hello so in this video i'm going to explain why driving anxiety is not caused by driving
this is something i often talk about in my videos and it often causes many arguments and
people say you're wrong because driving anxiety must be to do with driving because it's driving
no that's incorrect okay as i've said many times before driving anxiety is a symptom
think of it like when you go and see a doctor and i'll use a real life example when i saw a doctor
two years ago he was march late very late march 2020 and i was in the bathroom i looked in the
mirror and i saw something quite strange inside my mouth i thought hmm what's that
when i opened my mouth i found this massive lump of flesh growing at the back of my throat
long story short one of my tonsils had flared up and when i went to see a doctor a specialist
at the hospital they said to me oh well that can be a sign of something else because he could be
cancerous probably not then he wasn't but they said he could be so you see my tonsil swelling up
was a symptom of another problem maybe but the tonsil itself wasn't the problem it had
swollen to highlight something else was wrong and it's the same with your driving anxiety you see
when you go out driving and you're panicking and you're freaking out and you're having
panic attacks and sweating then you feel like your whole life's falling apart because you can't drive
it isn't the driving what's happening is something from your past is firing off when you get in a
car and it's stopping you from driving now this emotion this feeling this sensation you've got
that's causing all the problems has got nothing to do with driving think of it like this one day when
you're five years old you're running along and you trip over a curb and you really hurt your knee
something from that experience can be repressed so maybe you're with your parents and you've got
a very strict parent who's always said you can't be scared it's wrong to cry you can't show emotion
you can't cry in the street stop crying everyone's looking at you so you repress that feeling
20 or 30 years later when you're driving for whatever reason it could be that maybe you
hit the curb with a car's tyre and you remind you of that thing about tripping over the curb
sometimes it could be a smell that's in the air maybe back on that day years ago you were by a hot
dog van but when you're driving one day you smell hot dogs and for whatever reason no one knows
exactly how this works but your mind starts giving you driving anxiety and it thinks hey what pain
can i give them that will stop them driving oh i know there's that thing from years ago when they
hurt their knee and it's still locked away i'm going to grab onto that and i'm going to put it
on to driving now i know that sounds wacky and i didn't believe any of this stuff when i trained
i thought are these people serious how can tripping over a curb and hurting your knee
and give you driving anxiety it made no sense whatsoever and this is the whole
point it won't make sense because the problem is in your subconscious with your logical mind
your conscious mind which is what i'm talking with now everything makes sense two plus two is four
bananas are yellow or green the grass is green the sky is blue
that's because you're thinking with your logical conscious mind the problem is in your subconscious
which is all completely illogical think of it like this one of the strongest feelings of all
is love and think about when you love someone can you logically explain it can you say
i love this person because why yes they might be attractive or whatever but can you really explain
that feeling where when you're with them you feel so much different to when you're with anyone else
it's just a feeling it's an emotion you can't put it into words and you notice then when i'm
going like you can't put it into words do you know what that is when you're trying to explain it and
you can't really think of it well what happens is you're going from your conscious mind because you
start searching for solutions in your conscious mind why do you love them i can't find the
answer in my conscious mind so now i have to go subconscious and that's where you start thinking
and that is what trance is in hypnosis trance is it's simply when you're searching your
subconscious it's not about oh i'm in a trance i'm a zombie i'm in control i can control people's
minds that's rubbish okay hypnosis is simply you thinking about something and thinking um
that's hypnosis these people who swear that they won't do hypnosis because it's evil and god won't
let them into heaven or whatever so what, you're not allowed to think? Because all you're doing is
thinking hypnosis is just when you think about something and you think um who sung that song
yeah that song i like that song who sung it and you can't think what it is and then half
an hour later oh i know who sung that song he was because your mind gives you the answer that's all
hypnosis is it's not about this mind control and evil hypnotists and all that rubbish it's
just remembering things that are hidden in your subconscious so that's why i'll say driving isn't
the issue and it's so funny when i see people who swear that driving can be fixed by driving and you
know these people online who do videos driving instructors i'm gonna get rid of your anxiety
and they get in the car how do you feel now oh i feel fine i actually feel better i think what
a load of rubbish the reason they feel better is because they're with someone in the car take that
person out the car and they'll fall apart i can promise you that driving anxiety has got nothing
to do with driving and if you want to get rid of it all you need to do and it's quite simple it's
hard to do in terms of my job i've got a lot to do but all you have to do is find the trapped emotion
how would you do that well the more you think about it the further away it will get because
like trying to remember who sung a song the more you try and think of it you rack your brain i
can't think who sung that song you won't find it because the more you focus on it the more it hides
so how do you do it then? Get in touch with me through my website 1stdrive.com and I'll
show you check out these other videos on the screen for more help with your fear of driving
thanks for watching and as always I'll see you again soon for more videos