide range of things that Tony can do, the
way that he uses his fingers and this sounds crazy but most people have one way of using
their wrist and their fingers and it's either incredibly loose, or incredibly rigid and
tight. And you'll see that the way that Tony uses his wrists, his forearms and his fingers
is completely contextual to what he's saying. When he wants to make a serious point, he
sort of flexes them right? And when he is talking about being light and fluffy and not
believing something he's got this looseness there.
You don't wanna just stick with just one or the other, typically speaking the flexness
is gonna communicate, seriousness is gonna communicate, pay attention but it can run
flat if that's all you have. That looseness communicates whimsy, it's communicates that
something is not serious but it can be seen as very soft if that's all that you have.
Having a range of them that match the things that you're saying is where you become an
incredibly, incredibly dynamic and charismatic speaker, just watch a little bit more.
So you can see there he waves his hand around loose and then tight from when he's making
that, that shape from his brain to the sky. So if you found this interesting and you want
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